Black Men

[Gardener101]

How dare you tell her that her hurt feelings are wrong.
They are her HONEST feelings about the subject based on abuse she has received since she was five years old.
The OPster has had years of sampling. From her data she has reached her conclusions and developed her response.
Did you not notice that this 21 year old woman mentioned her babies? Those guys may be worse than mere jerks...

Definition of insanity - doing the same thing again and again expecting a different result.

Hate, however, is a soul sickness.
But the op is about revulsion not hate.

Just to clarify:

I am aware of the OP from her posts on the singles forum.

1. She is black

2. She does not have any child. The babies she refers to are her nephew/neices.

 

[Solaris]

Thank you for the information. At least none of the men left her with a child of her own to raise.

 

[favoredbyGod]

I understand where you are coming from, but just try to think of it as, you just haven't found the right guy yet. Maybe Black men are the worst one in your eyes because you just keep getting the "sorry, no good" men.
Good and Evil comes in all races.

Just look inside of yourself and find out, why do you keep being attracted to the same type of men? ( their characteristics)

 

[KarrieTex]

No, she does not need a theapist. She needs to go before God and seek forgiveness and healing. Christians go into theaphy is a cop out because the root problem is sin which is unforgiveness.

With that said, there is good and bad in every race, whether it is black, white or alien. Everyone has their own faults and yes, all races do commit sin. I dated a man who was white, and was hurt, but guess what? I forgave him because he had issues--and a lot of them in the church.

And yes, I would date anyone, whether he is black, white or whatever, but as long as he is a committed christian and accountable to our brothers and sisters in the Lord, that is all that's matters.

I just hope my sister, you seek forgiveness and repentance.

Have an issue here with therapy. I am sorry to say but you are WAY off base here.

Some issues that Christian have are brought on by sin in their lives but if they were abused in any form or violated that is not their own doing.

Comments such as yours almost give me the same feeling that OP is expressing. That type of narrowminded backwards thinking is what enables unhealthy thinking to go on.

From what I read there is a lot of pain, hurt, anger and bitterness which is normally brought on not by her SIN but by someone else's sin.

And you sir need to ask for her forgiveness, because you do not know the whole story to understand why she is feeling that way. The best advice would be to ask God to heal her heart and lead her to where she needs to be in His plan for her.

 

[Solaris]

Kryssian, Just be stil and feel your inner truths. If you do and you understand the truth of you, then you will be guided to the right people by your inner light. That is why God put it there.

So, you do don't care for a certain type of man. There are many other types to choose from.

 

[moicherie]

I hope this lady found the healing that she needs. As Christians anytime we get to the 'we hate all' ____ and come with the 'all _______ are like ___ ' mindset then we have a problem that needs dealing with whether its therapy or on our knees before God. This is not about preference - if she was white and made thisecomments about all black men we would be appalled. God is no respector of persons and as His so called followers neither should we be - Christanity + Racial.Ethnic Prejudice = Fooling oneself.

 

[Laurie919]

I have worked in plants/refinerys most of my adult life. In doing this I have worked with mostly black men. I really have to agree with a lot of what you have said. Even the ones who are pastors and decons have girlfriends. It is the most crazy thing I have ever seen. They really are a different type of person. I don't mean this bad at all and am not trying to offend ANYONE.

 

[moicherie]

I have worked in plants/refinerys most of my adult life. In doing this I have worked with mostly black men. I really have to agree with a lot of what you have said. Even the ones who are pastors and decons have girlfriends. It is the most crazy thing I have ever seen. They really are a different type of person. I don't mean this bad at all and am not trying to offend ANYONE.

I'm sorry as a black women I take offense at your comments. Black men who cheat are no different than white men who cheat, asian men, latino men, etc. I have been dealing with a lot of white men at work for 20 years and the negative things I see I do not then assume my white male coworkers are representative of all white men. Your experience is valid but the men you work with are not members of the 'We represent all black men 'society. Racial stereotyping should have no place in any intelligent Christians values. I 'm sure the KKK do not represent the views of all white Americans do they? Of course not!

If this topic is going to descend into a racist all black men are _________ rant then maybe its time to close it.

 

[jsu5381m]

Maybe I need thearapy as well too as I also have issues with African-Americans.

 

[moicherie]

Maybe I need thearapy as well too as I also have issues with African-Americans.

f they are negative issues I suggest you take your prejudices to God in prayer, heaven will not be segregated no matter how many 'Christians' may wish it to be.
BTW Jesus Christ was not Caucasian and God ain't white either.

 

[ulu]

It seems to me that whenever things get so bad that it makes you start thinking some group is just "all bad" , it's actually God trying to show you something within yourself that's somehow askew. This is not to say in this case that you are at fault for anything that's happened, but some way of thinking you have is possibly out of God's will/plan and he's pointing this out to you, getting your attention through heartache. Not a pleasant experience, but definitely one that's making you think and question why things have gone down as they have.
I have one thought that immediately came to mind reading your post, but a public forum isn't the best place for theorizing.

Ask God,assuming you're a believer, what he's trying to show you through these harsh experiences.There's a great risk here that you can become bitter,closed,deceived etc, but as with most risks, there is the potential for great gain to come of it in the way of changed thinking, clarity, understanding, and healing. I can guarantee you God isn't saying that all black men are bad, or that you deserve what has happened.


Especially now, run to God with your questions/concerns, not away from him.

 

[moicherie]

Beautifully written, Krysstian- Amen!