Are we allowed to pray for....

[Doc13]

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[Benjammin]

It sounds like to me, you look for exactly what God wanted Marraige to be for us. Aloving partnership between two people, to bring each other pleasure, and through your union, to bring God Glory and Honor.

 

[TheThirdLink]

Is it wrong to ask for such things or is it ok?

Yes, but does anyone have any more advice or opinions for him? I don't (of course not, look at my age!). But I'll pray for him anyway.

 

[Antonio83]

I don't see anything wrong with praying for someone to be your wife when the intentions are pure and in line with God's word.

 

[Bizzlebin Imperatoris]

It seems like you've done everything right. Just be ready to accept that this may not be the right woman for you. Only God knows the plans He has for you.

 

[Whitestone]

I would probably lean toward praying for guidance. She may be great but still may not be the one for you. Ask G-d for a woman to be your wife and He will bless you with a woman that will exceed anything you hope for.

My biggest suggestion would be to try to stay concious of your will and His will and whether or not they are coinciding, I have noticed that they seem to conflict regularly when soulmate searching.

Doc it does seem like you have your priorities strait. One thing is for certain G-d always keeps His promises, He just does it on his time schedule.

He will bless you,

Whitestone

 

[seebs]

Ask for anything you want... But always remember that asking for God to guide you will generally work better than picking something out yourself and asking for it.

 

[The Midge]

Amen Seebs.

Remember your prayers are about a relationship with God. Asking His opinion about things, getting to know God better, finding out is He were you what he would do in your particular situation. "Your will be done" is the model prayer. And so is "Give us our daily bread" or supply our daily needs to sustain life and carry out our ministry.

There is a lot at stake when it comes to chosing a partner. Have a look at 1 Corinthians 7 and see how being married or not affects your ability to serve God. Would marriage conflict with a calling on your life to be a celibate priest for example? So it is right to pray about it. No issue is too small for God.

An open prayer asking God to help you develope an approriate relationship with this other person then listening to God to discern what is an appropriate relationship may be. Things may not work out how you would like (remembber Miss Perfect also has a freewill and choice in the matter are you the answer to her prayers? ) and if that happens such prayer will open the way for God to be right there when things get difficult and a wonderful platonic relationship instead of bitterness can develop.

"Deliver us from temptation" is also a valuable part of the modal prayer inthis situation. No matter how pure our intentions the old hormons and instincts are very strong and you can get sept away by them before you know it and making regrettable blunders in the process.

 

[rogsr]

Here is an interesting story for you my friend, having to do with finding soul mates. While I was in the marine corps. I was stationed on camp david, which is on top of a mountain. There was a place right outside our barracks that I would go to and pray during the night. The stars were always really clear, and it was very secluded. One night after agonizing from lonliness, due to not having a companion, I went out there and began to talk to Jesus. I told Him about what I was feeling, and I asked Him to send to me a companion that was right for me. I trusted that things would happen when I was ready for a companion and I didn't put anymore thought into it. A few months goes by, and finally we get to go on summer leave. While at home visiting friends from high school I ran into a couple of girls whom I had barely spoken to in years. The one worked at a mini-golf coarse, and I went there to hang out with her during the day a few times. On the last day she asked me if I had gone to say good-bye to miranda (the other girl). I said no. And she said go do it. So I did and we've been together ever since. There is more to the story, but you get the point...I hope

 

[Emmy]

Dear Doc 13.You have had some very good answers to your question.It is so very refreshing to hear that there are still men who want to be guided by the Lord in finding the partner God has for you.Keep praying and be on the look out.God will honour your prayer.P.S.When you pray ,tell the Lord in your own words what you would like Him to do for you,thank Him for His Love for you and wait.Greetings from Emmy,a sister in Christ.

 

[Live4Christ4961]

i dont think there is anything wrong with it, and i am sure that you will find your "soul mate" cuz well, your only 28, ur still young! and whatever sin is in your life (and EVERYONE has sin in their lives) god will or has already forgiven it...

 

[TheMainException]

There is nothing wrong with praying to have someone, but make sure you also pray for God's will, not yours, just as Jesus did. God will give you someone, have patience for he may say "no" or "wait".

