bedwetting?

[Stringaling]

Okay I know the doctors say that it is not really "bedwetting" until they are 6 years old but My 4year old had rarely had a dry night. She has been potty trained for about 2 1/2 years and daytimes are no problem, but at night she sleeps like a rock! zI tried putting pull ups on her for quite a while, then figured out why they were leaking--she was peeing in them BEFORE she would go to sleep and then again while she was asleep. So, I won't give her pull ups anymore because i cought her many times being lazy and peeing before she went to sleep. i wash her sheets and pj's daily. Does anyone have any suggestions for helping her overcome this?
Oh and yes we cut fluids two hours before bedtime, and make her go right before she crawls into bed.

 

[sara elizabeth]

Don't have any good advice. My oldest did that until he was almost 5 and then suddenly started staying dry. Some children just have smaller bladders, so it takes longer to night train. I noticed that my son still hits the bathroom almost before his eyes are open.

 

[jusluvm]

I had an incident with my little girl when she was 4. For 2 nights in a row she wet the bed. She was more upset than I was about this. I couldn't for the life of me figure out why this was just starting up out of nowhere. I finally realized that she had been drinking Kool Aid or juice at supper time (and later) for the past 2 nights where as she usually had milk. I switched her back to milk only at night and that was the end of the bed wetting.

My older sister was a bedwetter until she left home and my parents put her through pure misery. I know they probably didn't know any better (I keep telling myself this anyway!), but there are much better ways to handle this.

My cousin was also a bedwetter and my Aunt took him to the doctor and got some type of prescription that worked! But I don't think the doctors want to try the medicine until they are a certain age. I know he was about 8 when they tried the meds.

Sometimes I think pull-ups just send a signal to them that they can wet in them and it's OK to do so. I tried using them when we potty trained, but they didn't help the situation at all and probably prolonged the whole thing. Regular underpants send them the message that they can't wet in them without making a mess!

Praying it gets better for you and your little girl.

 

[dews]

Try putting a potty in her room. Maybe she is afraid to go to the bathroom in the dark. Many kids are. We had a potty in our girls' room and it was easy for them to get up and go. Try that. I also used to get up in the middle of the night and wake them up and bring them to the potty.

 

[snarfywarning]

Awww. I am still a bedwetter.

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

My son is seven and still in pull ups every night. We don't make a big deal of it. He is not allowed to drink anything after 6:30pm and he uses the bathroom immediately before getting in bed. Every great once in awhile he leaks through the pull up but we leave an extra set of sheets in his toychest and he changes his sheets himself.

If your little one is still wetting at the age of six, I'd recommend a pediatric urologist. My son was even having accidents (more like leaking) during the day. They had to do a VCUG and surgery. Turns out my son has the bladder of a 70-year old and it is a bit deformed. We suspect it is a result of the many ultrasounds I had to have since I was high risk.

Anyhow, longer story short, the doctor put him on a medication in January that immediately relaxed his bladder and there were no more leaks or accidents during the day. It really hasn't done a whole lot for nighttime though.

I can tell you, boys often wet the beds longer and for many it is normal. Besides cutting off fluids earlier and ensuring a potty-break before bed, take him to the toilet right before you go to sleep. Before my son was on this medication, we did that and it helped.

Were you and hubby bedwetters? If so, at what age did you outgrow it? For many children, that will be the age they outgrow it as well.

Feel free to message me if you have any questions. I've learned an awful lot about the bladder and might even have an answer or two to any of your questions.

 

[christalee4]

My son was having an occasional problem with it, up until he was around 9. He was somewhat overweight, seemed tired a lot of the time, and had enormous tonsils that obstructed his breathing. We got his tonsils out, and now he hasn't had a problem at all.

 

[Puzzled12]

I am telling my story in case someone with a problem with an older child reads this thread. Your daughter does not want to wet the bed and when her body is physically ready she will stop. Keep her doctors informed and they will provide you and her help until her body is ready. My son stopped wetting the bed the summer before he went off to college. As you can imagine we tried everything. He certainly did not want to have the problem himself so when he was older he tried limiting food and fluid intake etc. The medication he was on helped about 75% of the time. He was on medication for years and saw various doctors. Every time he stopped taking the meds he would wet. It was treated like a condition he had no control over in our house, as if he had diabetes and needed insulin. It was not his fault, just an unfortunate condition he had that most people do not. I just did a lot of laundry. Now that he is off to college and I do not see him so much anymore. It seems silly how I use to complain TO MYSELF about changing his sheets all the time. Just make your daughter feel good about herself and reassure her this is not her fault and you do not mind the laundry. We do not know why he just stopped wetting the bed. He did lose some weight but the doctors said that would not be it. It is a mystery.

 

[selune]

We work hard with our 5 year old to get him to the bathroom around 1 or so to help him have an empty bladder. He just does not wake well on his own in the middle of the night. I or my husband walk him to the bathroom and he is essentially asleep. He gets very embarrassed about accidents and tried hiding them. I explained that it wasn't his fault (we'd already reduced drink/ food intake, gone before bed...) and I told him that his body wasn't waking him in time. He now stays dry 95% of the time because we invest a bit extra effort to get him to the bathroom in the middle of the night. It may not work for everyone, but it's worth a try. I think it is also training him to get up around then. By our walking him to the bathroom we're building a routine into his night, that perhaps he'll be able to continue once he's older. Best wishes.

