Being A Recluse

[TheBubba]

I have come to realize that over the years I am a recluse. I would rather spend time by myself than with other people. I find that being in public places just gets my temper going and in social situations, I freeze and tend to be a loner anyways. I find my greatest comfort in being with my family, playing with my dog, and going to the outdoor range and practice long range shooting.

 

[Ezeretane]

i think that being with people when one is shy needs practice
so try first situation with small group like cinema with cousins and friends ' cousins, get involved in your church ,volunteering for associations and stop telling yourselves that you are a recluse but rather you'll try to be otherwise

 

[Willie T]

Well, if you are enjoying it.... does any problem exist?

 

[KingaR]

sometimes you want to change, I'm almost 32 but I'm not sure if I want to change or actually need to change to enjoy life more

 

[sapientiauk]

Well, if you are enjoying it.... does any problem exist?

I think the being angry thing when he is around other people is a problem. If Jesus wants us to love people we can't do that unless we interact with them in a loving way.

 

[Timyone]

yeah, I don't see a problem with it, I seem to go through stages of enjoying people and not enjoying them so much.

And hi Kingar, welcome to this place

 

[Kol]

My personal regret is that I listened to all those people that told me I was shy or that something was wrong with me for wanting to be alone.

 

[Timyone]

Yeah :s I have come to realise that many of the things I thought were bad about me aren't so bad, and that some of my weaknesses can be used for good

 

[Ezeretane]

we can all be the same , some people are more comfortable around shy and non talkative people , the important thing is to treat people correctly
nut it can also be a difficulty for other to reach you , i'm very easy going with people and sometimes shy people make me uncomfortable because i feel being too much
it's all about balance ,i guess

 

[Living in the Light]

I love people, but the downside to this is that not all people respond in kind. Throughout the years I have learned to not be hurt by this but know that many people really have not fine-tuned their social skills or are caught up in their personal problems. The Smart Phone age doesn't seem to help.

From your post, I'm hearing that maybe you want to make a few changes and become more social. Am I correct? Volunteer work is an excellent way to do this. I always try to be friendly inspite of an ever-increasing unfriendly world. Follow Jesus example and be interested and love for all. My philosophy is: the world is family and the planet is my home.

 

[Brother_Joey_Gowdy]

sometimes you want to change, I'm almost 32 but I'm not sure if I want to change or actually need to change to enjoy life more

True and true... any other introverted reclusive hermits like me out there?

 

[wanntobe]

I have always been more comfortable by myself or with a very small group of people. I don't have any social phobias or anything, its just what I prefer. However, it has gotten to the point that, due to a busy schedule, I have found myself without any social network of friends, outside of my wife and family. It has gone to the other extreme which sadens me. I miss having a friend that I can talk to, vent to, ask advice from, and listen to. How hard can it be to find a friend in this digital age!?

 

[RobertMerton]

i wouldn't call you a recluse,
you're just introverted.


there's nothing wrong with that.