Been played online

[Harpuia]

There was this one girl that I liked, and she really liked me too, or was starting to anyway. But last night, she started talking with her old boyfriend and now she's back with him again.

I seriously get sick of that, and the funny part was, I knew it was coming, it's happened to me my whole life. Am I sad? Well obviously, I not only got played, but I was tricked to believing that anyone would like me again. Now I'm about to be incredibly sick, yet again. Not to mention, my faith is starting to sway a little again. I'm not sure what to do here...

(And please, don't give me any Bible verses, they've never worked on me.)

 

[WalksWithChrist]

I had the same thing happen to me some years back. Hurt bad! The girl actually didn't go back to her old boyfriend, she just told me that she was still stuck on him and that she wanted to take things slow. Well, the way she told all that to me was so vague that I thought she just needed some space but she never returned any of my calls after that night and I got the hint after about three days. I wouldn't wish that feeling on anyone...
Just to give you hope...I met the girl of my dreams some time later and we are getting married next month. = )

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

well, there's not much you can do now but get over it really.

Sounds harsh sure, but that doesn't change anything.

Move on with your life and stop feeling sorry for yourself. That's the only thing you can do at this point.

 

[invisiblebabe]

If you have any close friends who are Christians and who you connect well with, I'd recommend spending time with them. Vent some, go out and do something fun together, talk about everything and anything... that usually helps me when things like that happen to me.

PM or IM me if you don't have anyone to talk with, and if you need someone.

Blessings
Kayli

 

[JPPT1974]

If you have any close friends who are Christians and who you connect well with, I'd recommend spending time with them. Vent some, go out and do something fun together, talk about everything and anything... that usually helps me when things like that happen to me.

PM or IM me if you don't have anyone to talk with, and if you need someone.

Blessings
Kayli

That is a very good idea to connect with and spend time just getting to know them first as friends. Talk about likes and dislikes indeed.

 

[stormgade4]

You definately aren't alone my brother. I had been waiting to ask a girl out for over a year. I took her to the best restaurant in the city on our second date and since have never heard from her again. Happens to us all I'm afraid.

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

It sounds as if you were in the "getting to know you" stage where you both liked each other. There was no commitment, from what you're telling us. I do not believe that you were played. I think that you led yourself to believe because a girl seemed interested in you, liked talking to you, that she was the one or it would eventually go somewhere. If she was playing you, she'd drag you on awhile, leading you believe that there was something only to drop you and/or keep both of you hanging.

I think this is why we need to guard a heart a bit when meeting new people. Sometimes we become over-excited at the fact that someone seems to like me for me that we conclude so many outcomes that we start believing them.

 

[Harpuia]

It sounds as if you were in the "getting to know you" stage where you both liked each other. There was no commitment, from what you're telling us. I do not believe that you were played. I think that you led yourself to believe because a girl seemed interested in you, liked talking to you, that she was the one or it would eventually go somewhere. If she was playing you, she'd drag you on awhile, leading you believe that there was something only to drop you and/or keep both of you hanging.

I think this is why we need to guard a heart a bit when meeting new people. Sometimes we become over-excited at the fact that someone seems to like me for me that we conclude so many outcomes that we start believing them.

Not really, it lasted about a month. And in the end, she acted like it was my fault that she played me. I don't get it, and it's not making much sense to me.

It's times like this I wonder why I don't deconvert...

 

[plum]

Why does this situation with a girl have such an effect on your faith?
Could you explain, please?

but I was tricked to believing that anyone would like me again

Beloved of God (whether you like it or not), this isn't the last girl on earth and you aren't past 18 yet. be encouraged, you need not be tricked! you weren't! you are lovable, likable, and if you try to be the best guy you can be, i'm sure you'll find this out for yourself soon enough. have heart and take courage. don't let some chick determine who you are or who you become.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Wat Ju asked. Why the affect on Faith? If this can shake it, that's not really faith.

Side note. All these threads about "getting played" and I've yet to read one that actually sounds like the poster is really the victim they're making themselves out to be. Just because things don't work out the way you want them doesn't meant the person was out to get you or trying to to hurt you. It's easier though, to make ourselves the victim and focus our dissatisfaction onto that person (or men/women in general) in the form of hatred. Sometimes you don't get what you think you want. That's life.

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

I think many people play, "God on demand." They ask for something and if God doesn't deliver, then the game's over.

Harpuia, look at the bright side. If she did indeed create this much drama in your life, be glad it's done and over!

 

[California Dreamin']

A few years ago I met a guy I really liked online.

He was 18 soon to be 19, in the US Navy, etc. and good looking too.

It turned out that he was really 10 years older than he said, and married. Yep.

 

[chanis]

There was this one girl that I liked, and she really liked me too, or was starting to anyway.

this tells me that you weren't in an official relationship, you were freinds who were just getting to know each other...nothing was established...

I not only got played, but I was tricked to believing that anyone would like me again. Now I'm about to be incredibly sick, yet again. Not to mention, my faith is starting to sway a little again. I'm not sure what to do here...

I don't think you got played...you need to realize that when you're getting to know a perosn many times the perception of the individual you're getting to know is gonna change, not necessarily in a bad way, but you then realize that they're gonna be friends and that's it...and if she decided to move on and not pursue this further in terms of a relationship then suck it up and move on...it happens...why have a pity party and invite the whole world...learn from it and keep walking with your head up...yes you got your feelings hurt but it's not the end of the world...and to go as far as saying

I wonder why I don't deconvert

dude come on...for a girl...obviously there are far more issues affecting your spiritual journey than this chick...sorry to sound so harsh but I just think sometimes we can take things to a whole different level then they should and we start letting it affect our walk...

 

[WalksWithChrist]

dude come on...for a girl...obviously there are far more issues affecting your spiritual journey than this chick...sorry to sound so harsh but I just think sometimes we can take things to a whole different level then they should and we start letting it affect our walk...

I was thinking about saying something like this too. When you are hurt like this I know it's hard to keep things in perspective. You want to push everything away and make the hurt stop, but only time and a little prayer will do that. = ) Keep sluggin dude!

 

[chanis]

I was thinking about saying something like this too. When you are hurt like this I know it's hard to keep things in perspective. You want to push everything away and make the hurt stop, but only time and a little prayer will do that. = ) Keep sluggin dude!

yup...

 

[JPPT1974]

If you meet them online, you don't know them up close & personal. Mean meeting them face-to-face. But they may be one thing but they are another. Like a Jeckell & Hyde personality if you know what I mean.

 

[California Dreamin']

If it long distance and on the Internet, you just should try being friends for awhile and really try to keep your emotions under control.
If you can talk to each other, either on the phone or with microphones, that can help a lot too.
You have to be really careful using the Internet. I have met a lot of great friends who turned out to be excellent people but on the other hand, I have met some people I wish I didn't meet. It's all learning experiences.

 

[hockeysistah12]

I'm 46 and much older than many of you on here and I've experienced the liars and the game players who claim they are interested, but either they have a girlfreind who is committed to or they have mental problems, but they do talk a good game, but when you meet them in person, they are a different bag.

As I mentioned in a previous thread regarding e-harmony, this is one of the reasons which I quit searching for someone online and partipate in "fantasyland"--which these persons talk about and people believe it.

 

[waterbear]

Online relationships tend to not compete well with real-world relationships. Until it's an established real-world relationship, try not to take it too seriously.

 

[hockeysistah12]

Online relationships tend to not compete well with real-world relationships. Until it's an established real-world relationship, try not to take it too seriously.

This is true, however, people should be wise when they search online for a mate.