Avoiding Me Or Just busy?

[HolyOne87]

Ok, i only saw my significant other once this week(Monday)..thats fine..but i havent heard from him since that one day. I've sent text messages to him(not asking him why he isnt responding to me), and left him 2 voicemails(one i was rather depressed because I thought I lost my best friend--and I didnt, thankfully) and still got nothing. I sent him a text message yesterday saying, happy one month anniversary..and got nothing in return.
And I am sure he is online now(on myspace it tells you if the person is logged in or not). And I sent him an email saying jokingly, "yeah I hope i'd get lucky and catch you online at some point".
He hasnt come online yet and i sent that message an hour ago.
Do you feel he is avoiding me? Or do you think he is busy? I mean, I know he works at night sometimes and has day shifts too. I know that might be it, but i figured id at least hear from him yesterday because of our 1 month anniversary..
im so confused..
what would you all interpret this as if you were in my shoes?

 

[f U z ! o N]

the only way to figure it out i guess would be to ask him why he hasn't hardly talked to you. i don't care how busy you are, you can still take time to talk to the person you love and care about

 

[HolyOne87]

I would ask, but he hasnt been online and he doesnt really return my calls or text messages.
i guess I am going to continue to sit online..hoping he pops on..somehow I doubt that.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Ok, i only saw my significant other once this week(Monday)..thats fine..but i havent heard from him since that one day. I've sent text messages to him(not asking him why he isnt responding to me), and left him 2 voicemails(one i was rather depressed because I thought I lost my best friend--and I didnt, thankfully) and still got nothing. I sent him a text message yesterday saying, happy one month anniversary..and got nothing in return.
And I am sure he is online now(on myspace it tells you if the person is logged in or not). And I sent him an email saying jokingly, "yeah I hope i'd get lucky and catch you online at some point".
He hasnt come online yet and i sent that message an hour ago.
Do you feel he is avoiding me? Or do you think he is busy? I mean, I know he works at night sometimes and has day shifts too. I know that might be it, but i figured id at least hear from him yesterday because of our 1 month anniversary..
im so confused..
what would you all interpret this as if you were in my shoes?

Im sorry to say this, but I think that he is avoiding you. I was in a situation like that, and I made the mistake of being too available to him. You said you have been only together for a month, and that is really not that long. Nobody is that busy, if he had courtesy he would at least text you and say he was busy or something. Honestly, how long does it take to respond to a text or answer an email? If you want to do something then you make time for it. This guy is not worth your time and you should just forget about him. Lay off for a week or so, don't call, text, or e-mail, and by all means do not sit around and wait for him online., and see what happens. If he contacts you, let him know that will not be treated like that, and if he doesn't well then theres your answer. You still have a life that you need to live so don't sit around waiting for him, you deserve to be treated much better then this guy is treating you. I would say move on, because you deserve so much better. I will be praying for you.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I don't remember back when I was your age, but I have found lately that my instincts are usually right. I say usually because I was sure the guy that I'm dating now was going to break up with me after I shared some private stuff with him and he didn't call me all day even after I tried to contact him. Turns out he had sent me a text message, but I don't always get reception at work. Other than that, I've been right on.

How old is the guy? Is he a Christian? If this turns out to be just too much work you're still going to need to talk about this. Guys need to learn eventually what we need-like frequent reminders that they are thinking of us.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

Hmm...I would ask him why. We can all make our assumptions. Me, I would assume that he was avoiding me.

 

[~Nikki~]

Im sorry to say this, but I think that he is avoiding you. I was in a situation like that, and I made the mistake of being too available to him. You said you have been only together for a month, and that is really not that long. Nobody is that busy, if he had courtesy he would at least text you and say he was busy or something. Honestly, how long does it take to respond to a text or answer an email? If you want to do something then you make time for it. This guy is not worth your time and you should just forget about him. Lay off for a week or so, don't call, text, or e-mail, and by all means do not sit around and wait for him online., and see what happens. If he contacts you, let him know that will not be treated like that, and if he doesn't well then theres your answer. You still have a life that you need to live so don't sit around waiting for him, you deserve to be treated much better then this guy is treating you. I would say move on, because you deserve so much better. I will be praying for you.

