Baby blues

[angelsamongus]

Anyone have baby blues off and on for five months? I don't think I'm depressed, but I don't remember going through this much emotional ups and downs this long with my first to. It,s almost like being pregnant again. (I have took a test it was negative.) My husband said it was this bad last time, but I don't remember it like this. Please help, I don't know what to do. I am tired of being like this and I just need to see a light at the end of the tunnel. Please pray for me! Thanks.

 

[ChildByGrace]

Hi. Sorry your going through this. I'm not sure what the set up is with the US but over here we see a health visitor with any concerns about our babies. They are also there if we have any concerns with ourselves. Do you have anyone like that you could just talk to?

While I don't think I suffered with the baby blues, I was very surprised to find that almost straight after having my daughter I felt better, more bouncy, than I had felt since I fell pregnant with my firstborn. I think that works out at about 3 years I didn't feel great. I wonder now if I had baby blues for that time.

How much sleep are you getting at the moment? And how old are your other children?

Tiredness will be a major factor in how you feel.

 

[angelsamongus]

I get usually get around 7 hours of sleep in a row. I don't talk to anyone in the health department but, I have talked with my pastors wife and that was helpful. My other two boys do add to the frustration. They are 4 and 2. They are all different. This by far has been the easiest recovery, so I don't know why I get frustrated.

 

[Just4Jesus]

Anyone have baby blues off and on for five months? I don't think I'm depressed, but I don't remember going through this much emotional ups and downs this long with my first to. It,s almost like being pregnant again. (I have took a test it was negative.) My husband said it was this bad last time, but I don't remember it like this. Please help, I don't know what to do. I am tired of being like this and I just need to see a light at the end of the tunnel. Please pray for me! Thanks.

hey hon, Micah is gonna be 8 months soon and I still have ups and downs.. I have not slept through the night in over 4 years. Between my 3 year old and my last, I have slept maybe 4 to 5 hours at a time but not through the night. I am so used to it now but it can get too ya sometimes. I hope you feel better soon. Gonna be praying for you

 

[angelsamongus]

Thanks

 

[ChildByGrace]

I get usually get around 7 hours of sleep in a row. I don't talk to anyone in the health department but, I have talked with my pastors wife and that was helpful. My other two boys do add to the frustration. They are 4 and 2. They are all different. This by far has been the easiest recovery, so I don't know why I get frustrated.

You do well in the sleep department so that's good.
If there is someone you can talk to regularly then that'd be good for you-just to kind if let the frustration out. I really feel for you-my 3 year old drives me up the walls sometimes and I really appriciate the people who let me talk to them about it.

Do you get frustrated with the baby or with the other boys?

 

[Just4Jesus]

^my 3 year old really tries me! He is so different from my other 4, sometimes I think he may have been switched at birth!

 

[angelsamongus]

I get mostly frustrated with the other two older boys. The baby is mostly good except when he's teething or tired.

 

[ChildByGrace]

He sounds like my little one.

It may well be that rather than it being 'baby blues' that it's just tiredness etc in relation to dealing with your older boys-I know my 3yo makes me feel like all I'm fit for is the nut house lol

 

[bliz5]

Newborn, two and four? You're in the thick off it, aren't you? It will get better, it really will, but I understand why you may not be able to see that right now.

You need to take of youself because parenting as a marathon, not a sprint. Seven hour of sleep in the minimum you should be getting. I know, that's real funny, but try and get more when you can. Can you lay down with the baby at nap time? Are you continuing to take your vitamins? Eating well?

Friends of mine had a pattern that might work for you. They would have family dinner, and then hubby would take over being in charge for getting the table cleared and dinner put away and bathtime. Do you have a chest carrier or backpack for baby? While hubby is in charge, you take a long bath, or go for a walk, meet a friend, read a book or whatever you wish. Rejoin the family for good-nights. You've had a well reserved break, dad had time alone to work on being a dad, the kids have had a break from you! It's worked well for them.