Becoming a stripper

[AbigailZ]

I want to have faith. I think I use to have faith. It is just so hard nowadays.

I’m 20 and I’ve been poor my whole life (I can’t even afford the Internet, and have to use my friends house or free spots around the city). Being in this situation unfortunately affected my high school grades.

I see the direction my life is heading. The same direction my parents went. I feel like no matter how hard I work I will just not get out of all of this. I’ve tried many things but always end up in a dead end job (or 2).

The truth is I want to go to University. But right now I have to work really hard just to afford to live. And not live well by any means.

I guess my mind has been in a downward spiral for so long now that I just don’t care. It feels like I am alone in this world. I am considering stripping for money in order to have enough money and time to get ahead for once.

I don’t have faith that God will pull me out of this, and I have to take drastic measures to break out of it.

 

[EbonNelumbo]

Okay, apart from what you don't need to hear, being a stripper is dangerous. My friend is one, and she goes through constant hell.

Also, you don't usually get decent money. Especially in cities where clubs are all over, as they are too far spread, but in the smaller towns, you're usually "labeled" so you're not doing great either way.

 

[jesussaves1234567]

if you work and live in the US, you likely qualify for food money assistance, it is a boost anyway, couple hundred a month for food. if you type in Food stamps and your state, the office should come up in a search quickly, you can print out an application and get an interview, it is easy and definitely worth it if you qualify (working at least 20 hours a week, being 18 or older, and being poor pretty much qualifies you).

Going to University is hard on the budget, a lot of people either take out loans or live with parents and go to community college and live frugally as possible. Do what you can, but stripping is kind of a bad way to go, you are putting yourself out in a bad way, and not really going to be around good stable healthy people. I encourage you not to go there, I hope things get better for you.

 

[salida]

Abig-

Doing this would be a bad start. Plus, surround yourself with things that won't pull you out of christianity along with the help of the Holy Spirit - will you tremendously.

Without the work and power of the Holy Spirit in your life its impossible to be a christian. I don't watch t.v. to very little and surround myself with people who are an inspiration to me spiritually. Yes, its difficult if Paris Hilton is your model.

 

[Sketcher]

If you're a stripper, there are a lot of costs to that lifestyle. There are some former strippers here who can tell you it's not as simple as making a lot of money for a few hours of work per week. There's drugs, there's addiction.

If your finances won't allow you to go to a university for now, try community college. It's a fraction of the cost, lots of the classes transfer, and you have an opportunity to build a good academic record and get a scholarship.

 

[heron]

if you work and live in the US, you likely qualify for food money assistance, it is a boost anyway, couple hundred a month for food. if you type in Food stamps and your state, the office should come up in a search quickly, you can print out an application and get an interview, it is easy and definitely worth it if you qualify (working at least 20 hours a week, being 18 or older, and being poor pretty much qualifies you).

I have met some people who had college and training funded while they were getting off the ground, so look into this too. I'm not just talking about scholarships, Pell and state aid, but something connected with the welfare-to-work programs.

If you're a stripper, there are a lot of costs to that lifestyle.

That is a big life lesson. You probably don't see yourself falling into drug addictions (most don't), but there are other expenses. Theft. Injuries. Retaliating girlfriends and wives. Friends deceiving you. Losing your apartment because your landlord doesn't trust you. Not having job experience you can put on a resume when you decide to stop working there. People who remember you.

You'd think that work is work, and any effort to get ahead will pay off, but I've incurred losses even in the most respectable attempts to get ahead. Just plan your life well... care about yourself, and what your life will look like in five years.

Many of us were too poor for normal conveniences like the Internet when we were younger -- just be patient and keep building up.

 

[KOTTMatt]

Abi don't go down this path, God doesn't want you to give away your body for men to ogle at for money. If you want to go to a university you can apply for Financial Aid and get a student loan.

Abi from what I see you have two choices


1. Become a stripper and have a every every hard life that gets worse every passing day and lots of times your heart will break.


2. You can give a few years away to study for a career you want where many can see you and say hey I want to be successful just like her.

Abi I don't know you and you don't know me but know this God will be with you no matter what and there's nothing you can say or do that will make Him not love you more or less than He already does.

 

[Catherineanne]

I see the direction my life is heading. The same direction my parents went. I feel like no matter how hard I work I will just not get out of all of this.

If this is what you truly believe, then this is what you will get. It is called a 'script' and we all write one for ourselves at a young age, and then follow it.

You need to rewrite that script, and take control of what you want, and most of all of who you want to be.

One way of doing this is to write a plan. Write where you want to be in five years, and in ten years time. Then write down some of the stages you need to go through to get there. If you do not know where you are going, then you will wander aimlessly, perhaps for years. If you do know where you are going, then even if you end up stripping for a living, you will have self respect, and the knowlege that this is just a stepping stone to better things.

I wish you well.

 

[Jetgirl]

I guess my mind has been in a downward spiral for so long now that I just don’t care. It feels like I am alone in this world. I am considering stripping for money in order to have enough money and time to get ahead for once.

Although you may not think so, you may be in a very very good position to qualify for financial aid.

Go talk to a counselor at your local community college, if you're that poor you can get plenty of aid that will cover your living expenses as well as school, and you can use community college classes to build up a better grades record to make a jump to university (much cheaper too).

This is what my husband is currently doing, as he too suffers from abysmal high school grades. He'll have an engineering degree in a few years, and a six-figure career in front of him.

I know stripping sounds like a last ditch try right now, but it is REALLY not a nice job. Go to a strip club some time, those women look that worn out and used up for a reason.

Besides, if stripping pays enough to put you through college, do you really want that history following you around? Stuff will come back and bite you in the butt, especially when you have a good opportunity arise. I'm still trying to outrun things that happened when I was fifteen, which weren't nearly as damaging as stripping, and I've lost several fantastic opportunities over it.

There are other jobs that pay well that don't require degrees that you can get. Heck, you could go be a sanitation engineer at your local water treatment plant. Those folks get paid serious bank, and it will be a nasty job you won't be embarassed to put on your resume later.

 

[OldChurchGuy]

I want to have faith. I think I use to have faith. It is just so hard nowadays.

I’m 20 and I’ve been poor my whole life (I can’t even afford the Internet, and have to use my friends house or free spots around the city). Being in this situation unfortunately affected my high school grades.

I see the direction my life is heading. The same direction my parents went. I feel like no matter how hard I work I will just not get out of all of this. I’ve tried many things but always end up in a dead end job (or 2).

The truth is I want to go to University. But right now I have to work really hard just to afford to live. And not live well by any means.

I guess my mind has been in a downward spiral for so long now that I just don’t care. It feels like I am alone in this world. I am considering stripping for money in order to have enough money and time to get ahead for once.

I don’t have faith that God will pull me out of this, and I have to take drastic measures to break out of it.

It appears many others have given you some great ideas on finance so I will go down a different path.

Once you decide to enroll in a college or university, what field of study do you see as your major?

Sincerely,

OldChurchGuy