We do not argue very often, but we have been arguing since yesterday over money-related issues. We can't seem to come to a resolution. We found out that hubby can't get disability and he thinks he can fight it, but he won't encourage my efforts to try to get a job. He needs a miracle, I desperately need transportation. He says im calling his stuff impossible when nothing is impossible, but then turns around and says its impossible for me to relocate or find a car if i get work. We have been living on 600-733 a month for 5 years, that's not enough for even one person!
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NothingIsImpossible
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Is he fighting to get SSI? Because most everyone gets denied the first time. They do it just to see how badly someone wants it, usually on the second try you can get, granted you have enough evidence. After I was denied the first time a lawyer from church helped us get it and it worked.
I only get $733 a month for me and my wife to live on plus $200 in food stamps. $733 is the max for the SSI I get. Mind you we live at my parents home because we can't live on our own. Not with $733. I'm on SSI W/ Disability, which is different then regular SSI or SSDI. Where we live most places are far above $733 just for rent alone. Its impossible to live on it. And if my wife makes money it lowers my SSI. So essentially if she makes $1500 or more a month, I lose my $733 and food stamps. Which may sound great but shes essentially making $766 more since $733 of the $1500 is essentially what we had before.
And while an extra $766 sounds like alot. Its not. Its a yearly salary of $18,000. Still well below the poverty line. We own no car. She has no health insurance (its complicated). Problem is when she does work she has to pay for health insurance, plus copays. If she wants a car thats more money a month plus car insurance. Thats not counting food, daily stuff and so on. And we won't even get into what happens if we have a kid.
I say all this because unless your husbands will get ALOT of money per month, you both will have to work. Or someone will have to work two jobs. He needs not only encourage you but HELP you find one. And if need be for himself too. Unless your will to live in Section 8 or some run down part of town with boarded up houses, gun fire and drug dealing.
Me? I'm still trying to find work. SSI is a prison that they make VERY hard to get off of. Especially because if you lose it, its gone for good. And if I lose my job because of my disability, we are stuck. Thank goodness for my parents, however even they are ending up in the hole financially each month because we cost them money. I'll be praying for you both. Nothing is impossible.
I only get $733 a month for me and my wife to live on plus $200 in food stamps. $733 is the max for the SSI I get. Mind you we live at my parents home because we can't live on our own. Not with $733. I'm on SSI W/ Disability, which is different then regular SSI or SSDI. Where we live most places are far above $733 just for rent alone. Its impossible to live on it. And if my wife makes money it lowers my SSI. So essentially if she makes $1500 or more a month, I lose my $733 and food stamps. Which may sound great but shes essentially making $766 more since $733 of the $1500 is essentially what we had before.
And while an extra $766 sounds like alot. Its not. Its a yearly salary of $18,000. Still well below the poverty line. We own no car. She has no health insurance (its complicated). Problem is when she does work she has to pay for health insurance, plus copays. If she wants a car thats more money a month plus car insurance. Thats not counting food, daily stuff and so on. And we won't even get into what happens if we have a kid.
I say all this because unless your husbands will get ALOT of money per month, you both will have to work. Or someone will have to work two jobs. He needs not only encourage you but HELP you find one. And if need be for himself too. Unless your will to live in Section 8 or some run down part of town with boarded up houses, gun fire and drug dealing.
Me? I'm still trying to find work. SSI is a prison that they make VERY hard to get off of. Especially because if you lose it, its gone for good. And if I lose my job because of my disability, we are stuck. Thank goodness for my parents, however even they are ending up in the hole financially each month because we cost them money. I'll be praying for you both. Nothing is impossible.
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Husband can't get it because he's not a citizen and there are rules for work credits even for ssi.
We rent from a ministry but they are losing money and want us out. we get over 300 food stamps and we both have medicaid. He's very sick and we rely on the medicaid. the jobs im looking at are 15-18 dollars an hour, I have a college degree and should be eligible for higher paying jobs. I mostly want a car, transportation issues are the number one problem we have.
We rent from a ministry but they are losing money and want us out. we get over 300 food stamps and we both have medicaid. He's very sick and we rely on the medicaid. the jobs im looking at are 15-18 dollars an hour, I have a college degree and should be eligible for higher paying jobs. I mostly want a car, transportation issues are the number one problem we have.
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NothingIsImpossible
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Ah I see. I'm on medicaid too, thankfully my lawyer set it up so even if I make a alot of money it is there for me no matter what since without I'd likely die without my meds. Its not easy to find well paying jobs, even for college grads. My wife whos from another country has a degree but its not really done much here. Shes working parttime making $10.50. Like you transportation is the biggest issue. There are better paying jobs farther away from here but we are stuck relying on the bus or my mom for the local jobs.
Cars mean everything in america. It messes up your life without one. My wife is so stressed that we do not have one.
Cars mean everything in america. It messes up your life without one. My wife is so stressed that we do not have one.
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Yes, see, in the past i did have a car and things were so much easier... nowadays its the bus to get around town, my aunt for places bus cant go or on days bus does not run, and insurance provided rides for doctors out of town.
My aunt told me yesterday I should be thankful I have a roof over my head, food and most importantly medicaid.
A few years ago, we had a single guy in ssi move in with us... it seemed he would stay there... but he met a girl, they got married, now he has a job, a house and she's pregnant with their third child... things never stay the same...
My aunt told me yesterday I should be thankful I have a roof over my head, food and most importantly medicaid.
A few years ago, we had a single guy in ssi move in with us... it seemed he would stay there... but he met a girl, they got married, now he has a job, a house and she's pregnant with their third child... things never stay the same...
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Here is one job I would like, it's in the state my husband wants to move to... would it be worth it? I appled and waiting for a response:
Government job, applied under Schedule A (disabled)
Duration: 1-4 years
Pay: 29,000-37,000/year
Benefits: full benefits, including health
Qualifications: 6 months related experience or related Associates degree
What I have: 1 year related experience AND a related Bachelors degree (over qualified)
No housing or car Provides
Husband knows people in the state, potential help
Government job, applied under Schedule A (disabled)
Duration: 1-4 years
Pay: 29,000-37,000/year
Benefits: full benefits, including health
Qualifications: 6 months related experience or related Associates degree
What I have: 1 year related experience AND a related Bachelors degree (over qualified)
No housing or car Provides
Husband knows people in the state, potential help
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