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I am throwing a birthday party for my kindergartner at our house this year. Usually we have outdoor parties, but she was a winter baby and it's still very snowy here. So it's inside our house. I prefer to invite the whole class for my kids' first party, because they haven't really formed their "permanent" friends yet and I think it's a good way to meet the other parents.
I am a little concerned about a few of the kids. Two or three of them seem to have serious behavior problems at school, and I don't know if that could become a problem at the birthday party. I would prefer not to experience violent or destructive outbursts, but this is a frequent occurrence at school. I am kind of banking on not having any problems, because it's a party. It's all fun. They wouldn't have anything to protest, right? Then again, I can't predict their triggers. Perhaps an activity or another child will frustrate them. Who knows?
My husband thinks I should "blacklist all the brats" and not give them an invitation. I understand his perspective, but I also don't want to alienate any of the kids. They all seem to get along with my daughter, and I'm afraid that getting left out of a birthday party that the rest of the class got an invitation for will be a blow. I don't know. I've kind of been watching how the other parents handle it, but so far, all the big birthdays have been at public venues and all the home-based parties have been small and select. I thought that perhaps requiring the parents to stick around would help, but who knows what kind of families they come from. Maybe I don't want them around either.
Am I being paranoid? I just have visions of these kids getting into bloody brawls, or vandalizing the cake, or throwing things through the window. (Some of the outbursts I've seen in class aren't too far off.) I don't really want my house trashed, and I'd prefer not to have to discipline kids. But I suspect I'm overreacting and that these kinds of things don't typically happen. Any thoughts? Experiences?
I am a little concerned about a few of the kids. Two or three of them seem to have serious behavior problems at school, and I don't know if that could become a problem at the birthday party. I would prefer not to experience violent or destructive outbursts, but this is a frequent occurrence at school. I am kind of banking on not having any problems, because it's a party. It's all fun. They wouldn't have anything to protest, right? Then again, I can't predict their triggers. Perhaps an activity or another child will frustrate them. Who knows?
My husband thinks I should "blacklist all the brats" and not give them an invitation. I understand his perspective, but I also don't want to alienate any of the kids. They all seem to get along with my daughter, and I'm afraid that getting left out of a birthday party that the rest of the class got an invitation for will be a blow. I don't know. I've kind of been watching how the other parents handle it, but so far, all the big birthdays have been at public venues and all the home-based parties have been small and select. I thought that perhaps requiring the parents to stick around would help, but who knows what kind of families they come from. Maybe I don't want them around either.
Am I being paranoid? I just have visions of these kids getting into bloody brawls, or vandalizing the cake, or throwing things through the window. (Some of the outbursts I've seen in class aren't too far off.) I don't really want my house trashed, and I'd prefer not to have to discipline kids. But I suspect I'm overreacting and that these kinds of things don't typically happen. Any thoughts? Experiences?