Bachelor Parties

[Alineko]

My boyfriend went to a friends Bachelor Party the other day. His friend besides becoming very intoxicating didn't do anything regretful. But this got us on the topic of whats exceptable at Bachelor Parties. He thinks it's okay to say take a shot off of some strange girls bra because after all after your married you can't do that anymore, and yet he wouldn't do that now despite the fact were not getting married.

So the question is... what do you guys term as acceptable behavior for a Bachelor Party?

 

[mmreed]

well, morally none of that is acceptable.

Morally, there should be nothing at a party to tempt you, and your "friends" should not place you in that position in the first place.

Just as the TV and Media have grown morally corrupt, many people's views on "what is acceptable" have grown even further corrupt. Society seems to be moving fast towards immorality and the attitude of "Sexual Promiscuity is OK". This all contributes to what people seem to think is acceptable behavior.

I know it is cliche, but What Would Jesus Do?

We all sin, but if we step back and realize that the media, and society is pushing us in a certain direction, we may at least be able to recognize some sins before they happen, rather than just commiting them under the guise of "gee...I thought it was acceptable in today's world".

 

[Saviot'Valuan]

Hmm.. I went to my fathers bachelors party (wierd huh?)
Actually, I hosted it. We went out and saw Pirates of the Caribean on opening day and ate at his favorite restaurant. It's not much compared to what goes on out there, but I would much rather celebrate the fact that I am getting married than have a party in the honor that I could never do a certain list of things again.. also to mention that those things shouldn't have been done in the first place. Anyway, the company is what's important.

 

[SirKenin]

My idea of a bachelors party is my friends getting together over a case of beer. I do not understand the need for suggestive and sexually provocative actions with women (and I am very open minded, moreseo than most).

 

[JWBZ SVT]

I wouldn't want anything of the sort at mine. I would want to hang out with the guys and talk, go out to eat, go fishing, play golf, whatever that I would do with my girl.

 

[JustLiz87]

Well, my boyfriend and I have discussed this exact topic. We both feel that alcohol is okay as long as you don't abuse it. Furthermore, neither of us agree with the sexual parts such as stripping ad other things. I think both of us feel that the bachelor or bachelorette party is more of a time to celebrate the wedding that is soon to come rather than what is to be lost. Once you are married, you gain new obligations. I think that this party is the time to celebrate the last time you will be out with your friends without the responsibilities of a married man or woman.

Liz

 

[plum]

my SO and I don't like bachelor/bachelorette parties (the way they're usually done) one bit honestly. But I do like my brother's version of it. He had his two best friends and his bro-in-law/father-in-law over to our house and they drank mt. dew or beer and had pizza and played video games and watched football... sounds pretty fun to me!

i think i'd like to have a fling with my lfriends before getting married, but why just with my girls? i have so many guy friends i would like to hang with too. i'd much rather have my FH and I just have a big laser tagging party or scavenger hunt or something.

 

[California Dreamin']

I talked to my boyfriend, and he thinks a Bachelor party involving girls is wrong. There was an episode of Dr. Phil and the fiance wanted a Bachelor party with strippers, and his fiancee was like no way... she ended up getting him to agree with her. That is how my boyfriend and I got talking about it...
Anyway, I love bowling and that is probably what I will do for my Bachelorette party... I do not have many girl friends though.

 

[InTheFlame]

My (oh-so-humble) opinion is... start out in things the way you intend to continue. If strip clubs and quick flings (as long as they 'don't mean anything to you') are going to be OK within marriage, doesn't make sense to avoid it during the bachelor party, does it? But if you're committed to loving someone and building a life of intimacy and trust together... then surely stereotypical bachelor party behaviour isn't much of an indicator of your esteem for those things? Know what I mean?

 

[PurpleBunny]

I've already told my girls that I don't want to go to the bar or have a stripper for my Bachelorette. Two of them aren't into that anyway so it should be good... it's my Maid of Honor who was harder to convince!

As for Chris, thankfully he's just wanting to have a LAN party with the guys! I'm not too keen on the whole stripper scene anyway (it's just a seemingly less offensive branch of the porn industry, in my opinion) so I'm glad it's not even an issue for us.

 

[Alineko]

I'm proud to say that after showing my boyfriend my post here he said not to worry he wouldn't do anything inappropriate at his bachelor party should we ever decide to marry. I rather feel he's doing it more for me then because he so much agrees but it's a start. Thanks for all your replies.

 

[joeman1]

Personally I think I would rather spend the night before my wedding talking with my family and get to know whats going to happen down the road but thats just me.

 

[SirKenin]

...he said not to worry he wouldn't do anything inappropriate at his bachelor party should we ever decide to marry.

Nice

 

[LiberatedChick]

My husband and I had a joint hen and stag party (that's what we call bachelorette and bachelor parties here). We weren't worried about what the other would do but rather what the people we were going to be with (his family mainly) would do to us. We had heard all kinds of plans they were thinking about so we figured there's safety in numbers and so insisted on a joint thing.

 

[bliz]

A popular bachelor's party for Christian guys around here is paint ball. They get together and play and have dinner afterwards - some place pretty informal - and have a great time!

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

If you're suggesting paint ball - make sure you also suggest they hold the buck/bachelor party at least 2 weeks before the wedding...

Them there paint balls leave HUGE bruises! Especially if you're the groom!

For what it's worth - my bf would like to go to laser skirmish when it's time for a bucks night - no chance of bruising there!

Sasch

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I think that bachelor parties...have the potential be a strong indication that the groom to be still has some growing up to do before getting married.
Not all bachelor parties, just some of them.

 

[bliz]

If you're suggesting paint ball - make sure you also suggest they hold the buck/bachelor party at least 2 weeks before the wedding...

Them there paint balls leave HUGE bruises! Especially if you're the groom!
Sasch

Excellent point!

 

[Pope Gonzo]

Whirlyball. Best. Bachelor party. Ever.

 

[SirKenin]

Bachelor parties to me are nothing more than a celebration of what's coming the next day. If I'm going to get married in an actual ceremony, considering my disdain for the whole concept and what a ridiculous waste of money it is, it's going to be with the woman who spoils and pampers me and it will be a celebration of the beginning of the rest of my life. If I actually break down and get married in a church instead of a common-law marriage, that means I found the best woman evah and I want to celebrate it.