Being married and having OCD

[byhisstripes]

Hello,
I have been married now for at least 6 years maybe 7 don't remember. Anyways I'm obsessive compulsive and this marriage seems like a nightmare sometimes.
I hate things being moved around and he loves changing the furniture any chance he gets and well pretty much anything and everything moveable he moves and I get soooooo angry all i can do is yell and scream and well you know how it is, I can't contoll it.
I hate the sunshine and so my curtins are always closed and he likes to open them, sometimes I think he does it to anger me. Often times I think I just can't take it anymore and want to leave. There are other things that irrotate me as well. I'm beginning to think marraige is impassable if you have OCD. I guess all I can do is scream HELP PLEASE!
Thanks

 

[kaykay537]

Hello,
I have been married now for at least 6 years maybe 7 don't remember. Anyways I'm obsessive compulsive and this marriage seems like a nightmare sometimes.
I hate things being moved around and he loves changing the furniture any chance he gets and well pretty much anything and everything moveable he moves and I get soooooo angry all i can do is yell and scream and well you know how it is, I can't contoll it.
I hate the sunshine and so my curtins are always closed and he likes to open them, sometimes I think he does it to anger me. Often times I think I just can't take it anymore and want to leave. There are other things that irrotate me as well. I'm beginning to think marraige is impassable if you have OCD. I guess all I can do is scream HELP PLEASE!
Thanks

Sometimes OCD does get in the way of a marriage. All I can suggest is that you have a heart to heart with your husband about the kind of things that bother you. Also, pray about your issues as I imagine you are doing. Some joint counseling might be in order as well.

Also, try to remember that OCD is often very difficult for a spouse to deal with as well. For one thing, they haven't fought the battles we have fought with it, and therefore, it's really hard for them to truly understand. But try to be patient with your husband. Spouses really do have difficulty with this struggle too. Marriage and a good marriage is certainly possible when one of the people struggle with OCD, but at times it is a challenge to be sure. It requires some forebearance on both sides.

Prayers for you and him and your marriage.

kk

 

[byhisstripes]

Hello KayKay,
Thank you for praying. I do try to understand his side, I just feel that he makes no effort to understand mine. I'm not saying for sure that he don't it just seems that way. Then where my daughter is concerned people tell me that I need to be careful because I will make her that way and I don't want that. So when I make her plate if I do, I have to make sure that I don't seperate it and keep it all from not running together because she might learn it and it will effect her. They act like it is some weird contagious desease.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one with OCD. Thank you again

 

[katautumn]

It's difficult for someone who does not have OCD to understand why certain things cause us to have anxiety. The one aspect of my OCD that tends to cause problems is my germ phobia. I hate it, because there are times when my husband probably thinks I'm treating him like a child when I'm constantly saying things like, "don't touch your hands to your face!" or "don't eat that with your fingers!" or "did you wash your hands?"

I'm fortunate enough that my mother also has OCD, so both she and my father have really been supportive and helpful in explaining to my husband what things cause anxiety for me and how he can help me cope with it. For the most part he's been amazingly understanding. Just know you're not alone.

 

[seajoy]

Your husband is correct to keep changing the furniture and opening the curtain. He's giving you therapy, and you don't even know it. To continue to do the things that prevent your anxiety is a recipe for disaster in your OCD. Learn about OCD and the therapy for it. It works.

Your husband wants for you what he has, a life without the chains of OCD. I've been there. My OCD was so bad at one time that I could not walk. I have been hospitalized for it many times. The therapy is what saved my life. Get out there and live. You can do this!