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~Beauty_from_Pain~

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Can a person (guy in this case) be attracted to thin people AND people who carry extra weight on them? If a person finds theirself constantly attracted to women who are thin/fit/etc, and yet they are with someone who does not fit that profile, does that mean that they shouldn't be with the person that they're with? Is it being hypocritical to tell the person that you're with (the one with the extra weight) that they are attractive, and yet are drawn to strangers who are thin and in shape?
 

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There are two kinds of attractive. There is the kind that starts on the outside and has to do with lust. Then there is the kind that starts on the inside and has to do with love. The second kind is the enduring kind that doesn't fade with age.

My future wife is my ideal physically, but it is because all of her inner qualities make her attractive and desirable and sexy. She is also good looking, anyone would agree. But not everyone would agree with me that she's the best looking woman in the world. But to me, she is.

Other women don't turn my head. They can't hold a candle to her. When a woman comes into view where I can notice something attractive about her or where I can see that her clothing is provocative, I look towards Sara. If we're not together at the time, I look elsewhere (the ceiling or the sky are usually good options.) It's absolutely untrue that men can't help looking.

A guy who expresses attraction to other women needs to work on honoring and respecting the woman he is with.
 
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What's more important is focusing on the inner beauty than on the outer beauty. The fact is...all of us will get old and wrinkly someday. So physical beauty is only that...just physical. Inner beauty goes deeper to the heart of someone. It's not hypocritical to be physically attracted to thin people while professing love for someone heavier in weight because oftentimes the inner beauty compensates for the outer beauty.

While the outer beauty fades, the inner beauty of our souls is what glows forever and shine's the light of Christ.
 
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Carri20 said:
You'd be surprised how attractive the outside can become when inner attraction already exists.
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Fantastic point!!
My fiance is a big guy, he's tall but he's also a bit overweight. My ex was tall (shorter than my fiance though) and was muscley - nice bod etc.

My fiance has the handsomest inner beauty that i have ever come across. He is the most perfect guy for me and i absolutely LOVE him - everything about him. We were friends to start with and as i grew closer to him - external looks faded totally into the distance, it would never have mattered what he looked like at all. (He's not hideous i need to add, i think he's handsome and i don't care what others think.)

My ex however, had the good body, nice looks and really didn't have inner beauty. The longer i was with him the uglier he became - his looks didn't change at all - but his inner attractiveness eventually showed through.
 
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I was actually talking with my boyfriend about this point last night. He is a bigger guy, I consider it mostly muscle and strength but he is always asking how someone like him ended up with someone like me, physically I do find him attractive! But I think his inner beauty, and handsomness is amazing...

He isn't the body type that I thought I would be attracted to but I am more attracted to him than anyone else!

It just goes to show what we think we want, isn't always what God has for us and what God has for us is always more amazing and wonderful than what we thought we wanted!
 
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Carri20 said:
I guess I'm kinda lucky.. My fiance is exactly my preferred type on the inside and the outside. I don't know how that happened but uhh, praise God! lol
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Have you met him in person, or are you still just chatting on the internet with him?
 
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