Are you satisfied with your appearance?

[MehGuy]

I thought it would be interesting to make a thread asking if posters here are satisfied with their physical appearance. Do you need to lose/gain weight? Do you like what you see in the mirror? Are you balding? Dealing with aging?

Of course, keep this thread CF appropriate.

 

[dzheremi]

Nah. It could be worse, but it could be a lot better too. I'm trying to work on it where I can (e.g., losing weight), but a lot of it is beyond my control for genetic reasons (the shortness, the thinning hair, etc).

On the other hand, I do like to remind myself that my dad had all of these problems, too (where do you think I inherited them from? Well, except the balding...I suspect that came from my mom's side, because one of her brothers was bald by the time he was in his thirties), and he still managed to find women to marry four times before he passed back in 2020. So not all hope is lost! Hahaha. I have a hard time being my own judge or dealing with compliments due to low self-esteem, but women I've dated in the past have said that I have a cute smile, so I guess I've got that going for me. Actually, come to think of it, women I don't know have said that before, too. Huh. I just assumed that they were your average California hippies looking to spread 'good vibes' at the grocery store or whatever, but maybe they're on to something. Haha.

What about you, OP?

 

[MehGuy]

What about you, OP?

I would say my biggest insecurity is my height. I am not a midget by any means, but I will never be able to pass as 6 foot tall man. Does not help that I also live in one of the States with the highest average height. Not uncommon for women to be taller than I am. Usually at a grocery store line I look to see if any other men are shorter than I am, and 9 times out of 10 there isn't one. The rare instance the other man is usually Asian or Hispanic, lol.

Sometimes I wish I had broader shoulders too. My father's side is very neotenous for European origins. Sadly, I inherited their body type. Ironically my mother's side is more traditional in European body appearances. Growing up I realized my mother has somewhat unusual tastes in men compared to other women. She likes the smaller more feminine looking men. When my mother had a crush on my father, he tried to pass her on to a 6+ tall well-built man who had a huge crush on her himself, but she ended up friend zoning him and my father decided to finally give her a chance, lol.

Besides those two things I do not really have any other body insecurities, besides getting older. I do feel like the early 30s is the last "hurrah" for looking young. Even for men, I've read studies that men's appearances tend to dip past the age of 36 or something. We can rely on other things to attract mates, but the 40s seems to be when people really start falling apart, lol.

I like my facial features and thick hair; I usually get complimented about them by others. Sometimes I wish I had more of the "hunter eyes" look but can't do anything about that. Or maybe I can, but I doubt I'd ever go the plastic surgery route, lol. Double eyelid surgery is popular in Asia, even among men... yet I suspect many European men would like narrower eyes... lol.. the grass is always greener on the other side. Lol.

 

[Sword of the Lord]

Unless your appearance has been destroyed by drugs and alcohol or gluttony, or some other such thing that you personally did to destroy it and could be controlled, you should be perfectly happy with your natural appearance. God made you that way. To be unhappy is to be ungrateful, and to try to change it with surgeries is saying that God is wrong. My opinion.

 

[Chesterton]

I'm very satisfied with my appearance because I'm a little anti-social and I don't like interacting with people, which works out good because I'm hideous. I'm like a cross between the Hunchback of Notre Dame and the hunchback of Del Rio, the latter being less well-known but equally hideous. When I'm out and about the villagers are repulsed by me, which is weird because I live in a large American city and I didn't even know we had any villagers. The women and children cry in fear and disgust at my countenance. The men run home to retrieve pitchforks and torches, but since almost none of them actually own pitchforks or torches nothing happens so I get my shopping done and then I'm back home. It's all good.

 

[The Narrow Way]

Unless your appearance has been destroyed by drugs and alcohol or gluttony, or some other such thing that you personally did to destroy it and could be controlled, you should be perfectly happy with your natural appearance. God made you that way. To be unhappy is to be ungrateful, and to try to change it with surgeries is saying that God is wrong. My opinion.

I agree, that is why I don't believe in MAKE-UP ... ALL NATURAL

 

[Robban]

Would like to get a haircut.