I agree with this. Don't text him or email him, or hang around waiting for him to come online. If he's interested he'll contact you, and if he doesn't then he's not interested...

sorry, I know that came across as quite harsh and I didn't mean it to...just didn't know how else to say it.

 

[Alenci]

That sounds suspicious to me. I think he is avoiding you. I know that's probably not what you wanted to hear. I'm sorry.

 

[hasnoname]

I dont know about other guys, but when I like a girl...especially in that infatuation period (around the first month)...I cant stop talking to her and wanting to see her.

You deserve someone who will pursue you...in a Godly way...but still pursue you.

 

[HolyOne87]

I know someone asked how old he is..he is 21(will be 22 in august). He is a Christian, but doesnt go to church too often(mostly because of work).
I mean, the first few weeks he always loved hanging with me and he was perfectly fine Monday night after we finished paintballing(he was very happy). Unless something happened that I dont know of.
and sometimes it hard for me not to be online because most of the time i am(so I can talk to friends and stuff).
I know he spent an aweful a lot of time with me since we started dating...and he didnt hang with his friends too much(even though I encouraged him to do that)...so that might be what he is doing too...who knows..
I might give it a few days..and see what happens..
i'm even tempted to contact his best friend(since him and I somewhat talk...not heavily..maybe every here and there..i just met him 2 weeks ago).
what do you think?

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

I know someone asked how old he is..he is 21(will be 22 in august). He is a Christian, but doesnt go to church too often(mostly because of work).
I mean, the first few weeks he always loved hanging with me and he was perfectly fine Monday night after we finished paintballing(he was very happy). Unless something happened that I dont know of.
and sometimes it hard for me not to be online because most of the time i am(so I can talk to friends and stuff).
I know he spent an aweful a lot of time with me since we started dating...and he didnt hang with his friends too much(even though I encouraged him to do that)...so that might be what he is doing too...who knows..
I might give it a few days..and see what happens..
i'm even tempted to contact his best friend(since him and I somewhat talk...not heavily..maybe every here and there..i just met him 2 weeks ago).
what do you think?

DO NOT contact his best friend. You really need to give it some time. By doing this you are showing this guy that his behavior is acceptable and it is not in any way. You really need to back off a little bit and really determine if you wanted to be treated like this. I really hope that you will pray about this, because this guy is really not worth your time. He may be saying one thing, but his actions the past week have shown otherwise. You really do deserve better and I hope that you realize that.

 

[HolyOne87]

well, I got answers. He's just been really busy with work(which is what I assumed).. he has been trying to do a lot before he goes away in a week.
He texted me telling me that was what was up with him. So, i am glad i heard from him and I am also glad that he wasnt avoiding me. I knew he wasnt one to do something like that(avoid me).

Thanks Everyone for your words and stuff.

 

[Alenci]

He TEXTED you to tell you that????!

 

[HolyOne87]

yeah..because I told him in a text before that, that i was concerned about him.we are hanging out today and a couple of days this week since he didnt get to last week..He felt bad.he also called me this morning too, apologizing for not getting back to me.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

yeah..because I told him in a text before that, that i was concerned about him.we are hanging out today and a couple of days this week since he didnt get to last week..He felt bad.he also called me this morning too, apologizing for not getting back to me.

I really think that you need to guard your heart and be careful. If he is doing this, this soon in the relationship I really think that you should pray about it. It was not at all okay that he waited a week to contact you, especially when you had repeatedly tried to contact him. I am glad that he finally got back to you, but I highly doubt this will be the last time something like this happens, believe me, I've been through it. Just be careful and guard your heart.