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some will read the title and think this thread will go a certain way, but read on, as you may be surprised.
conversation is something that is unique to us a human beings. it's something that I have never been good at my entire life.
I've noticed that people tend to be frustrated with me for seemingly no reason. I don't say anything to anyone and I mind my own business. I've recently discovered that this may be the problem.
no one wants to feel rejected or that they're not worth someone's time. a lot of times I can be short or terse in interactions with people. they will attempt to start conversation with me and I will give them a short and to the point response. doing this consistently over a period of time gives people the impression that i'm not interested in what they have to say and that I want them to leave me alone.
in many cases this is true as I don't want to talk, but in some cases I do and don't know what to say to someone. it's the lack of conversational reciprocity that makes people feel like i'm pushing them away.
I've realized it's not harmless to not socially participate when people attempt to connect with me. many of the people i'm around at work or at church are friendly people but a lot of times i'm either genuinely not interested or don't know what to say to these people. this makes people become bitter in that i'm turning away their social advances.
just something I came to understand very recently..
conversation is something that is unique to us a human beings. it's something that I have never been good at my entire life.
I've noticed that people tend to be frustrated with me for seemingly no reason. I don't say anything to anyone and I mind my own business. I've recently discovered that this may be the problem.
no one wants to feel rejected or that they're not worth someone's time. a lot of times I can be short or terse in interactions with people. they will attempt to start conversation with me and I will give them a short and to the point response. doing this consistently over a period of time gives people the impression that i'm not interested in what they have to say and that I want them to leave me alone.
in many cases this is true as I don't want to talk, but in some cases I do and don't know what to say to someone. it's the lack of conversational reciprocity that makes people feel like i'm pushing them away.
I've realized it's not harmless to not socially participate when people attempt to connect with me. many of the people i'm around at work or at church are friendly people but a lot of times i'm either genuinely not interested or don't know what to say to these people. this makes people become bitter in that i'm turning away their social advances.
just something I came to understand very recently..
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