Blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!

[miss-a]

Is it too soon to say, "Poop on it." I mean, why do they do it. I understand that there could be good reasons, but they a specific and few.

Why do they meet us, go out with us, seem to have a genuinely good time, compliment us, talk about things will do next month--and then disappear? What is up with this?

I mean, I'm not coming apart at the seams, or even shedding a tear. I'm not getting all self critical or thinking there's something wrong with me. But I do feel sad, because I thought it had the potential to become something real. And I'm a bit angry that someone made me feel sad, because I've met my quota on sad in this life several times over. And I'm perplexed, because I don't understand the disappearing act rather than a call to tell me he's rethought things and can't date right now, or something like that. I think I'm starting to understand why some of my friends say, "never again!" and they just don't date anymore. I'm not quite there yet, but I'm feeling a "poop on it" coming on. That's miss-a language for "I'm ready to assume this one's a wash."

My question to you all: Do you think I'm writing it off too soon. I called 10 days ago and got no response. I was willing to consider that he hadn't gotten the message. I mean cell phones aren't the best technology. So I called and left another message yesterday morning on his home machine. Still no response. Too soon to, say "poop on it' and put it behind me? Your thoughts? Thanks gang.

 

[dayhiker]

I really don't understand this for the most part.
I guess a couple of times I just never got back to the lady after a date.
But generally I'm pretty transparent and if a date isn't working, she can read it in my expressions. Plus it isn't working for her either.

I guess a 1st date and no second isn't a big deal to me. I'd wonder what was going on if we had a few dates and then the other end
of the line went silent with not comment.

 

[Swan7]

Poop on it. Only because I haven't met the right one yet, if ever.

I'd say since he's moved on by ignoring you, you should move on too. Sooth sayings on a date isn't cool, I'd much rather have honesty.

 

[Lotuspetal_uk]

I'd be inclined to move on too. I could accept if people did this in their 20's but now I am older I don't suffer fools lightly, so I'd move on. Like you, it would irked me.

 

[Citanul]

I've been there and experience that as well. Things seemed to be going really well and then it started getting increasingly difficult to arrange anything. It got to the point that while she was still replying to my text messages, it wasn't as quickly as she used to and she wasn't initiating any of the conversations. So I decided to stop sending messages to see what would happen and haven't heard from her since.

If he wanted to get in touch with you then he would have - it's as simple as that. So after ten days without a response, I think you can write it off.

 

[quietpraiyze]

Poop on it. If he hasn't called you in 10 days then he's not gonna. It's a coward's way out but it seems like he was hoping you'd get the hint. If he does happen to call after all this time I'd be wary thinking the other "situation(s)" didn't work out so well for him and he would be trying to use you as a rebound. Trust yourself and move on.

 

[miss-a]

I've officially moved on. I've got bigger fish to fry and a prayer request for you all:

I might be looking down the barrel of a lay-off. I just found this out last night driving home from work when I heard on the radio that Walgreen bought Rite Aid. I work for a company that supplies Rite Aid but not Walgreens. While Walgreens may choose to acquire our product, they also may not. That could eliminate my position. I'm not freaking out, and my prayer is that I would chose wisdom and faith through whatever this process turns out to be and that I would seek God first. This feels like a do-over for me. When I was newly saved I was laid off from a position similar to this. I knew to cry out to the Lord, but I didn't know what to do after that or how to hear Him. So I panicked and took the first thing that came alone, and what came along was an overnight job that played a major role in the destruction of my health. So it's fourteen years later. I'm healthy again. I've known Him for fifteen-plus years. I need to act like it and live it. I need to not get caught up in failed retirement plans and all the rest and instead be caught up in Him. I would so appreciate your prayers.

THANK YOU!

 

[blackribbon]

I wouldn't expect him to call but if he does, I wouldn't blow him off without allowing him to explain. 10 days could mean he was sick, or had a crisis at work or with his family that took precedence of time or thought, or he is still trying to decide what he thinks about you. Older men who are single don't tend to spend their spare time time contemplating random dates like we women tend to do .... even if they had a good time. They are used to being alone and often don't hate it. I sometimes wish I could knock it into their heads that they wouldn't treat a client at work like this, so at least give me the respect that you give to a colleague or client.

And I will pray about your job situation.

 

[dayhiker]

miss-a ... since they are size 2 and 3 anti-trust laws may come into view. If so the government wouldn't allow them to merge.
Time will tell.