biggest crush ever... literally

[PeculiarGuy]

So, I'm 17 years old and I've never been in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship in my life.
All the private schools I went to split the boys and girls up. They made it seem like if you talked to a girl it was because you loved her.
Now, that don't go to these crazy schools and the realization that girls and boys can actually be friends I have had to fight through a lot of shyness. I'm a introvert in character, but I am unhealthily shy. Sure, I have had some crushes that I kept to myself. You know how you get little crushes that only last about one day or less... well, for the first time I have had one that has lasted a little more than a week, and I can't stop thinking about her. I love everything about her. I keep asking God, if this is the one, don't let her go out of my mind. So far, she hasn't.

The weird thing is that just having a crush on her has made me a better person. I am happier, I am more social, and I just feel better. I have felt comfortable talking to other girls(which is a huge step). And my relationship with God has gotten closer. I am more diligent, and more willing to develop self-control in my life. I have also been more willing to surrender my life to God.

Now, here are my worries. I am afraid I will miss an opportunity if I don't do something about it. I am afraid that she doesn't really care about me and is looking for other guys. I just don't know how seriously to take myself on this, but I do believe that just getting comfortable talking to her should be the first step. I probably look like I am obviously attracted to her, lol, because I am so shy around her.

 

[Aino]

The weird thing is that just having a crush on her has made me a better person. I am happier, I am more social, and I just feel better. I have felt comfortable talking to other girls(which is a huge step). And my relationship with God has gotten closer. I am more diligent, and more willing to develop self-control in my life. I have also been more willing to surrender my life to God.

That's awesome! I hope that you'll keep on searching God in spite of what happens and that you two will perhaps be able to build a good relationship that also glorifies God. I really do.

Now, here are my worries. I am afraid I will miss an opportunity if I don't do something about it. I am afraid that she doesn't really care about me and is looking for other guys. I just don't know how seriously to take myself on this, but I do believe that just getting comfortable talking to her should be the first step. I probably look like I am obviously attracted to her, lol, because I am so shy around her.

Ok, here's the deal. You have a crush on her, and you think it's not just a fleeting thing and you want to do something about it, right? You'd really want her to have a crush on you too and to know that you like her too? And you'd hate it if you missed the chance for that to happen? Well, isn't it kind of obvious then, you just go for it! Maybe ask her out for a coffee or for a walk or something and then just talk to her and when the moment's right you just spill it! Tell how she makes you feel, compliment her a little, ask her whether she'd think there would be a chance for you two going out for a date. Just be your awesome self and be friendly and nice and all will turn out well!

 

[PeculiarGuy]

That's awesome! I hope that you'll keep on searching God in spite of what happens and that you two will perhaps be able to build a good relationship that also glorifies God. I really do.


Ok, here's the deal. You have a crush on her, and you think it's not just a fleeting thing and you want to do something about it, right? You'd really want her to have a crush on you too and to know that you like her too? And you'd hate it if you missed the chance for that to happen? Well, isn't it kind of obvious then, you just go for it! Maybe ask her out for a coffee or for a walk or something and then just talk to her and when the moment's right you just spill it! Tell how she makes you feel, compliment her a little, ask her whether she'd think there would be a chance for you two going out for a date. Just be your awesome self and be friendly and nice and all will turn out well!

I don't think I'm ready to do anything like that lol

 

[Aino]

I don't think I'm ready to do anything like that lol

Oh, what's holding you? I don't want to sound nosy though, I hope you don't get offended.

 

[PeculiarGuy]

Oh, what's holding you? I don't want to sound nosy though, I hope you don't get offended.

No, I don't get offended easily. The only thing that really gets on my nerves is when people call me by my brothers name(I am a twin). lol Its hard to develop a personality when your a twin... anyway...
Its mostly fear, and the feeling that its not the direction I should be taking with her. I live almost an hour from where she lives, and I only see her once a week at youth. She doesn't know me very well because I really just started becoming familiar with the church. So, before I do anything like that, I feel I need to get familiar to the people there. I don't have a drivers license and my ride can only take me once a week. The youth at the church does things almost everyday. One of my goals this year is to get my license, then I can be at the church more often.
Just so you know, I do go to another church twice a week that is much closer to me, so the farther church really isn't my main church. I love both churches so much

 

[Aino]

Oh, that's obviously something to get over with then. I hope you'll get your license soon! Perhaps you could invite her to something at your church sometimes when you get to know each other better?

 

[PeculiarGuy]

oh, and if you see that my profile says I'm femal lol... I don't know how that happened. I can't figure out how to fix that.

 

[Aino]

I just checked whether you can change it in your User CP, and it looks like you can't. My advice would be going to theQuestions about CF section and posting a thread there.

 

[solarwave]

Yeah just try to talk to her and get to know her and when you feel ready ask her out. Yeah of course it isn't the easy but just think to your self that you don't want to look back and wonder what could have been.

 

[PeculiarGuy]

Thanks for all the advice guys

 

[liesje]

Yeah just try to talk to her and get to know her and when you feel ready ask her out. Yeah of course it isn't the easy but just think to your self that you don't want to look back and wonder what could have been.

This. I would advise you to just get to know her first. A week isn't long at all to hold a crush for someone. Just be friends - once you know her more and better you'll be able to judge better whether it's the direction you should be heading, especially seeing as you say she doesn't know you very well. You can get to know people much better when you're in the 'just friends' stage. And, of course, keep praying.

If you pm a moderator they'll be able to tell you what to do about your gender sign thingy.

 

[solarwave]

This. I would advise you to just get to know her first. A week isn't long at all to hold a crush for someone. Just be friends - once you know her more and better you'll be able to judge better whether it's the direction you should be heading, especially seeing as you say she doesn't know you very well. You can get to know people much better when you're in the 'just friends' stage. And, of course, keep praying.

If you pm a moderator they'll be able to tell you what to do about your gender sign thingy.

The problem then come with getting stuck as just a friend. I dunno I'm no expert on relationships

 

[liesje]

The problem then come with getting stuck as just a friend. I dunno I'm no expert on relationships

There is always that, but at 17 it doesn't really matter. And there is absolutely no way any guy could persuade me to go out with him until we were good friends first, even if I wanted to. And definitely no way if he said he'd only like me for a week.

 

[PeculiarGuy]

There is always that, but at 17 it doesn't really matter. And there is absolutely no way any guy could persuade me to go out with him until we were good friends first, even if I wanted to. And definitely no way if he said he'd only like me for a week.

Yeah, I know what you mean. Today the church had a party had someone's house. I was there from 6 to 12. I had the most fun I've had in a while...

 

[PeculiarGuy]

I am creeped out right now... her parents don't let her ride her bike on her own, and she really wants someone to ride with. So now that she know I ride like everyday, she wants to go along. Well... we live an hour away, and I don't have a license. I told her I hope to get my license by the end of the year. Then she said she planed on buying two bikes, and that I could use one. I think she means that when I go up there I don't have to bring a bike and I can use one of hers. Oh, and this whole conversation was held over facebook chat haha! Well, I don't want to jump to conclusions, she seems like a very friendly person, so it may not be a big deal to her. If thats not the case, then I'm a little freaked out lol in a good way

 

[MusicLover242]

Just be really nice, I'm sure she will like you