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asking for advice

Discussion in 'Prayer Wall' started by rebirth, May 3, 2002.

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  1. rebirth

    rebirth New Member

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    :help: i'm having a mental battle with myself. i feel it's kind of embarrasing to mention, but i need help. here's my problem:

    lately i've been having thoughts about homosexuality. i thought i might actually be bisexual. i'm not sure why i've felt this way. i have accepet Jesus personally & i am Christian. i don't want to believe that i am bisexual. i know that that's a sin. i can't seem to get rid of the thoughts. how can i deal with this? i feel truly lost. this has never happened before. i'm a 15-year-old female who's always been attracted to males. never females. any advice as to what i should do is appreciated.
     
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  2. OldBadfish

    OldBadfish Well-Known Member

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    Welcome to Christian Forums rebirth!

    Being 15 I wouldn't worry about this yet, at your age you have all kinds of raging hormones, and thoughts like that are bound to run through your head! Just keep praying, and concentrate on Jesus!

    Stay away from unappropriate television programming, and other morally negative sources and I think you will be just fine!

    I will pray that God gives you the strength to deal with these challenges! :pray:

    God Bless!
     
  3. solo66 man

    solo66 man Well-Known Member

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    Oh, rebirth, you are a child of God. Do not be alarmed. Many, many teenagers go through this. You just happen to be brave enough to admit it, first to yourself and secondly
    to someone else.
    As you grow, your body is going to go through many changes, chemical, hormonal, and mental. That is all it is.
    Be patient, as I said many many go through it. I am sure Amie will fill you in better than I can, but not to worry.
    You are quite normal and you will be just fine.
    God Bless you, and peace and strength to you
     
  4. amie

    amie Survivor

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    Hi rebirth,
    well kiddo...there is no doubt that you are really struggling with this issue, I can tell in reading your post that you are looking for some guidance. During the teen years, there is so much going on within your body, you are just now adapting to life with this great influx in hormones as well as trying to keep up with any outside influences as well. I want you to know first and foremost that I am praying for you about this because I know that you are hurting. I know now you are in great need of loving prayers and comforting words. To better help me understand the situation, and to give me a little bit more clarity, can you tell me when these thoughts started occuring within you? can you think back and tell me if the time frame was related to any life altering experience? do you recall it being gradual or overnight? Since you say you have always been attracted to males, can you remember anything that changed within you when you started to feel affection towards the same sex? this can help some if you can recall...alot of times teens will start to feel attracted to the same sex because of the qualities that the same sex has, that the opposite sex may not. For instance, in some cases there may be a psychological attraction to a female even though you are a female because of the tender nature women have, the affection that teen girls are not afraid to display towards one another, the understanding that you can only get from another girl. The common bonds we share with other girls. While most of the time the boundaries are set, if one is going through a time of confusion, it is easy to see how one could mistake the beautiful friendship for more than that. However, if the feelings are not directed at one female in particular (example friend), but the entire female gender, then it is possible that you are experiencing some homosexual or bisexual tendencies. In this situation it is best to pray and to talk about your feelings and help establish some type of groundwork for pre-existing behaviors. I have counseled a great many teen who are going through this same thing, many will keep it hidden, but more often than not it will be the best just to talk about it. That is what we are here for, to help you. I can assure you with all of the changes in your body, and mind right now, this is a frequent problem. you are not alone sweetheart. I will wait to go any further until you can answer those questions that I posted, but I am here to help you through this time in your life, I will not leave you, and anytime you need to talk about this, I am here for you kiddo. most of all though I am praying for and with you, I pray that you may be given the lucidity of the situation and that we may be able to help you through this time in your young life, and to help you identify any patterns that may be adding to your confusion. God Bless you Kiddo with a multitude of prayers and an endless supply of peace. Keep praying, he hears your every word.
    Amie :hug:
     
  5. OldBadfish

    OldBadfish Well-Known Member

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    Thank goodness we have amie! Not only one of our resident medical experts, but also an excellent prayer warrior!
     
  6. solo66 man

    solo66 man Well-Known Member

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    Yes isnt Amie wonderful? I love her madly. ;)
    Too bad Kristen isnt here to pray too, huh badfish?
     
  7. amie

    amie Survivor

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    I know Kristen WAKE UP!!! ;) we want you here with us! to help us pray for this dear sweet teenager! well rebirth trust us on this, Kristen is here in spirit, she's pregnant and needs her sleep! so looks like you are stuck hanging out with just the 3 of us!? we are praying for you! always! and if you want to talk, you can pm any of us any time ok kiddo?
    Amie :angel:
     
  8. solo66 man

    solo66 man Well-Known Member

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    Yes, praise God!
    We are here for you as long as we live.
     
  9. Lazarus

    Lazarus Veteran in the Army of God

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    Just got home from work early, and decided to see was sup.
     
  10. amie

    amie Survivor

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    allright Lazarus!
    well rebirth...I am off to bed for the night, but Lazarus is taking over on my shift ;) kidding, but we do care so much! Lots of love to you and prayers too!
    Amie
     
  11. OldBadfish

    OldBadfish Well-Known Member

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    solo, amie, Kristen will pray for rebirth in the morning! I will point her to the Prayer forum in the morning!
     
  12. Lazarus

    Lazarus Veteran in the Army of God

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    I'm in agreement with Amie, my sister in Christ, in regards to her post #4. When your a teenager, your going thru alot of changes, both physicaly and mentaly. Not to mention the fact the enemy will try to confuse you as to Gods plan for your life.
     
  13. OldBadfish

    OldBadfish Well-Known Member

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    Amen Lazarus!
     
  14. amie

    amie Survivor

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    Amen Lazarus!...Badfish, just cleared it...I always let that happen! UGH! give Kristen a hug and a kiss...goodnight Solo and Lazarus and Badfish...see you all tomorrow! Love and blessings to you
    Amie
     
  15. solo66 man

    solo66 man Well-Known Member

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    God bless you, amie.
     
  16. Lazarus

    Lazarus Veteran in the Army of God

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    1 Corinthians 6:12-20 is applicable here. Verse 18 says to "flee from sexual immorality". Without opening the homosexual battle here, I'll just let it go at that.
     
  17. solo66 man

    solo66 man Well-Known Member

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    I am glad you have added Scripture to our advise.
    That makes it perfectly round.
     
  18. Lazarus

    Lazarus Veteran in the Army of God

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    Thx solo66man. The Holy Spirit guides us to the word we need to share in times such as these. Glory to God! 1 Corinthians 6;13 says "The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body".
     
  19. TABITHA

    TABITHA Joyful Christian

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    Hello,
    I thought the same kind of thoughts too. But its all in you and how you feel. Sometimes the devil puts things in your head to make it seem like your this and that. Put you aren't you are a Child of God. You have to rebuke those evil thoughts and pray for a peadeful mind in the Name Of Jesus. Amen.
     
  20. rebirth

    rebirth New Member

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    i think these thoughts started happening this year. i've gotton so tired of, to put it nicely, unattractive people asking me out. when a cute boy likes me he ends up to be a sex-driven jerk. that's not what i want. different people just put different thoughts in my mind about it.
     
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