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Bibical Question
- Thread starter LostWithoutYou
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the nt says something like you can only divorce if someones been unfaithful to you. i would think though that if you have been left in the lurch and the divorce is just for legal reasons then that wouldnt make you an adulterer (if thats what you were worring about). i say this because the person who has left is the one who has divorced the other (just not in a legal sense, more in the cold hearted kind). i may well be the only person who thinks this, and/or be wrong.
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LostWithoutYou said:
If you are asking related to a real life situation I would suggest that this question is best answered in a face to face conversation with one's pastor. Because it is necessary to have a conversation about the specific circumstances and to get some feedback about how objective one is when they are in a VERY emotional situation.
With that said...Hypothetically speaking I think that a spouse can claim that they have been abandoned when they have gone through the steps defined in Matt 18 to cure the problem.
1) spouse cannot resolve the issue between them
2) seeks the assistance of someone from church (elder, deacon, pastor) to mediate the issue
3) the church takes disciplinary action
If you do not see any improvement in the situation then you have grounds to say that the spouse has abandoned the marriage.
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This is my situation:
We were married at the end of May 2005. He moved out by the middle of Sept. stating the he had made the biggest mistake of his life.
I have attended counseling with him. The counselor finally pushed him enough to say that he wanted the marriage over. He was 95 percent sure there was no way to save this marriage.
When we were seeking counseling he attended church and we had them pray over us. I have had many friends and the church continue keeping us in their prayers.
He has no contact with me unless I seek him out.
I posted because I have had several comments made to me about abandonment. (which is a very good discription of how I feel right now). I have read the scripture over and over but in the times of a storm we sometimes can interpert scripture to fit our needs. I needed to have some non-partial input. If I choose to file for divorce based on him leaving us with no intent to return, I just need to find peace that it is okay with God.
We were married at the end of May 2005. He moved out by the middle of Sept. stating the he had made the biggest mistake of his life.
I have attended counseling with him. The counselor finally pushed him enough to say that he wanted the marriage over. He was 95 percent sure there was no way to save this marriage.
When we were seeking counseling he attended church and we had them pray over us. I have had many friends and the church continue keeping us in their prayers.
He has no contact with me unless I seek him out.
I posted because I have had several comments made to me about abandonment. (which is a very good discription of how I feel right now). I have read the scripture over and over but in the times of a storm we sometimes can interpert scripture to fit our needs. I needed to have some non-partial input. If I choose to file for divorce based on him leaving us with no intent to return, I just need to find peace that it is okay with God.
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AutumnDreamer
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1 Corinthians 7:13 And if a Christian woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. 14For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not have a godly influence, but now they are set apart for him. 15(But if the husband or wife who isnt a Christian insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife is not required to stay with them, for God wants his children to live in peace.)
In all things search the scriptures.
In all things search the scriptures.
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wonderwaleye
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Dear AutumnDreamer
That was an excellent post.
Thank you for being part of this forum.
WITH GOD'S WORD IN OUR HEART WE WILL REMEMBER:
XEven though you can't see Him, GOD is there!O
( click on the X and move to the O ) ( then feel who is around you )
That was an excellent post.
Thank you for being part of this forum.
WITH GOD'S WORD IN OUR HEART WE WILL REMEMBER:
XEven though you can't see Him, GOD is there!O
( click on the X and move to the O ) ( then feel who is around you )
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Autumn is absolutely right. I really believe that you should it to leave it to your husband to file. You should work toward reconciliation.
Your church is aware of this situation. It is the duty of your local church body to make sure that your husband understands his offense against you and against God. If the elders are unable to convince him to rectify the situation then the church ought to send him away.
I really do feel for you. May God be your comfort.
Your church is aware of this situation. It is the duty of your local church body to make sure that your husband understands his offense against you and against God. If the elders are unable to convince him to rectify the situation then the church ought to send him away.
I really do feel for you. May God be your comfort.
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It sounds to me like you may have children. It also sounds like those are likely not his children. You need to keep their welfare in mind as well.
Is it really in the best interest of the children to stay in a marriage to man who does not want the family. It does appear that he has abondoned you and the family. I question whether the scripture really applies here. I even question whether you were truly married in the scriptural sense.
It is one thing to say that scripture defines the only legitimate reasons for support, but another to say what is a scriptural marriage.
I also wonder whether he can't be considered unfaithful, for abondoning you. Is he even being a husband at all?
Is it really in the best interest of the children to stay in a marriage to man who does not want the family. It does appear that he has abondoned you and the family. I question whether the scripture really applies here. I even question whether you were truly married in the scriptural sense.
It is one thing to say that scripture defines the only legitimate reasons for support, but another to say what is a scriptural marriage.
I also wonder whether he can't be considered unfaithful, for abondoning you. Is he even being a husband at all?
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