This also happened to me, when I had first been seeking answers. It almost turned me away from faith altogether, God took care of that. But it really makes me angry this is happening to the earnestly seeking. I am not sure that anything could make me angrier! Classifications are just not fair and do not promote a Christ Like attitude. So the site that I had been involved with had so many with these complaints, sharing this same experience we started our own board, for study. Very much like this board with no divisions. Because we all know each other and shared that same hurt and rejection feeling. Sometimes it gets interesting --well OK tense, But I pray every day that we can somehow agree to disagree on the secondary issues. And I am actually seeing growth spiritually for all of us. So far so good!
This board is an excellent place! To learn, I sort of liked it better when we all were together but the differences seemed to cause conflict to edification. I believe this is why they divided us again.
You are absolutely right in being upset about this; I do not believe this is how God intended things to work between us. I do however recognize that some of these boards also do good things. And it is easier for them to stay like-minded. It also shows me a board that needs more spiritual growth in that area (this goes for churches too) IMVHO.
There are so many different Baptist churches. My church is not legalistic, however our sister church a town away seems to be a bit more than we are. It is strange. It really depends on the area and members it seems with my experience with Baptist.
My best friends are Lutheran (Missouri Synod) and it really freaks them out when they hear all the singing at my church. (I am still getting used to it because I came from a fundamental background in that area - none of the new songs all of the old hymns...I am learning!) But I hear the Wells Lutheran are a bit more charismatic.
I would check out the churches in your area, and visit their websites reading their statement of faith. And then visit until you find the right one. I am not so big on the Internet stuff, reality seems a whole lot different that what information you find there!
Someone here might have some ideas...or you can try and ask questions...not sure how broad the answers would be though!