I would say my biggest insecurity is my height. I am not a midget by any means, but I will never be able to pass as 6 foot tall man. Does not help that I also live in one of the States with the highest average height. Not uncommon for women to be taller than I am. Usually at a grocery store line I look to see if any other men are shorter than I am, and 9 times out of 10 there isn't one. The rare instance the other man is usually Asian or Hispanic, lol.

Sometimes I wish I had broader shoulders too. My father's side is very neotenous for European origins. Sadly, I inherited their body type. Ironically my mother's side is more traditional in European body appearances. Growing up I realized my mother has somewhat unusual tastes in men compared to other women. She likes the smaller more feminine looking men. When my mother had a crush on my father, he tried to pass her on to a 6+ tall well-built man who had a huge crush on her himself, but she ended up friend zoning him and my father decided to finally give her a chance, lol.

Besides those two things I do not really have any other body insecurities, besides getting older. I do feel like the early 30s is the last "hurrah" for looking young. Even for men, I've read studies that men's appearances tend to dip past the age of 36 or something. We can rely on other things to attract mates, but the 40s seems to be when people really start falling apart, lol.

I like my facial features and thick hair; I usually get complimented about them by others. Sometimes I wish I had more of the "hunter eyes" look but can't do anything about that. Or maybe I can, but I doubt I'd ever go the plastic surgery route, lol. Double eyelid surgery is popular in Asia, even among men... yet I suspect many European men would like narrower eyes... lol.. the grass is always greener on the other side. Lol.

Tall men have it easier when painting a ceiling but are more inclined to bump their head.

 

[MehGuy]

I'm very satisfied with my appearance because I'm a little anti-social and I don't like interacting with people, which works out good because I'm hideous. I'm like a cross between the Hunchback of Notre Dame and the hunchback of Del Rio, the latter being less well-known but equally hideous. When I'm out and about the villagers are repulsed by me, which is weird because I live in a large American city and I didn't even know we had any villagers. The women and children cry in fear and disgust at my countenance. The men run home to retrieve pitchforks and torches, but since almost none of them actually own pitchforks or torches nothing happens so I get my shopping done and then I'm back home. It's all good.

Hey, don't lose hope; even Quasimodo got a girl in the direct to video The Hunchback of Notre Dame 2.

 

[Moral Orel]

Plastic surgery affords people the opportunity to cause their outer appearance to resemble their inner appearance: fake.

 

[Robban]

I have a beard like the Rebbe so there is not so much to see when looking in the mirror, the eyes of course and the funny thing is,

one of them gives me a wink, like in Mary Poppins. Haha.

I have cut off my beard twice and became ill twice not taking the risk anymore.

I any case I believe in aging with dignity.

 

[Sword of the Lord]

I agree, that is why I don't believe in MAKE-UP ... ALL NATURAL

I love all natural.

As a balding man I struggled for a long time with that aspect of myself. Not to the extent that I tried any regrowth products or ever considered a hair transplant, but I almost hated myself with hair on my head and I kept it all shaved off so nobody could see it. I've pretty much always kept a beard to balance it all out. A few months ago I got busy and found it easier to thrown on a hat. A month went by and I had a substantial amount of hair compared to my usual for the past 13 years. I decided to keep letting it grow to see what God created, to see what I looked like because not even I knew. And what I found was that it wasn't all that bad, and I like it a lot, even though I don't have that perfect head of hair. I still haven't cut it or shaved it at all, and I haven't cut or shaved my beard either. I'm going to let both grow for at least a year, and proudly so. I want to see what God had in mind. Taken the other night while texting with my daughter.

 

[MehGuy]

I have a beard like the Rebbe so there is not so much to see when looking in the mirror, the eyes of course and the funny thing is,

one of them gives me a wink, like in Mary Poppins. Haha.

I have cut off my beard twice and became ill twice not taking the risk anymore.

I any case I believe in aging with dignity.

Oh yeah, I forgot... I wish I could grow a full beard. Lol.

