are you really ready to date?

[Gracefullybroken]

To those who have never been a relationship before are you really ready to
date?

 

[HoneyBee]

Me? I don't think so. I have some trauma I still need to work through before I go about dating anyone. After all, I don't want to bring any unnecessary baggage into my first real relationship.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

Not even close, but it doesn't stop me from trying to make connections in the event that ever changes.

 

[Gracefullybroken]

To respond to own question I an not ready because their are areas I need to work on.

 

[Saucy]

Definitely

 

[Sketcher]

I won't say definitely not, but I could be more ready.

 

[mukk_in]

To those who have never been a relationship before are you really ready to
date?

Not for another 15-20 years due to family obligations (even though I'm getting up there in age). I'll also be approaching a professional matchmaker. I'm open to general godly friendships, though. Peace in Christ .

 

[Grandpa2390]

Not even close, but it doesn't stop me from trying to make connections in the event that ever changes.

same here.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

.

 

[Grandpa2390]

I prefer to remain single. I got a lot of things about myself I need to fix and I'm not sure how successful I will be at it. I know that especially at this point, any romantic relationship I pursue will end in disaster. Like what Multifavs said, I'd rather stick to friendships than romance.

One of the hardest things about having a disability like Asperger's is accepting the fact that there are some things you can never do or have in life unless you're incredibly lucky or put in Olympian amounts of work into it. Thankfully, God will make up for it somehow in Heaven. With the way things are going in the world, I don't expect to be here for long.

the agree rating I gave you concerns me, not you

 

[Rigatoni]

It all depends on who I meet. I honestly prefer getting to know someone as friends for awhile initially, and becoming close on that level first. If we really get a long well and are compatible, of course I would like to pursue something more if she's okay with it one day. And if not, at least we would have a strong foundation of friendship to default to.

There's a certain type of person and connection I'm looking for, and am really not interested in playing games with someone's heart.

 

[jovanovic]

yes i am ready, but i know no woman would want me.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Me? I don't think so. I have some trauma I still need to work through before I go about dating anyone. After all, I don't want to bring any unnecessary baggage into my first real relationship.

I like your profile so cute

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Not ready; actually, I have never felt any interest in dating. I'd rather just have some good friendships.

I want friends too.

 

[redblue22]

I'm surprised that so many Christians are just not ready to love someone. Or not ready to spend time or resources on anyone but themselves. I'm sure it must be hard to keep a promise to another person. I guess I can see how one might not be prepared for that.

I admire how honest people are.

 

[Grandpa2390]

I'm surprised that so many Christians are just not ready to love someone. Or not ready to spend time or resources on anyone but themselves. I'm sure it must be hard to keep a promise to another person. I guess I can see how one might not be prepared for that.

I admire how honest people are.

Or maybe people just aren't in a place to take on the responsibility of taking care of someone. Perhaps they feel they need to get their house in order before they take on the responsibility.

I see the results quite often of what happens when young people get married and start family before their house is in order. It's no good. at a dead end job that pays minimum wage, but can't better themselves and their position (or their family's) because every cent, paycheck to paycheck, is going towards paying the bills.

I personally can understand those who want to finish school and get their careers going, or want to fix themselves, rather than just dropping their burdens on a wife/husband and kiddos.

 

[redblue22]

read the thread title.

 

[Grandpa2390]

read the thread title.

Read the reasons people actually gave for why they are not "really ready to date."
Not all of them. But your generalization that everyone who doesn't want to date is somehow selfish is inaccurate.

 

[redblue22]

You are putting words in my mouth.

 

[Grandpa2390]

You are putting words in my mouth.

no I quoted you:

I'm surprised that so many Christians are just not ready to love someone. Or not ready to spend time or resources on anyone but themselves. I'm sure it must be hard to keep a promise to another person. I guess I can see how one might not be prepared for that.

I admire how honest people are.

If the Christians you are referring to are not the one on this thread, you ought to be more clear if you don't want people to misunderstand you. Because in context, it appears you are talking about the people participating in this thread.

You also ought to mention or quote the person you are talking to if you want them to see your response.