Asexuality - an odder choice?

[crashedman]

Hi all,

What do you think about asexuality? It's sort of like having sex organs, but you don't feel any sexual attraction to any other being?

I have never had any real desire to do intercourse, neither do I feel any real urge to go out on a Friday or Saturday night to 'get lucky'. I don't know what it is - whether it's a psychological thing or something else.

I don't tend to feel any real strong affection for any women or even get excited by certain buzzwords for the sex act.

Having given up my addiction to porn some time back, it's made me really stop and think about my situation.

I'm not an opportunist of any sort - and certainly not when it comes to the opposite sex.

A number of life changing instances over the last three years which have set me back to living at home without a car or full-time work (something that I've always had trouble with being able to maintain) has caused me to lose interest in wanting to 'do it'.

I feel kind of strange, because usually this is the age where most other guys are working for a sum, popping out their third or fourth kid with their wife.

My mother once said that if I wasn't really into having sex then to become a priest. I don't know since I am not the most theologically learned or spiritually disciplined guy.

What does everyone think to this?


Crashedman

 

[seebs]

It's not unheard of. Some people have very little sex drive of any sort.

 

[Princess_333]

Some people do have lower sex drives than others, as mentioned above...but I am curious as to how you overcame your porn addiction? Do you think it's possible that whatever "therapy/solution" you used might have gone overboard to turn you off sex altogether?

 

[Thirst_For_Knowledge]

I'm not sure asexual is the word you're looking for.

But, anywho, this is a normal thing. You just have a lower sex drive. Perhaps this isn't your sexual prime right now. Sex dribes can come and go.

But yeah, I'd say this is normal.

 

[Eve_Sundancer]

If you don't mind it or anything, don't let it get to you too much.

 

[JustJack!]

Well whatever it is, it seems new. I mean, if you had a porn addiction, then you must have felt some sexual desires towards...somebody.

 

[Kira Faye]

I'v heard of it before, they did a report on it and this girl just never felt a desire for sex.......EVER! though u may be going thru abit of a phase like jack said if u had feelings before u may not be asexual just in a 'dry' patch

 

[HazyRigby]

If it bothers you, I'd see a doctor. If it doesn't bother you, why worry? A sex drives is a natural, normal thing to have, though, so I'd lean toward seeing a doctor, perhaps even an endocrinologist. I'd be good to find out if there is an underlying medical problem.

 

[progressivegal]

Just incase you haven't seen it yet, you may find this link helpful http://www.asexuality.org/info.htm

 

[Chrysalis Kat]

Just incase you haven't seen it yet, you may find this link helpful http://www.asexuality.org/info.htm

That's an informative website. Thanks for posting it.

And Crashedman... if you feel inclined to share...I too would like to know what you did to overcome your addiction to porn and what side effects you think might be associated with that endeavor.