 

[Stringaling]

Thanks everyone. No, my husbasnd nor I were bedwetters, but my aunt told me that one of her sisters was, so maybe it is in the genes. She said that she wet the bet till she got married(EEK)I certainly hope she can outgrow it before then. I decided to get her pull ups for night again. her legs were getting red and raw from being wet while she slept. three days in the oull ups and her legs are looking better. I will talk to her pediatrician next time I am in the office with new baby to see if there is anything else I can do. When the baby used to wake up overnight I would take her to the bathroom but now since he sleeps all night I don't get up. My husband has to get up at 4 AM and to set an alarm to wake me would wake him and since he has to get up early anyway it i hard for him to get enough sleep as it is, so that is why I don't get up in the middle of the night. I am thinking about setting the alarm on my cell phone and having it turned down so only I can hear it, though.

 

[selune]

Just a thought, do either you or your husband get up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom yourselves? That would be a perfect time for you to take her.

 

[VHOLLOWAY]

MY SON WOULD GO IN SPURTS WITH IT. THE ONLY THING I CAN SUGGEST IS FOR YALL TO PRAY OVER HER NOT FOR HER. I WOULD SUGGEST YOUR HUSBAND DOING SO BECAUSE HE IS YOUR COVERING IF HE IS UN ABLE THEN YOU DO SO. REMBER UR DADDY SAID WE ARE ALREADY HEALED WE JUST NEED TO BELIVE AND HAVE FAITH. HE IS THE BEST DR. I KNOW OTHER THEN THAT I WOULD SAY RIDE IT OUT THIS WILL ONLY MAKE YOU STRONGER

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

MY SON WOULD GO IN SPURTS WITH IT. THE ONLY THING I CAN SUGGEST IS FOR YALL TO PRAY OVER HER NOT FOR HER. I WOULD SUGGEST YOUR HUSBAND DOING SO BECAUSE HE IS YOUR COVERING IF HE IS UN ABLE THEN YOU DO SO. REMBER UR DADDY SAID WE ARE ALREADY HEALED WE JUST NEED TO BELIVE AND HAVE FAITH. HE IS THE BEST DR. I KNOW OTHER THEN THAT I WOULD SAY RIDE IT OUT THIS WILL ONLY MAKE YOU STRONGER

I'd like to disagree a bit with this. Prayer is the most powerful thing you can do but having your husband pray too won't magically cure your little one. I was raised with word/faith teachings and they can be quite damaging.

Both my husband and I have prayed for my son and thanks to surgery, we know he has deformities causing these issues. God can heal him but if he chooses not to heal him, we just trust God with him.

Just, please, don't feel like it is lack of faith or prayer causing this. Some people teach that and I've seen it hurt too many people.

God bless.

 

[rocklife]

I used to have this problem, so did my best friend, we both seemed to outgrow the whole thing at 11 years old. I did take one medication that worked, forget what it is, but didn't have the problem anymore when I was 11.

It can be so much work though, with all the sheets and changing clothes every night. Maybe getting the protective underwear is helpful (kind of big diapers).

 

[Stringaling]

I'd like to disagree a bit with this. Prayer is the most powerful thing you can do but having your husband pray too won't magically cure your little one. I was raised with word/faith teachings and they can be quite damaging.

Both my husband and I have prayed for my son and thanks to surgery, we know he has deformities causing these issues. God can heal him but if he chooses not to heal him, we just trust God with him.

Just, please, don't feel like it is lack of faith or prayer causing this. Some people teach that and I've seen it hurt too many people.

God bless.

I totally agree with you. That theology is the best at leading people to atheism. My husband was there and the superficialism that is so inherant that type of teaching causes many to believe that "if this is Chritianity, I want none of it." They neglect to acknowledge that Jesus himself said that Christians will suffer more than non-Christians for His sake...

Back to subject--we have put her back in the pull ups, and I will talk to her doc. I have been reading up on it and since she is only 4 it is not considered a problem yet. I will just have to be patient and as helpful as I can with her.

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

I think pull ups are the way to go. If she's still bedwetting at the age of six see a pediatric urologist.

off topic: is your husband now away from those teachings? You are right about the athiesm. I meet so many people now who came out of these teachings and many of them have just given up entirely on God. I know, for me, trusting God and trusting in God was really tough for awhile. Fortunately, God never let go of me and was ever faithful.

God bless.

 

[selune]

by the way, are you using regular pull ups or the overnight ones? The overnight ones have a better absorbancy and your daughter will be less likely to leak. Good luck.

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

Oh, I agree with Selune. We always call those things pull ups even though we use the overnights.

 

[indagroove]

One more thing that one might think about.

Enough sleep. If our 7yo plays hard and runs till she just falls out. She will sleep really hard, and nature's calling may not wake her. So we try to settle her down way before bedtime, and make sure the bedtime is early enough so she gets plenty of rest. Seems to work good, or maybe she hit the point where she just doesn't wet anymore.

Just a thought

 

[Stringaling]

Oh yeah, we use the goodnites. I am so surprised that even after her going right before she crawls into bed she can still pee like the floodgates were loosed! About her sleeping, I try to get her to nap sometimes during the day, but she just doesn't sleep. She will lay in there for a while and still be wide awake. Very rarely does she actually fall asleep, so when she ges to sleep for the night she is out.

Yea My husband left that church over ten years ago while attending a college based on that faith-kind of difficult-but one of his professors(not of that belief) who was teaching church history opened his eyes to the fact that what they were teaching was not what the apostles were teaching and doing, so he began searching for the true historical church that was founded by Christ himself, and found that it does still exist as Jesus said that it would and so converted from the flawed ways of said sect of Christianity and returned home to the Truth. He says that it makes So much more sense, that things that his previous beliefs left unanswered have been made clear. I have joined him here and there is still so much I have to learn about the Faith I think it will take a lifetime.