Arguing/Fighting on the Internet

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I don't think it is fair if I argue over the internet. Afterall I am always right. And humble too.

that doesn't shock me about you *smirk*

 

[Arclight610]

It depends, if its a really sensetive subject then I may get into it. Like theres a thread in the teens forum that claims that anyone who is in the military is not a true Christian. This obviously got me heated.

-TJ-

 

[Sketcher]

I know exactly what you're talking about. Mainly though, this has happened to me on other forums. There have been some CF flashpoints, but due to the size and segregated nature of CF it is nothing like it was on those other forums. Just try to imagine a question from a new believer or a prayer request getting bombed by 3-4 immature, unbelieving trolls. Now imagine that happening every single time such a thread came up. Or imagine weekly clashes between fundamental Catholics and fundamental Protestants where you'd think it was the 30 Years War all over again. Or Christian leftist trolls saying you're a heretic if you don't agree with their Communist politics. Those are the reasons I left the forums I used to go to and took a break from forums altogether for at least a year or two before I came here. CF ain't perfect, but it ain't a public toilet either.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

It depends, if its a really sensetive subject then I may get into it. Like theres a thread in the teens forum that claims that anyone who is in the military is not a true Christian. This obviously got me heated.

-TJ-

That is the sort of thing that would irritate me.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I know exactly what you're talking about. Mainly though, this has happened to me on other forums. There have been some CF flashpoints, but due to the size and segregated nature of CF it is nothing like it was on those other forums. Just try to imagine a question from a new believer or a prayer request getting bombed by 3-4 immature, unbelieving trolls. Now imagine that happening every single time such a thread came up. Or imagine weekly clashes between fundamental Catholics and fundamental Protestants where you'd think it was the 30 Years War all over again. Or Christian leftist trolls saying you're a heretic if you don't agree with their Communist politics. Those are the reasons I left the forums I used to go to and took a break from forums altogether for at least a year or two before I came here. CF ain't perfect, but it ain't a public toilet either.

Oh yeah, this place is a whole lot better than most of the other forums I've been to.

 

[LookingTotheFuture]

It takes great time and effort to create, and only seconds to destroy. I always try to remember this wisdom before acting, if I feel attacked. In the end, an argument is almost never over anything important anyways.

 

[Rory]

It depends, if its a really sensetive subject then I may get into it. Like theres a thread in the teens forum that claims that anyone who is in the military is not a true Christian. This obviously got me heated.

-TJ-

Man that aint right, I've never been in the military nor thought of doing so but saying something like that is just wrong.

I've done my share of political arguing on some movie message boards a while back, but it got boring and repetitive. Now I refuse to touch the topic anymore especially online.

 

[JPPT1974]

It depends on how serious it is
But either I try to ignore it or
Either it would take enough to get
On my bad side for when someone gets
On my bad side, WATCH OUT!!

 

[sherri]

Everybody does it, I've been guilty of it myself and most likely will be again. Overall, though, I think that CF has done me more good than harm. I have changed a lot (in a good way) in the past year and I think at least some of that has been due to getting to interact with other Christians here on CF.

Yeah, CF has been a lifeline for me the last year of so. It's great to be able to chat to people if you're a bit isolated or you have a boring job. It can make you waste a lot of time too but it's better then going stark raving potty from the four walls.
And I find the mods tend to close down anything that gets too offensive fairly quickly. (most of the time) (and sometimes the other direction)
But the thing about forums is that they're places that people are going to disagree with you on some things regardless. They're discussion boards. So you have to realise that things are going to get heated at times (especially over important subjects) and just try not to take them personally.

 

[Matt.9:22]

I've had mild disagreements with two people on this board. I don't remember who they were, but I remember the topic of conversation. One was a girl who had flunked an exam because she hadn't followed instructions. She came on-line to gripe about the professor and wanted the board to commiserate with her. However, the board was firmly on the professor's side and told her if she didn't understand the directions she should have asked the professor. For some reason she singled me out and proceeded to tell me that Christ would be very unhappy with my behavior. I couldn't figure out why and I said as much. What does being Christ-like have to do with not being sympathetic to someone who didn't follow instructions, received two cracks at a test, flunked and then whined about it while trashing the teacher and her fellow board members?

The second one was very brief, but it was someone who was angry at me when I said I agreed with what Kanye West said about Bush and Hurricane Katrina, but not with how he said it. This person sent me an angry PM asking me if I thought the help would have arrived sooner if the people had been white. I said that was not what I meant. I'm not sure it would have taken 5 days, but the fact was that other Kanye and your regulars (Jesse Jackson, Al Sharpton, etc.), it was the white news media saying that it was racist. (I'm not trying to re-open this argument or derail this thread. Therefore, I will not respond to any responses or PMs about the validity of my beliefs on this topic.)

Other than that, I haven't had any disagreements on this board.

