biggest mistake of my life

[krsk]

I grew up my whole life as a Christian.
I met my girlfriend at a youth group when we were sixteen,
young love got to me. I started to stray away from God
and I was lost in who I was. I had no idea that my girlfriend
was having stuggles of her own,
she was battling a eating disorder by herself.
It consumed her and her relationship with God.
This was when I made the biggest mistake of my life!
I desided I was ready to have sex (at the age of 17).
While my girlfriend was vunerable with all her emotions.
She thought it would make me happy,
I thought it would make me happy.
She wanted to wait until marriage,
I thought it would bring us closer.
So pressured her until she gave in.
Now with practically having so relationship with God,
I've began to say to myself
I've already had sex why not do it again and again an again...
My girlfriend and I are having troubles in our relationship
because of this, and I cheated on her.
This is the worst mistake of my life!

 

[madison1101]

You say that you grew up your whole life as a Christian. Ask Him to forgive your sins, all of them, not just the sexual ones. Ask Him to fill you with the Holy Spirit. Get yourself into a church fellowship and start getting discipled in the faith. Scripture says that older men are to teach younger men, and you need such a relationship in your life.

As for the sexual sins, repent and turn away from them. Sex is meant for marriage. Read 1 Corinthians 6 to learn what the Lord says about sexual sin.

God bless.
Trish

 

[Onlythingavailable]

Sounds like it's time for you to do a 180. Your desire to have sex has led you to pressure your girlfriend into having sex, even though she wanted to wait, and it has led you to cheat on her. Is that how you treat someone you love? Look at the fruits of sin, and renounce it.

God doesn't warn us about sin for nothing, it really destroys, just as it has in your life. God is forgiving, and if you repent and ask for forgiveness He will forgive, for He is faithful even when we aren't. I suggest that you from now on focus on helping your girlfriend. Eating disorders can be quite destructive to the person suffering from it, I'm sure she could use all the support she can get, especially from her boyfriend.

Sex isn't a life purpose, it's not going to save you or help you. God is for life. God will help you and God will save you.

I do not know if it's a good idea to confess to your girlfriend right now, with the eating disorder and all. If she is emotionally stable enough to take it, I believe she deserves to know. She certainly needs to know before you get more serious, or you risk this rearing it's ugly head down the line, and then it may destroy everything. Just don't use the disorder as an excuse to be dishonest.

 

[artjack]

god may change history if you ask him and believe the future is more history, perhalps more history than that which has gone so forgive yourself and be sure you were never perfect so you lost very little if you consider what you gained, it may effect your dreams but dont let it effect your sleep, plan ahead from now on.

 

[UnitynLove]

There is no condemnation to those that are in Christ Jesus. You are a new creature all old things are passed away. Cast it all on him and live your life.

 

[qrabbit]

krsk -- i feel your pain.

what i would really like to know is this:

are there any Christian women out there, whose
spouses or boyfriends cheated on them, who then
were able to "forgive and forget" and continue on
with their relationship ?

From my experience and from reading the Bible,
adultery is the one sin that Jesus himself says
it's okay to divorce your spouse for. So, at the
very least, Jesus himself recognized how difficult
this sin is to forgive and be reconciled.

So. Has anyone out there seen the sin of
adultery forgiven and the relationship restored ?

Thanks,

 

[BelindaP]

Yes, I have seen it many times. It IS possible to restore a marriage rocked by adultery, but it is a hard road. It takes a lot of work and prayer by both partners.

 

[WashedClean]

krsk -- i feel your pain.

what i would really like to know is this:

are there any Christian women out there, whose
spouses or boyfriends cheated on them, who then
were able to "forgive and forget" and continue on
with their relationship ?

From my experience and from reading the Bible,
adultery is the one sin that Jesus himself says
it's okay to divorce your spouse for. So, at the
very least, Jesus himself recognized how difficult
this sin is to forgive and be reconciled.

So. Has anyone out there seen the sin of
adultery forgiven and the relationship restored ?

Thanks,

But we aren't talking about adultery, we're talking about fornication.

 

[BelindaP]

It is fornication. However, when a couple have sex, they are uniting themselves spiritually. Cheating while in a sexual relationship could be considered a form of 'spiritual' adultery.

 

[qrabbit]

But we aren't talking about adultery, we're talking about fornication.

My girlfriend and I are having troubles in our relationship
because of this, and I cheated on her.
This is the worst mistake of my life!

Yes, he fornicated but also he's talking about
the fact that he cheated on her.

What should we call that ?
And whether you call it something different,
I would imagine that the emotional pain is comparable.

 

[Johnnz]

Jesus forgave prostitutes OK. That tells us something. There are millions of people who have committed some sexual sin that have gone on to be contented, happily married Christians.

John
NZ

 

[Fascination]

I grew up my whole life as a Christian.
I met my girlfriend at a youth group when we were sixteen,
young love got to me. I started to stray away from God
and I was lost in who I was. I had no idea that my girlfriend
was having stuggles of her own,
she was battling a eating disorder by herself.
It consumed her and her relationship with God.
This was when I made the biggest mistake of my life!
I desided I was ready to have sex (at the age of 17).
While my girlfriend was vunerable with all her emotions.
She thought it would make me happy,
I thought it would make me happy.
She wanted to wait until marriage,
I thought it would bring us closer.
So pressured her until she gave in.
Now with practically having so relationship with God,
I've began to say to myself
I've already had sex why not do it again and again an again...
My girlfriend and I are having troubles in our relationship
because of this, and I cheated on her.
This is the worst mistake of my life!

What would you like to do now with your life?
Do you want anything to be different?
If you could change one thing now, other than the past what would that be?

 

[TreizeEnder]

I grew up my whole life as a Christian.
I met my girlfriend at a youth group when we were sixteen,
young love got to me. I started to stray away from God
and I was lost in who I was. I had no idea that my girlfriend
was having stuggles of her own,
she was battling a eating disorder by herself.
It consumed her and her relationship with God.
This was when I made the biggest mistake of my life!
I desided I was ready to have sex (at the age of 17).
While my girlfriend was vunerable with all her emotions.
She thought it would make me happy,
I thought it would make me happy.
She wanted to wait until marriage,
I thought it would bring us closer.
So pressured her until she gave in.
Now with practically having so relationship with God,
I've began to say to myself
I've already had sex why not do it again and again an again...
My girlfriend and I are having troubles in our relationship
because of this, and I cheated on her.
This is the worst mistake of my life!

All you can do is acknowledge the problem at hand, present it to god, and go where you believe the hand points. And continually look at the hand. Don't get too relaxed. At least that's what I've experienced.

I have suffered from this to a degree. I didn't physically cheat, but I did confess thoughts about another person to my love. I did the above and I've come out stronger against such matters. Also, we've grown stronger together.

Keep in mind that selfish intentions are the root of all evil. You must acknowledge that first and foremost, in all that I've seen. If you can acknowledge, you can beat it back.