Don't get me wrong---I am a committed Christian but....
I think the Western concept of love is a disaterous basis upon which to choose a mate. More accurate to call it lust.
I hold that love is a decision to love....the decision to commit, the decision to respect, the decision to bare your soul (a lot more difficult than baring one's body), the decision that changes have to come from within you than you changing the other.
And since marriage, passion has kindled.....
The hit song thingie of there being a one and only out there that destined for you is positively destructive. It serves to keep Mr. Wrong in your life past his sell-by date. What I hold is that there are any number of men out there who would have been perfectly suitable husbands for me, that I could have joyfully spent my lifetime uurturing and being nurtured.
My family was dysfunctional---it was my father who adopted me when I was nearly 18 who did the brokering. He was never married but he is wise and he loves me to bits. Not every set of parents will do the best for their children---my natural parents sure didn't.
And yes, in most educated and enlightened societies the young people have veto power. And yes, in most educated and elightened societies the betrothal is couples who have come of age---in my husband's culture, minimum 16 for girls, 18 for boys. Now while I consider that definitely on the young side, that is a far better situation than kids that age screwing away in secret and beginning a baby with someone who is probably not suitable for a lifetime marriage partner.
There is a big difference between a good dating partner and a good marriage partner---another thing I discovered. Good for me as there were no girls interested in dating him....leaving him available for me, me, me.
That's enough for now.
God bless,
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