Backhanded blessing

KeilCoppes · Nov 4, 2004

Over the last two weeks I've repeatedly come to the conclusion that God is giving me a backhanded blessing. Work has been insane, and my life seems to be reducing to work, CF, some e-mail friends, sleep, and church. I've been coming home after 8 every night after long days and felt the effort having its effects. Although being married would be a blessing, and it would be good to have someone to help rein me in and share life with, at the same time I'm glad that this effort now is not affecting her.

nhzname · Nov 4, 2004

Cool outlook.

1 Thessalonians 5:18

KeilCoppes · Nov 5, 2004

Sometimes those backhanded blessings are painful, but I thank God for what He does give.

Jakobray · Nov 5, 2004

Good Ole God He likes to keep popping us in the mouth and show us stuff. At least thats the way i take it . I'm glad that you are able to see the blessings in this. I don't know if i would be able to at first

drumbum · Nov 5, 2004

i've been working graveyard for about three months now. this has, like your work, reduced my life to work, church, CF, and sleep. BUT, i have learned so much about God and how He is leading my life and certain other things. i guess all this time alone at night, which is not very fun (being a social person), forces me to evaluate what i'm doing and how my walk with God is EVERY NIGHT. it hurts sometimes, but in the long run, i know it will be good for me.

God is good.....ALL THE TIME.

KeilCoppes · Nov 5, 2004

drumbum said:
... i guess all this time alone at night, which is not very fun (being a social person), forces me to evaluate what i'm doing and how my walk with God is ..... it hurts sometimes, but in the long run, i know it will be good for me. .... God is good.....ALL THE TIME.

Absolutely true. I'm another of those people who is built to be relationship with others. At times it seems that God has practically decreed that I be alone. While it is often painful, it does tend to focus the thoughts immensely. He is still good.

Nico · Nov 5, 2004

hehe i think my life seems to be filled with more backhanded blessings than face-forward ones. but it's alright. at least they're blessings
i think a huge component of wisdom is the ability to life as all blessings--be them backhanded or face-forward. the ability to recognize that and learn from that is one of the most valuable things you can have in this life.

i had a backhanded blessing last night. my girlfriends and i went out to the bars last night. all of my friends got hit on, and i didn't and for some reason it made me feel a little badly about myself. i went home feeling a bit rejected. but then i remembered that i've decided that i'd like to start dating christians--and while there are christians in the bars i go to, i haven't bumped into them yet. and looking back on all the conversations last night i'm sorta glad that i didn't have to deal. i mean, how long can you discuss your toothbrush? so rather than feeling like no one thought i was pretty, no one thought i was interesting, i'm thinking that God was just looking out for me....?

nhzname · Nov 5, 2004

Nico said:
so rather than feeling like no one thought i was pretty, no one thought i was interesting, i'm thinking that God was just looking out for me....?

Praise His name for hidden blessings!

KeilCoppes · Nov 5, 2004

Nico said:
i mean, how long can you discuss your toothbrush?

Bar Guy: Hi, how are you doing?
Nico: Just fine - I have a really cool toothbrush.
BG: Really?
Nico: Yes, it has really fantastic bristles.
BG: Wow, I've really been looking for a Christian woman who's into dental hygene equipment.... What kind of floss do you use?

JPPT1974 · Nov 5, 2004

If the Lord Almighty wants you all to have a relationship, that is his way and calling to you. But there could be a reason or several reasons that He wants you to in his words, "play with caution" since we are his children and doesn't want us to be hurt. Because he cares for us.

Nico · Nov 5, 2004

KeilCoppes said:
Bar Guy: Hi, how are you doing?
Nico: Just fine - I have a really cool toothbrush.
BG: Really?
Nico: Yes, it has really fantastic bristles.
BG: Wow, I've really been looking for a Christian woman who's into dental hygene equipment.... What kind of floss do you use?

my goodness, i thought type of toothbrush would be on the top of everyone's ideal mate list....

Ithilwyn · Nov 5, 2004

Yeah, I think I can relate to the backhanded blessings. Anytime I start to feel sorry for myself and lonely, I just remember that there are a lot of things that I would not have been able to do if I wasn't single. I definitely would not have been able to teach full time, work on my MA, and remain sane. (Okay, the sanity is still in question, but at least it's not too obvious a problem.) I also wouldn't be able to do as much travelling as I do. (It's really easy to stay somewhere for two or three weeks when you can crash on a friend's couch.) Doesn't always fix the feeling sorry for myself feeling, but at least it makes it less intense, and it usually side-tracks my brain enough that I start planning next summer's vacation.

JPPT1974 · Nov 6, 2004

If God wants you to have a mate that is fine. But for several reasons why He probably doesn't want like you, me and/or any other single people to have a mate and stay content with being single. Just look at it that way like my friends.

KeilCoppes · Nov 6, 2004

Or perhaps in my case it's where he would have me yesterday or today. There's no telling about tomorrow. Besides, I think they lost my order for the monk's robe. :^)

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