While I do not think I would ever get plastic surgery, I am not totally against it. As long as it is done in moderation. Sometimes a slight altercation to someone's face can make a huge difference. Minor plastic surgery can still retain a natural look; the danger is when you start becoming addicted to getting more and more work done. One can look literally fake really quickly.

Like it or not, but someone's physical appearance matters a lot in this world. From the romantic sphere to the professional, it often even makes a difference if one is standing in court on trial for a crime.

 

[The Narrow Way]

I love all natural.

As a balding man I struggled for a long time with that aspect of myself. Not to the extent that I tried any regrowth products or ever considered a hair transplant, but I almost hated myself with hair on my head and I kept it all shaved off so nobody could see it. I've pretty much always kept a beard to balance it all out. A few months ago I got busy and found it easier to thrown on a hat. A month went by and I had a substantial amount of hair compared to my usual for the past 13 years. I decided to keep letting it grow to see what God created, to see what I looked like because not even I knew. And what I found was that it wasn't all that bad, and I like it a lot, even though I don't have that perfect head of hair. I still haven't cut it or shaved it at all, and I haven't cut or shaved my beard either. I'm going to let both grow for at least a year, and proudly so. I want to see what God had in mind. Taken the other night while texting with my daughter.

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Doesn't look bad at all

 

[Vesper_Jaye✝️]

I don’t think I look bad, but I don’t look great. That’s probably a good thing though, because I already can be vain. If I was pretty, I would spend more time with my mirror than my Bible. I had some weight problems and I exercised and ate better. My family says I look a lot better, but even though I’m not overweight anymore, I think I look the same. My braces just came off yesterday and I had no idea how much that would affect how I looked! My sister said I looked like an anime person without braces.

 

[Anthony2019]

People have always told me I look fairly young for my age, so I guess I can't grumble.....

 

[Robban]

Oh yeah, I forgot... I wish I could grow a full beard. Lol.

While I do not think I would ever get plastic surgery, I am not totally against it. As long as it is done in moderation. Sometimes a slight altercation to someone's face can make a huge difference. Minor plastic surgery can still retain a natural look; the danger is when you start becoming addicted to getting more and more work done. One can look literally fake really quickly.

Like it or not, but someone's physical appearance matters a lot in this world. From the romantic sphere to the professional, it often even makes a difference if one is standing in court on trial for a crime.

I would not like to be standing in such a court.

 

[Going_Nowhere]

No. I hate everything about myself....especially my looks. I don't think there's anything attractive about me whatsoever.

 

[Vesper_Jaye✝️]

I would not like to be standing in such a court.

It could happen in any court. People tend to favor or believe people who look attractive rather than one who looks average or ugly. It’s called the Halo effect. There used to be courts where the judge couldn’t see the person who was accused, so the Halo effect wouldn’t happen. I don’t know if there are still any courts like that, but those courts would be the best place to go to avoid Halo effect. I wish courts were still like that! If I was falsely accused for something, I would probably end up going to jail. Not only because I’m not super pretty, but also because I smile when I’m accused of something so it looks like I’m lying when I’m not. I also laugh when something bad happens. I think it’s a coping mechanism or something but it can make me seem kind of evil sometimes.

 

[Robban]

It could happen in any court. People tend to favor or believe people who look attractive rather than one who looks average or ugly. It’s called the Halo effect. There used to be courts where the judge couldn’t see the person who was accused, so the Halo effect wouldn’t happen. I don’t know if there are still any courts like that, but those courts would be the best place to go to avoid Halo effect. I wish courts were still like that! If I was falsely accused for something, I would probably end up going to jail. Not only because I’m not super pretty, but also because I smile when I’m accused of something so it looks like I’m lying when I’m not. I also laugh when something bad happens. I think it’s a coping mechanism or something but it can make me seem kind of evil sometimes.

Those judges have disqualified themselves and should seek employment elsewhere.

 

[Akita Suggagaki]

I try to dress well and to be pretty well groomed. Not much more I can do but work on posture. Pretty satisfied but can improve.