Arguing really dreadful when bipolar?

[todd92371]

Hello all,
I was diagnosed mild bipolar about a year ago and have been on medication for this with great results! I am struggling with one thing though and wanted your input. When I argue with my girlfriend it REALLY REALLY effects me! I mean to the point where I go into a depression and just can't seem to spring back! She recovers very quickly but It takes me a long while. In other words- the arguing really impacts me. We rarely argue but arguments are going to occur. Is this something that is related to my condition? What steps can I take to not become so affected by this? Thank you.

atticus.

 

[Alive again]

For me, I become irritable due to my illness and blow up into a rage as a symptom of my illness and then because I am at my core a gentle spirited person I dump immediately into a depression often even suicidal because I so abhor what I have just done. Being a female crying help (sorry) but understandign that the rage and the responding depressed mood is a mood swing and a part of my illness helps me to recognize it as such and to speak truth to myslef. I am forgiven I know how to seek reconciliation and forgiveness, I know this is illness based, but I am still responsible to deal with it and what has happened with my loved ones, and am still loved and forgiven and accepted by God. Then I remind my self of other scriptural truths and run straight into the arms of God and His love and truth and away from the thoughts that feed the depression that are part fo this illness. It helps me do better though care and self care and to get over it quicker. I also pray for God to help me and strengthen me and to renew my mind in Christ Jesus to help to take each thought captive and literally to help me to forget and go on.

Not sure if this will help you, but jsut some that works for me.

 

[rushingwind62]

I think arguing does affect us more than the average person. I know when I argue I get very confused and can't sort out all the thoughts that are hitting me all at once. That is frustrating and when I get frustrated I get emotional. So I avoid confrontation whenever possible.

 

[4Everloved]

I was diagnosed bipolar TODAY.

And I will tell you this...arguments with my husband can put me in a depression for a full week.

After reading these posts in this thread, I am comforted and I don't feel so alone.

I have always been on depression meds...for the last 10 years. It got so the depression meds weren't working, so recently I went off of them.

It is hard to accept that I'm bi-polar. But a lot of things about it make sense and fit with who I am and what I've been. Everything has always seemed to hurt me more than normal and I seem to everyone around me to be over-reacting, when to me it doesn't seem like over-reacting at all.

So here I am in the bipolar threads. Hello.

 

[rushingwind62]

I was diagnosed bipolar TODAY.

And I will tell you this...arguments with my husband can put me in a depression for a full week.

After reading these posts in this thread, I am comforted and I don't feel so alone.

I have always been on depression meds...for the last 10 years. It got so the depression meds weren't working, so recently I went off of them.

It is hard to accept that I'm bi-polar. But a lot of things about it make sense and fit with who I am and what I've been. Everything has always seemed to hurt me more than normal and I seem to everyone around me to be over-reacting, when to me it doesn't seem like over-reacting at all.

So here I am in the bipolar threads. Hello.

You may not think the meds weren't working but others can see a difference. It is dangerous to come off the meds and can lead to psychotic behavior. I know it happened to me. I highly suggest you see your psychatrist and let them know you don't feel the medication is working. Sometimes they have to try several meds before finding the right combo that works. Praying for you.

 

[Ramona]

Hello and welcome, new friends!

Yes, I blow up at the people I love sometimes, because I tend to hold things in. As AliveAgain touched upon, I'm not like that - I'm a kind and rational person - so after it happens I tend to feel like a failure as a daughter, a sister, and a friend. Still, however, they stick by me and support me, even though I can be difficult.

It's called love. Your family loves you. Your friends love you. Your partner loves you. Jesus loves you.

Whilst raging isn't healthy, it doesn't make you a bad person. Guys, you're bipolar. Sometimes these things make it difficult to function, but bipolar or not, you're still a lovable, capable person who deserves to be happy and accepted.

You really should seek out some coping skills, and maybe get your meds tweaked if all else fails. I've been painting lately, which allows me to focus my negative energy on something productive, and it helps tremendously. There are other things to do, too - like, I tend to write people nasty letters when they upset me greatly, but then never show anyone. It lets the anger out but doesn't hurt people.

You all have my friendship and support if you'd like.
Hallie

 

[4Everloved]

You may not think the meds weren't working but others can see a difference. It is dangerous to come off the meds and can lead to psychotic behavior. I know it happened to me. I highly suggest you see your psychatrist and let them know you don't feel the medication is working. Sometimes they have to try several meds before finding the right combo that works. Praying for you.

Rushing wind, I was only diagnosed bipolar yesterday. So the meds (the antidepressants) had a reason that they were not working any longer. Anti-depressants can make bipolar symptoms worse.

I've bee on anti-depressants daily for the last 10 years. I know I should not have gone off meds, but the point is, I did. That's over now, and I plan to stay on the new meds.

I did go to the doctor yesterday. That was the whole point. I knew I need some medication, I just didn't know what kind. I have only been "med-free" for 3 weeks, and I knew it was a problem, but I also knew the anti-depressants were not working any more. She diagnosed me as bipolar and it was a great shock to me, as I have always thought of myself as a person who is 'normal' then slides into depression, and then slides back up to 'normal'. LOL...if this were really normal, would I have been put on bipolar meds yesterday? What I think of as normal may very well be abnormal, as I have lived a long time and learned to live with myself.

I am well aware that going off medication is dangerous, as about 20 people have informed me of it. But the withdrawal symptoms from the anti-depressants are gone so that I can start on this new medicine for bipolar. I will stay on the new medicine and if it doesn't work, I will let the psychiatric nurse practioner know. I see her again in 2 weeks.

I plan on being on medication for the rest of my life unless God heals me. It gets so tiresome everyone telling me what to do like I'm a child. Oh well. Ttyl.

 

[bonnyroam]

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[jacksmithy]

I'm a bit confused.

 

[jacksmithy]

Testing,. Does anyone read these forum messages?

 

[jacksmithy]

i dont see my messages on the forum. am I doing this right? can some body help me find where the messages go.

 

[Alive again]

Yes, we are here and we read them. At this forum we tend to come and go. It seems like sometimes no on eis around and then all of a sudden everyone is back! Welcome! We look forward to hearing from you and yes, I see your messages, so I think you are doing everything right!