Avoiding friend zone plan?

[Jamie1]

Hey, I'm 16 (why isn't there a board here for people my age?), and I have liked a certain girl in my debate club for a couple of years.

I have done maybe six different things for her like giving an encouraging call, giving her a jacket when she was cold, etc. She's been grateful for all of them.

However, the unfortunate truth I have read is that nice guys like I'm being generally get friend zoned. I would be very, very sad if this happened to me later in life.

Since I'm 16 and she's 15, I'm not going to pursue a courting relationship until she's at least 20. So that's at least 5 years that I'll know her, without being able to give the hint that I like her in a different way than just a friend.

What should I do to avoid her seeing me as a friend and nothing but? Should I actually mention at this age that I like her if she calls me a friend or something, or is it better to wait, etc.

What is the best course of action?

I'm very worried about this. Very, very worried. She's just the perfect girl for me. I believe I'm the perfect guy for her.

Thanks.

 

[hedrick]

I won't comment on your main question. You probably want another teen to do that. But there is a group for you: the teen section, at the bottom of "Ministry". There's an older teens section for 16-19. The main difference is that adults aren't allowed to respond in teens. They don't seem to be prohibited here.

 

[Godzila]

dane dude...that's a long time.

That time better spent focusing on the LORD and perhaps....she might fall in love for you in the future because of it. If not Her....somebody definitely will.

Trust me man, i had those feelings back when i was 13-16. My time spent better doing something else.

 

[BlueJay83]

Hey, I'm 16 (why isn't there a board here for people my age?), and I have liked a certain girl in my debate club for a couple of years.

I have done maybe six different things for her like giving an encouraging call, giving her a jacket when she was cold, etc. She's been grateful for all of them.

However, the unfortunate truth I have read is that nice guys like I'm being generally get friend zoned. I would be very, very sad if this happened to me later in life.

Since I'm 16 and she's 15, I'm not going to pursue a courting relationship until she's at least 20. So that's at least 5 years that I'll know her, without being able to give the hint that I like her in a different way than just a friend.

What should I do to avoid her seeing me as a friend and nothing but? Should I actually mention at this age that I like her if she calls me a friend or something, or is it better to wait, etc.

What is the best course of action?

I'm very worried about this. Very, very worried. She's just the perfect girl for me. I believe I'm the perfect guy for her.

Thanks.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to date at your age, everyone does but the reality is... you're too young to be courting.
You can't court with intention of marriage if you are still having dinners cooked for you by mom and don't even have a drivers license yet (Just being realistic here).

Fact is.. if you want her tell her and make the move.
If you don't man-up she will end up with the guy who had the stones to make it happen.

It's simple.. just be honest, tell her you want to get to know her, suggest a coffee/lunch/walk and see what she says.
Don;t beg, cry or gush how emotional you're feeling... just say it straight that you think she's nice and you want to hang out to see if something more develops.
If she seems indifferent, don't ask WHY, accept it and move on.
Also, dont play the TXT/Facebook game either... hanging on for her every message.

If you beg for her like a puppy at her feet, you're not a challenge.
If a girl sees a "great guy like him" is so head over heels for her, then she will think she can probably do better and move on.
Argue and debate it.. it's truth.

man-up, ask her out, if she says no that's cool.. you're a guy with options and move on.

 

[PRISONERxOFxMERCY]

Just trust in the Lord, and wait on Him to send you the right one, whether or not its the one your talking about. And as for what BlueJay83 said its the truth, I know from experience.

 

[RobertMerton]

the only way is to keep your distance from her until you are ready to date.

avoiding the friend zone is easy,
don't be her friend.

 

[Typoe99]

In all honestly I sort of believe the friendzone is a myth, this is coming from a guy who is essentially friendzoned at the moment but it was for good reasons im not going to go into detail right now. The best way to form a future relationship is to be friends and get to know them as a friend. Just always be yourself and she will end up loving you for you and if she doesnt think of it as more of a loss for her than for you. Just hang in there bud if she isnt the right one another will always come who will love you for you

 

[GNJ]

The "friend zone" DOES NOT EXIST. I hate seeing things like this. If a girl just sees you qas a friend you just have to accept that. It's possible that this girl will always just see you as a friend and you can't manipulate that, and it is also possible that she's into you. Just gotta wait and see, man.

 

[kimsg]

i know a father of 4 daughters from 16-22 and he gave them all the same advice. dating in high school inevitably ends in heartbreak, and even worse sometimes. so as it is written, Despise not thy youth.

 

[TheThirdMan]

If you like her, make a move.

If she says she just wants to be friends, accept that and move on.

 

[tbogunro]

Hey, I'm 16 (why isn't there a board here for people my age?), and I have liked a certain girl in my debate club for a couple of years.

I have done maybe six different things for her like giving an encouraging call, giving her a jacket when she was cold, etc. She's been grateful for all of them.

However, the unfortunate truth I have read is that nice guys like I'm being generally get friend zoned. I would be very, very sad if this happened to me later in life.

Since I'm 16 and she's 15, I'm not going to pursue a courting relationship until she's at least 20. So that's at least 5 years that I'll know her, without being able to give the hint that I like her in a different way than just a friend.

What should I do to avoid her seeing me as a friend and nothing but? Should I actually mention at this age that I like her if she calls me a friend or something, or is it better to wait, etc.

What is the best course of action?

I'm very worried about this. Very, very worried. She's just the perfect girl for me. I believe I'm the perfect guy for her.

Thanks.

Hey man trust me. Don't rely on your feelings especially at this age, it can play crazy tricks on you. I'll keep it real...wanna avoid the friend zone? Tell her how you feel ASAP! You might not like her response but yes get it out the way. Word of advice neither one of you are ready for any sort of relationship, don't go down that road yet