bad parenting dont always lead to consquences?

[Yoona86]

I watched this old CNN report on this fight between parents that broke out in a kids football match a couple years back.

what I found interesting was in the end of segment, one of the male presenters said something that suggest it is understandable how those parents chose to react the way they did, and seemed to insinuate that aggressiveness and bully like " nice guy finished last" mentality is a good thing to encourage in children, one which he would most probably encourage in his son once his boy gets older...

what frustrates me about those parents is sometimes it seems they teach their kids bad values, and the ones that are reaping the consequences of their bad parenting are other people's children

 

[Avniel]

He said to them, “But now let the one who has a moneybag take it, and likewise a knapsack. And let the one who has no sword sell his cloak and buy one.

My daughter will certainly start taking muy thai class and before she goes to college she will learn how to use a fire arm. The reality people need to learn to defend themselves and not be nice enough that they wont protect themselves.

 

[ValleyGal]

Part of socializing our children is passing on our values to them. Even when this is not a deliberate "I'm going to teach my children my values today" we do show our values in our attitudes, beliefs, how we spend our time, money, talent, and a whole host of other ways.

As adults, we look at others whose values are different than ours, and most of the time we are able to ignore the fact that our values are not the same. Avniel values personal safety and education. Yoona values peace, being nice and good parenting. I value emotional intelligence, common sense, and my faith.

Unfortunately, there are those whose values are totally counter to ours. For example, while I understand Avniel's value to teach his daughter to use a firearm, it is 100% counter to Yoona's value of peace. Iow, if we all taught peace to our children, there would be no need for firearms. But For Av, he knows that even though we might all teach our children peace, there are still those who can't be trusted to keep the peace.

Taking that to a not-so-extreme level, some parents are just bullies, and they will bully other people as well as their children. Then those children will likely grow up to be bullies. It's part of our job as parents to teach values to our children, and unfortunately, those values may not be aligned with our own values and may even be really, really bad values.