Bizzare Situation

[AimlessEMF]

If you could pray for this situation I would really appreciate it.
I live with my wife in the garage of her parent's house.
Her little sister is a nightmare, she absolutely will not listen to her parents.
She swears like a sailor at them and literally beats her mother.
We can't do anything about it because if we do the parents will get mad and throw us out. The mom will always protect the daughter even when she beating her and calling her a menagerie of obscene names.
Here's the rub though. The daughter goes to a church here in town and acts like a completely different person. She even tells all her friends and their parents at church that her parents abuse her. In fact a cop showed up last night because one of them called the police. You see the girl hasn't gone to school this week because the parents can't or won't force her. She's been telling everyone through IMs that she's been abused and can't go to school because of the injuries. The police officer showed up and inspected around and talked to her and the parents and said he saw no reason to ever think that the child had been treated roughly at all.
Basically this kid makes everyones life miserable. She runs the house and is constantly calling my wife obscene names. She will yell scream and break things when no one will jump and do what she wants immediately. She'll make her parents buy her mcdonalds if she doesn't like what's for dinner and the financial situation of the house is absolutely horrifying anyway, no one needs to be buying mcdonalds.
It's just a mess and I know the parents are to blame. However, I don't know if they are just too weak or stupid to do anything.
It's a mess to say the least.

 

[dia_liom]

Lord, I pray for the family of this girl, and I pray for her as well. Help her see the lie that she's living, and help her family get the help they need to get her under control.

Amen

 

[New_Found_Faith]

Amen. God Bless.

 

[kenalim]

I'll pray for the girl. God bless.

 

[tapero]

Dear Lord, I pray for this household. I pray that the daughter would be humbled Lord. I pray she would fall under conviction. I pray for the parents that they would stop fearing their daughter. Please give them strength. I pray for this couple living there with all this happening. I pray they might have a place of their own. Please bless them financially to enable them to be free to live their lives. I pray that when the daughter lies about her treatment that the truth would always be shown. Thank you Lord. Amen

 

[devoted daughter]

May the Lord restore peace in your home and in this young girls heart; may she be lifted from anger and have clarity and calm; may the Lord give protection to you and your wife, and to all when in need; may you be comforted and lifted from worry; may you all be unburdened and have swift resolution to meet your needs; may their be insight and wisdom to guide the words and actions of all involved. INJC

 

[heron]

A friend of mine had this trouble with her son years ago. She spent a lot of time reading about chemical imbalances, medications, emotional problems, food allergies, etc. She had to call the police on him when he was very young...others were in danger. She also was blamed several times for abuse.

Eventually she found ways to help him focus (computer helped) and contain his rage, and now he's a wonderful, thoughtful guy. I'm not sure what the pivotal trick was.
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Lord, give everyone in the household wisdom on how to handle the situation. Help the girl feel loved, help the parents feel protected, bring safety and peace to everyone in the household. You know how the girl is wired better than anyone else; bring solutions to mind. You are the One who works miracles because you care about us. Thank you for caring about details, and about problems that seem impossible to us.

 

[Mela'h]

Wow, sounds like a pretty awful place to live and really frustrating for you. I pray that God would help the truth of this situation to come out to the right people and that your wife's little sis and her parents would get the help that they need. Praying for you too that you would be able to make a positive difference in the lives of your family and that you would have healthy boundaries when it comes to dealing with this situation. Amen

 

[ukok]

praying

God Bless.

 

[godslittlegirl]

Heavenly Father
COme into this situation and bring healing and restoration and your wonderful gift of salvation to each one in this family. Lord deliver them from the attacks of the enemy. Deliver this little girl from the hands of the enemy. Lord bring peace and calmness to there lives.
Aman

 

[WalksWithChrist]

