Asking God for a sign about a lost love

[Jim444]

Brothers and sisters in Christ,
I (21) come to you tonight with a heavy heart, asking for your prayers and guidance.

There is a girl (20) I love deeply. From the beginning, our connection felt truly special—we had amazing chemistry, we complemented each other in every way, and I truly believed she was the one God had sent into my life. She approached me first, made plans for a future together, and made many heartfelt promises. She was a virgin, inexperienced in love, and everything between us felt pure and full of potential.

But recently, everything changed. She told me she no longer feels the same, and all those promises faded. I’ve been left confused and heartbroken, unable to stop thinking of her. A part of me still feels that she’s struggling with her feelings too—that maybe she’s afraid, unsure, or overwhelmed.

Yesterday, before I go to sleep, I’ve asked God from the depths of my heart to give me a sign. I need to know: Did He allow this separation for a reason, to help us both grow and maybe reunite when we are ready for something stronger and lasting? Or is it truly over forever?

I am ready to accept either path. I trust His will, but I need clarity. I am constantly anxious, stuck in uncertainty, and unable to move forward. I’m not asking for comfort—I’m asking for truth, so I can finally walk in peace, whatever that may look like.

Please, if you can, say a small prayer for me tonight. Ask that God reveals the truth to me in a way I can understand, and if it’s His will, that He brings healing and eventual reconciliation—or peace to move on.

May Christ be with all of you, and thank you for listening.

 

[All Becomes New]

Having had my heart broken by a girl, what you are experiencing is normal. It's normal to want to hang onto the relationship even when it is over. Thinking about a future possibility with her when she has already broken it off is a sign of denial and grief.

I was there, so I know how much it sucks. I won't tell you to get over it or to move on. You are going to have to go through a grieving process.

If she said she doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore, take that as final.

I sympathize. I am sorry you are going through this. I know it is hard. But based on everything you said, it's over.

 

[Jim444]

Having had my heart broken by a girl, what you are experiencing is normal. It's normal to want to hang onto the relationship even when it is over. Thinking about a future possibility with her when she has already broken it off is a sign of denial and grief.

I was there, so I know how much it sucks. I won't tell you to get over it or to move on. You are going to have to go through a grieving process.

If she said she doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore, take that as final.

I sympathize. I am sorry you are going through this. I know it is hard. But based on everything you said, it's over.

I really appreciate your response and the honesty behind it. I understand where you're coming from, and I know you're trying to protect me from clinging to something that may already be over — I respect that.

That said, I just wanted to add a bit more context, because I think it shows that the situation is a little more complex. At the end of our last conversation (on Monday 14/4), she sent me a voice message where she said: "Now that it seems we’re on the same page and this is coming to an end, I can speak to you more calmly and openly — unlike before when I was more distant and firm for various reasons. I didn’t want to leave the door open for something serious between us. About what you said regarding me being in a cycle of uncertainty — I don’t disagree. It’s very possible that I’m caught in such a pattern and don’t even realize it. And if at some point in the future I feel like reaching out to you, I probably will."

To me, that didn’t sound like someone who’s 100% emotionally detached. I’m not holding on to false hope — I know I have to process things and move forward — but I also don’t think it’s as black-and-white as “she’s done and it’s over.”

 

[Richard T]

This might be a somewhat tough read for you but still worthwhile. It basically suggests that you have to trust God for a spouse and not a specific person. Things sometimes change in relationships, for all kinds of reasons. It is hard to know if she is going to circle back or not. So again you are left with having to trust God. Sorry that is no easy answer but I think that whatever happens you are going to be a better person. On the Matter of a Mate - Rhema

When i was near your age, some years ago I was with a woman and we were considering marriage. We had been seeking God in this and one day while we were praying it was like Jesus came into the room. I laid prostrate as I felt he was there. I knew she sometimes had visions and just waited respectfully, yet in awe of the presence of God. After a minute or so, she told me what she saw. Jesus came to her and told her directly that he loved her, and that he loved me. But that is was up to us as to whether we wanted to get married. So while others might say that God told them to marry, I wonder if always that is true. Especially after some of them still wind up in divorce. Instead, I think that God gives free will, though it does sometimes feel like destiny with someone special.
In our case, our plans fell apart. When you are young it is hard to know what you want. Marriages that God commands do exist in the bible but they are rare.
God too could give you a sign, but even better is if you would trust him and learn to control the emotional roller coaster that you are certainly on. I think that everyone in love has been on that roller coaster, yet some it hits so much harder than others. Whatever the outcome is, you are going to make it through.
It would be good if you had someone with experience in love to talk things through. I think it is good to share with any close friend you have especially. Hopefully, they will not be like Job's friends, but ones that can really know God and his heart on such a matter. No matter what though, there is peace from God. Give the burden to him. Many blessings, discernment and guidance may you also receive.

 

[Jim444]

This might be a somewhat tough read for you but still worthwhile. It basically suggests that you have to trust God for a spouse and not a specific person. Things sometimes change in relationships, for all kinds of reasons. It is hard to know if she is going to circle back or not. So again you are left with having to trust God. Sorry that is no easy answer but I think that whatever happens you are going to be a better person. On the Matter of a Mate - Rhema

When i was near your age, some years ago I was with a woman and we were considering marriage. We had been seeking God in this and one day while we were praying it was like Jesus came into the room. I laid prostrate as I felt he was there. I knew she sometimes had visions and just waited respectfully, yet in awe of the presence of God. After a minute or so, she told me what she saw. Jesus came to her and told her directly that he loved her, and that he loved me. But that is was up to us as to whether we wanted to get married. So while others might say that God told them to marry, I wonder if always that is true. Especially after some of them still wind up in divorce. Instead, I think that God gives free will, though it does sometimes feel like destiny with someone special.
In our case, our plans fell apart. When you are young it is hard to know what you want. Marriages that God commands do exist in the bible but they are rare.
God too could give you a sign, but even better is if you would trust him and learn to control the emotional roller coaster that you are certainly on. I think that everyone in love has been on that roller coaster, yet some it hits so much harder than others. Whatever the outcome is, you are going to make it through.
It would be good if you had someone with experience in love to talk things through. I think it is good to share with any close friend you have especially. Hopefully, they will not be like Job's friends, but ones that can really know God and his heart on such a matter. No matter what though, there is peace from God. Give the burden to him. Many blessings, discernment and guidance may you also receive.

Thank you for your heartfelt message — it really spoke to me. I actually spoke with my priest about this, and he gave me similar spiritual advice. He told me to continue praying and trusting God, and that if this chapter is truly over, God will give me a clear sign — but in His time, not mine. I shouldn’t be forceful or insist on a specific outcome, but rather leave the door open for whatever God wants to bring back into my life, if it’s meant to return.

In the meantime, I was encouraged to keep living my life fully — growing, healing, and walking my path — because when the right time comes, if it’s His will, the answer will come naturally. Until then, all I can do is stay open, faithful, and patient. Thanks again for your words — may God bless you too with peace and wisdom.

 

[All Becomes New]

Loss is hard. Deep down, you know.

 

[Jim444]

Loss is hard. Deep down, you know.

Did you read my other to messages? It's not every situation the same

 

[All Becomes New]

Did you read my other to messages? It's not every situation the same

Last time you spoke with her was 2/3 of a month ago. Why do you think something is going to magically appear out of that?

 

[Jim444]

Last time you spoke with her was 2/3 of a month ago. Why do you think something is going to magically appear out of that?

We exchanged wishes for Easter too, and also she needs time and space, it may take months for the comeback