 

[silentpoet]

that doesn't shock me about you *smirk*

They wrote a song about me over 20 years ago "Lord it's hard to be humble when you're perfect in every way."

But seriously I try not to take myself too seriously. That keeps down arguing. There are only a few points where I will really disagree with people vehemently. The one that comes up here is being single is a blessing. Which it can be for other people, I don't disagree with that. What I disagree with is that it is a blessing for me. And I get upset when people insist it is. I suppose that is one of my few hot button issues. I am pretty easy going most of the time. And I realize that we can be lead in different directions on a given issue by God. Humility is actually one of my strengths(relative term) even though I like to joke otherwise. I think being humble is one major key to being less argumentative. At least true humility, which I define as being aware of the worthiness of others. It is not a feeling of your own worthlessness, but that others are equally worthy of God's love and that we all have a place in God's purpose.

 

[Rory]

There are only a few points where I will really disagree with people vehemently. The one that comes up here is being single is a blessing. Which it can be for other people, I don't disagree with that. What I disagree with is that it is a blessing for me. And I get upset when people insist it is. I suppose that is one of my few hot button issues.

This is a big one for me too, but I do my best for the most part to avoid those threads fully. I hear ya.

 

[sherri]

They wrote a song about me over 20 years ago "Lord it's hard to be humble when you're perfect in every way."

That song is hilarious

 

[ChrisCountryGirl]

I do my best to NOT argue and fight with people on the Internet. I use the internet as a place for me to relax NOT add more stress to my life.

 

[LOVEthroughINTELLECT]

I think that 99% of the time we are all saying the same thing (see [thread=2220147]this thread[/thread]). Disagreement is usually either miscommunication, our imagination, or some combination of both.

 

[JPPT1974]

When I argue over the net
Usually later on I feel bad
Don't you all?

 

[Periann]

I hate arguing period. It's hard for me to come up with point by point why I feel the other person is wrong (which seems to be the mode of preference during arguments on CF), and it's not worth it to me to tell it to them unless the statement hits me in a very personal way; even then I will qualify it with 'if that is what you meant when you said that' sort of things or I again, might stall and let someone else pick it apart, especially over the net.

I have observed that there are a few people on the forums who wait to pick apart a person's post (that peter piper rhyme is in my head now lol) not so that the other person would be edified...but so that the person who's posting the argument would look "smarter". I find that arrogant, and try as best as I can to avoid doing it.

 

[Jenster]

I think being humble is one major key to being less argumentative. At least true humility, which I define as being aware of the worthiness of others. It is not a feeling of your own worthlessness, but that others are equally worthy of God's love and that we all have a place in God's purpose.

^^ Wisdom.

I've written some posts that've zinged people, I admit. Mostly people who go on the attack, thinking it is the same as defending or explaining their point. I don't mind strongly and intelligently worded explanations of someone's point of view, but I draw the line at personal attacks.

For example, it's really tiresome when someone responds to my point of view with: "Obviously if you think this way, there's something wrong with you." That is such a non-answer. No thought. No reasoning. Not a defense at all. Weak.

I agree about not taking things too seriously. Getting into a snit online, and with a total stranger no less, just doesn't seem worth it, y'know?

 

[Sketcher]

^^ Wisdom.

I've written some posts that've zinged people, I admit. Mostly people who go on the attack, thinking it is the same as defending or explaining their point. I don't mind strongly and intelligently worded explanations of someone's point of view, but I draw the line at personal attacks.

For example, it gets really tiresome to when someone responds to my point of view with: "Obviously if you think this way, there's something wrong with you." That is such a non-answer. No thought. No reasoning. Not a defense at all. Weak.

I agree about not taking things too seriously. Getting into a snit online, and with a total stranger no less, just doesn't seem worth it, y'know?

What's even better is the Hitler/Nazi Reflex. I've done it in the past, but I'm really trying to quit now that it's so overdone. When someone makes a hasty comparison to Hitler or the Nazis these days, it makes me think of the good things he did. As evil as he was, he did some good things. And as bad as many unpopular figures, groups, and events are today, many of them can't compete with Hitler, the Nazis, the Holocaust, or true Fascism.

 

[Jenster]

What's even better is the Hitler/Nazi Reflex. I've done it in the past, but I'm really trying to quit now that it's so overdone. When someone makes a hasty comparison to Hitler or the Nazis these days, it makes me think of the good things he did. As evil as he was, he did some good things. And as bad as many unpopular figures, groups, and events are today, many of them can't compete with Hitler, the Nazis, the Holocaust, or true Fascism.

Yeah, I know what you mean! That whole All Good vs. All Bad gets a little unbelievable after awhile. Or invoking a value that has little to do with the issue at hand. Such as, speeding cars are bad because they could injure pedestrians. Speeding cars will KILL OUR PRECIOUS CHILDREN!!!