If you could pray for this situation I would really appreciate it.
I live with my wife in the garage of her parent's house.
Her little sister is a nightmare, she absolutely will not listen to her parents.
She swears like a sailor at them and literally beats her mother.
We can't do anything about it because if we do the parents will get mad and throw us out. The mom will always protect the daughter even when she beating her and calling her a menagerie of obscene names.
Here's the rub though. The daughter goes to a church here in town and acts like a completely different person. She even tells all her friends and their parents at church that her parents abuse her. In fact a cop showed up last night because one of them called the police. You see the girl hasn't gone to school this week because the parents can't or won't force her. She's been telling everyone through IMs that she's been abused and can't go to school because of the injuries. The police officer showed up and inspected around and talked to her and the parents and said he saw no reason to ever think that the child had been treated roughly at all.
Basically this kid makes everyones life miserable. She runs the house and is constantly calling my wife obscene names. She will yell scream and break things when no one will jump and do what she wants immediately. She'll make her parents buy her mcdonalds if she doesn't like what's for dinner and the financial situation of the house is absolutely horrifying anyway, no one needs to be buying mcdonalds.
It's just a mess and I know the parents are to blame. However, I don't know if they are just too weak or stupid to do anything.
It's a mess to say the least.

You may also want to take steps to protect yourselves. I've seen people like that injure themselves so they can call the police on people. Basically, I'd make sure you have a few people (friends or coworkers that can drop in from time to time maybe) that can be character witnesses for you and your wife that can attest that they've seen the daughter act crazy and become abusive. Maybe speak to an old friend of the family that everybody trusts who can moderate things. Sounds like the parents really need to take responsibility, but need a boost. And pray as always, but don't forget to act if you can to prevent any bad situations.

 

[heron]

Absolutely. Read the last post over and over!

 

[AngylBelle]

The people I used to rent a room from had a grandson who lived in the house who acted the same way. They sent him to some sort of boot camp and he came back changed. Tough love is the key in a situation like this. Check out www.helpmytroubledteen.com ...it's a website that gives a listing of places like this. If you and your wife would rather take a more indirect approach, consider printing off some material and mailing it anonymously to your in-laws. Though I don't see why they would throw you both out for wanting to intervene in the safety of everyone involved.

 

[MsSnow]

I will keep you in my prayers

 

[joerose]

Hi Aimless, One thing you could do is make an anonymous call to the Police or CPS or even to the school where this child goes. How old is she? If she continues this type of behavior it is going to escalate and who knows what she might do someday. Sounds like the parents are acting as a lot of abuse victims do. They are in denial and are trying to protect her when she needs intervention. I understand your position not wanting to move, so if you do something anonomously or have someone else call it will work. Also the post up above was really good about covering for yourself. If she's doing this to her parents, she'll do it to anyone. Cover yourself. Get witnesses if you can. God bless you and your wife.

 

[heron]

A-EMF--
I've seen videos of test subjects for food allergies before and after, with docile to violent behaviour after being fed orange juice, tomatoes, and food coloring. This is a simplistic answer, but part of her behaviour might be out of her control. Lead paint has some nerve damage links too.

Allergies
http://borntoexplore.org/allergies.htm has a list of foods that trigger behavior problems, and a comment that parents swear their children improved after eliminating allergens, even though doctors say it has no validity. It also mentions mold.

http://diet-studies.com/adhd.html is a professional site, if you're wondering about the credibility of this idea.

Lead
"Even at low levels, according to some articles in the medical literature, lead poisoning causes I.Q. reductions, shortened attention span, hyperactivity, aggressive behavior, loss of appetite, vomiting, and abdominal pain in children. Ingestion of lead or lead based paint chips in higher quantities may cause convulsions, brain damage, and eventually death."
-Dale R. Burmeister and James E. Sukkar, http://www.harveykruse.com/lead.htm

...it's a gentler way to approach the subject with her parents. ("Do you suppose she might be allergic to OJ?")

 

[heron]

Correction--"doctors say" should be "some doctors may say."

 

[JesseRaymondBassett]

I am praying for your situation.

 

[seekingpurity047]

Father, may Your glory be around us everyday of our lives, continuing on forever and ever. Lord, You are the only way, and You are the only One to put our trust in. Be with this family through this horrible time, for they are suffering horribly. Be with this man's wife's sister, I pray that whatever is driving her this way, that she may find You, and turn away from her sins. Make her realize the truth, the truth of Your church. If the authorities have to be called, may they take her away. Do whatever it takes to take away the suffering of the family. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

 

[SparkyMaddie]

Wow, sounds like a pretty awful place to live and really frustrating for you. I pray that God would help the truth of this situation to come out to the right people and that your wife's little sis and her parents would get the help that they need. Praying for you too that you would be able to make a positive difference in the lives of your family and that you would have healthy boundaries when it comes to dealing with this situation. Amen