Be mindful to others

[rkslperez]

As a military spouse whose husband has done his fair share of deployments.. I think its only fair to others I stay alert to the fact how far we have come and remember someone out there has it worst then me.

I bring this up because a younger wife said to me, her hubby has been gone for two weeks and she is dying..He is in a communications MOS which allows him to talk to her almost everyday. She says she cant make it and if he leaves again she will leave him because she cant do it. I asked "how long will he be gone?"... her reply.. three months..!

Sad to say, my bitter side took over. I could not believe I was hearing a wife say she talks to her hubby everyday.. and will leave him if he leaves again.

Im sorry but please be mindful who you are talking to. That person may have just had their first child without him there. Maybe hasnt talk to her soldier in a month... and it was only since Mid-Desert Storm have families had email and satelitte phones. Some spouses went months before getting letters... some soldiers have been wounded and will return in pieces.

I know people handle things in their own but Tactfulness is something every military member most learn.

thoughts?

 

[WarSong]

To be honest, I think you have a valid point. I've had it hard in my deployments (who doesn't, really?) but I've always kept the knowledge that there are those who are enduring much worse, and sometimes not surviving through it.

I'm sorry you've had it hard. I know this isn't easy for anyone. However, the younger wife may simply be unable to handle the stress - either she didn't understand what she was getting into - or doesn't know how to adjust. I guess I would grant her some leniency, and try to gently open her eyes to the fact of the sacrifices others are making, and that you are there to support one another.