Bible Based Dating...

[chippy2000]

Hi,

God has been talking volumes to me about my own ways of looking for a mate. I would like to say that mostly He's been saying to seek Himself first and a mate will be added unto you! And it's true. I have been seeking His face and seeking to press in further and get close with God and I am finding that I am making friends alot easier and people are more comfortable around me and they talk to me more often. I'm getting people coming over to me to say hello now. I don't have to go round trying hard to make friends and with friends may come the one friend I want to spend my life with. Also Jesus commanded us not to worry so don't! It's a command not a suggestion!
I'm gaining revelation myself as I'm typing this! God is awesome!

 

[anett]

to that! and thanks for sharing!

 

[TriptychR]

Could the problem be that we are too busy trying to use worldly ideas/ways to "catch" a Christian mate?

Just something to think about…

If you really think about it, those dating tips really aren't that hard - especially if you are someone that is following Christ. They are behaviors and characteristics that believers should have/do/or striving towards anyway. I mean with the exception of a few points (like no sex, etc.) its even good advice for a non-Christian to follow.

Well, I've tried to follow the guidelines for a long time, but the hard part for me is remaining patient. I haven't had a date of any type in roughly four years. Actually, there was one time I tried a long-distance relationship over the Internet, but it obviously wasn't from God and only lasted a week. I've learned that lesson.

Yes, I know I'm 21 and still young, but when you see everyone around you in what appears to be good relationships (some Christian, some not), you sometimes begin to doubt.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Ehh, I think that if only people with all those characteristics were to get married, there would be mighty few Christian marriages. How many Christians do you know who live up to all that? I only know one: My father. Fortunately for me, he didn't apply all those rules to HIS spouse, or I wouldn't be here, today.

Whether that's a good thing or not, I'll leave to others to decide. But, the fact is, they established churches on three continents, and many were saved because of their lives and work, so it wasn't a total disaster.

I agree, but it's good to have goals/direction.

 

[BeautyForAshes]

Well, I've tried to follow the guidelines for a long time, but the hard part for me is remaining patient. I haven't had a date of any type in roughly four years. Actually, there was one time I tried a long-distance relationship over the Internet, but it obviously wasn't from God and only lasted a week. I've learned that lesson.

Yes, I know I'm 21 and still young, but when you see everyone around you in what appears to be good relationships (some Christian, some not), you sometimes begin to doubt.

I certainly can understand what you mean by how diificult it is to be patient. Try it at 30, when ALL of your friends are married/recently married except you! LOL

Plus, just in general for me, being patient was something I was never good at anyway, so I sometimes get frustrated with being single and not being able to find anyone. This is why I'm on a dating hiatus, because I'm just tired of it and the whole process.

And then of course here comes the enemy with thougts of doubt and feelings of inadequacy (is it me? Am I not good enough, etc.). One way that helps me through this is knowing that since patience is a flaw of mine, God is teaching me how to joyfully wait on Him and His promises.

I'm praying for you and that God's renews your spirit to wait of Him with an attitude of joy and contentment.

 

[JPPT1974]

Im thirty and still non-married and childless. But also I look at it as if God wants that for me because what would happen if I did get married and if it was for all the wrong decisions.

 

[hockeysistah12]

I'm in my middle 40's and one problem is that people want that image--people feel that physical attibutes make a relationship, but in all actuality, it does not. And it is disturbing when our young people are programmed into that thinking...some older people does also and this is one of the reasons I stopped looking online because even being a christian who is involved in her local church is not enough for a relationship, even being a christian is not enough...

And sometimes do question if a Christian man ever wants me because of the physical instead of a heart which seeks him.

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

I think that this book gets bashed a lot, but try reading "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" By Joshua Harris. I know, I know. I've heard all the debates. I was one of the people who claimed that they would never read it.

But one of my professors brought up that there are gold nuggets in everything. I don't agree with everything Harris says but I've found a lot of "gold nuggets". It's shown me things that I've done wrong and how I can go about things differently.