Big mistake

[pamincincy]

Hello
I have fallen into sin big time. I had sex with the man who led me to Christ. I felt God wanted me to marry him. He says he can never see me again. Please pray for me.

 

[doofus125]

Hello
I have fallen into sin big time. I had sex with the man who led me to Christ. I felt God wanted me to marry him. He says he can never see me again. Please pray for me.

I would respect his wishes and just pray, there really isn't much more you can do.

 

[cynjo59]

I have to wonder about the man who led you to Christ. I realize people get caught up in things and swept away. About all you can do is ask God's forgiveness for your mistake and move on in Him. We all make mistakes that we regret but once God has forgiven us we need to put it behind us. Satan would love to have us dwell on our past sins and wallow in guilt because he knows that if we are doing that we are not growing and maturing in Christ and we won't be able to do a work for Him.

 

[crossrunner]

Sweetie...
This is no sin too big that God can't forgive it. Hit your knees and ask for His forgiveness. I will pray that God will give you peace and heal your pain. The challenge will be to "go and sin no more". God bless you dear.

 

[Busybee]

Who's to say that God doesn't still want you and him to marry. Perhaps the Lord sees both of your weaknesses (sex) and He wants to work within and strengthen you both before you come back together. Definitely repent and pray about what has happened and for the Lord to work His will in your life.

 

[Learnin'2-4Give]

I was in the same position as you last December. It is very painful, but you will get better. It takes getting down on your knees and then moving on. The guy I was with promised me the moon----until I gave in to him--then he wanted nothing to do with me. A month later he was dating someone I work with. Three months later they were engaged.

Oddly, the thing that has given me the most peace was to pray for him daily. After he got engaged, I prayed that God would bless their union. It was hard at first, but eventually made me feel so much better.

I regret that I slept with him. I do NOT regret him bringing me to Christ. For that, I will always be greatful.

Blessings and Peace,
--Learnin2-4Give

 

[VivDaGurl]

pamincincy,

I do wonder what sort of guy this person is and I wonder whether how is his walk with Christ. It's stated clearly in the Bible that none should have any pre-marital sex as the consequences that you need to pay back is very terrible! Pray and ask for God to forgive you for what you've done. Ask God to forgive him as well and, I'm sorry to say that I doubt this guy is coming back to marry you. Thank God that he had led you to Christ and continue to pray to ask God to bless him...

 

[loki2004]

Wow, does that sound familiar...

When I was ninteen, I was sitting in a bar, and this guy kept staring at me...Finally he came over and introduced himself. I never gave into him, but he was definitely after me. I sent him a card at his house, and he called me out for a date. He came over to my house, I introduced him to my parents and we went out to eat. During dinner, to my dismay, he told me he was married, and showed me a picture of his little girl. I felt sick. His wife had intercepted my card to him and given him an ultimatum. He was next in line to train as a minister in his church and I was completely disillusioned. It was part of the reason that I came to distrust christians...I am trying to come back now. Maybe...

 

[phoenix_kid82]

Did he say why he didn't want to see you again? Were you in a vulnerable position when he led you to Christ?

U don't have to answer those really. Repent and ask for forgiveness, also for him, and do your best to forgive him.

I have regrets, even since i was saved i've stuffed up. They've been loosers though, so i haven't expected anything more from them. Regrets suck. But u gotta take it on the chin.

I know i'm forgiven tho, and i do my best to forgive others.

 

[phoenix_kid82]

Wow, does that sound familiar...

When I was ninteen, I was sitting in a bar, and this guy kept staring at me...Finally he came over and introduced himself. I never gave into him, but he was definitely after me. I sent him a card at his house, and he called me out for a date. He came over to my house, I introduced him to my parents and we went out to eat. During dinner, to my dismay, he told me he was married, and showed me a picture of his little girl. I felt sick. His wife had intercepted my card to him and given him an ultimatum. He was next in line to train as a minister in his church and I was completely disillusioned. It was part of the reason that I came to distrust christians...I am trying to come back now. Maybe...

Loki, i pray u will come back to Christ and know fullness in Him.

There's alot of people out there who have disappointed and deliberately hurt me in many ways, Christian and non-Christian alike. But i know God personally, and i don't confuse His character with that of my earthly father, or even Christian friends.

So Pamancincy, i pray that you will find refuge, forgiveness and God's peace in Jesus. He is everything we ever need, i pray that you and Loki come to know this in your hearts.

phoenix_kid82

 

[IntimateFriend]

My dear sister I don't really know what you are going through right now but I know it's really hard for you. When things like this that happens to us condemnation comes tormenting our minds with such intensity. I have my own share of failures too; and every time I would fail God I would be in such state of condemnation that I feel God has forsaken me. But by His grace He would pick me up from that miry clay and wipe my tears away. God taught me so many things from my failures. One time I fell into that same temptation again and I told the Lord that not I'm coming back to Him because I have done the same abominable thing before His eyes. You know what the Lord responded to me? He said that if I don't repent and come back to Him it would break His heart even more. You know when we fail God, He is not mad at us... He is heartbroken that we have separated ourselves from that sweet communion with Him. Remember the fall of Adam and Eve, when they rebel againts God's commandment God did not condemn them but promise them of their redemption. God's cry to them after they have fallen is "Where are you?;" this is a cry for fellowship. God wants fellowship from us... He longs for us day and night.

Another thing I have learn from my failures is that to believe the word of God completely. I John 1:9 says, " If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." Learn from King David my dear sister, he knows exactly what you are going through. Read his story you will find hope. God used even his mistakes for us to learn from him... isn't that awesome... out the ashes God made something beautiful. So many people today who have sinned like King David have found hope in the Lord because of what God's done for David. After King David sinned, God still called him " a man after my own heart."

Romans 8:28 says, "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to His purpose." If you still love the Lord my dear sister this Scripture is for you. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Through your mistakes you will be able to help others who are in the same situation that you right now. Just don't give up. Remember God is your perfect Father, He knows what you are going through... He cares ( I Pet. 5:7). Tell Him everything of what you feel... just pour out yout heart to Him. He knows what you are going through. Ask Him what to do... He has all the answers. Take care.

Hope this encourage you my dear sister. I'll be praying. God bless you!

 

[phoenix_kid82]

You know what the Lord responded to me? He said that if I don't repent and come back to Him it would break His heart even more. You know when we fail God, He is not mad at us... He is heartbroken that we have separated ourselves from that sweet communion with Him.

Phoenix_Kid82

 

[homewardbound]

Pamincincy,

Know that you are forgiven.
Ask God to help you through whatever feelings you still have for this person.
Count your blessings...I don't mean to be unfair, but my gut tells me this man is a fraud and you're better off with him out of your life.