 

[klewlis]

I dunno, I hesitate to say that it's ok to pray for God to give her to you when you apparently don't even know the girl. You said you haven't even met her yet. So on what basis do you think she'd be good for you? She could be completely different from you or have a clashing personality or... anything. All you know is that she's beautiful, and that sounds to me like you are trying to choose a wife based on her face, which is always the worst way to do it.

Instead, pray for God to bring you the girl that HE wants for you. He alone knows your heart and hers, and is the best matchmaker.

 

[SUNSTONE]

Ok, this may seem like a strange question, but I want to know if we are allowed to pray to have someone else. Let me clarify, please read on...


I am a devoit Christian. Unfortunately, I am not free of sin. I try to pray everyday for an hour or more. I usually pray the Rosary, my own prayers, and Christ's prayer given to St. Brigit.

I am a male of 28 years of age and I have to admit unfortunately that I have had problems in my past with lust and have had issues with touching yourself. Although I'm happy to say I'm breaking free of these urges, I've been praying hard and have become clear of lust (maybe 99% free so far). Anyways... I am still a virgin and am saving myself for when I get married.

My life long goal has been to find a soulmate. I've had this goal since pre kindergarden (strange isn't it?! ). I've always felt lonely in life ever since I was a little kid. I feel as though there is someone out there for me and I've felt this way ever since I could think.

I have tremendous love for our Lord Jesus Christ and our Dear God as well as the Virgin Mary and all that is Good. I don't feel deprived of love from my Eternal Father, Our Lord, or our Queen Mary.

But I do feel an emptiness in me which I have always known would be filled by a soulmate (wife) in this world.

I saw this young lady in church and she is a very devout Christian. She is also extremely beautiful. I am preparing myself (I know that sounds wierd) to be able to meet her and perhaps see if things can lead further.

What my question is is that is it ok to pray to have someone? I have asked God if she could be my soul mate in this world. Is this wrong?

I'm not lusting over this young lady. Interestingly enough, I don't look at her that way. If you ask me what size chest she has, I have no idea even though I see her each Sunday in church. I can tell you that she's skinny, but I have never looked over her physical body in the way I may have when I was younger. The only thing I really can remember about her is her face. Her smile and her eyes. I keep thinking about how incredible it would be for us to be soul mates.

Most guys day dream about their wedding night and "consumating" the marrige. I'm dreaming about my wedding night and praying with her. I keep dreaming about praying the rosary together and teaching each other different prayers and praying in union together praising the Lords Name (Amen! ) and doing so for the rest of our lives together.

Is it wrong to ask for such things or is it ok? My intentions are on the purest of levels.

The bible says, be anxious for 'nothing' but in all things make your requests known to God, and the peace that surpasses all understanding, will rule in your heart and your mind. (not word for word, but very close)

The bible also says, if you are married, don't seek to seperate from your spouse, and if you are not married, don't seek to be married.

If you know God, then you should never be lonely.From what I read, it is God that your heart seeks, not a woman.
So instead of praying for a women, pray for God to rule in your life over this matter.
I have prayed this prayer more than any other prayer.
"God I want a wife when I am ready, if that means I may never have a wife, then so be it."

 

[Rafael]

Let your first goal be the Kingdom of God and then all the other things in life will fall into place and be blessed.

Mt 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

Ps 37:4 Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.

 

[WashedClean]

I dunno, I hesitate to say that it's ok to pray for God to give her to you when you apparently don't even know the girl. You said you haven't even met her yet. So on what basis do you think she'd be good for you? She could be completely different from you or have a clashing personality or... anything. All you know is that she's beautiful, and that sounds to me like you are trying to choose a wife based on her face, which is always the worst way to do it.

Instead, pray for God to bring you the girl that HE wants for you. He alone knows your heart and hers, and is the best matchmaker.

I agree with this. That's exactly what I was going to say. Be open to God's will. You may think this girl is perfect for you, and maybe she is. But God might have something even better planned. His will for you is perfect.

Keep praying!

 

[MinDach]

Yes pray about it, but remember you have to have action behind what you want, don't wait too long. You need to meet her and see if you both have the same likes and dislikes, God gives us chances all the time, its up to us to do some thing about.

 

[kimleach]

I think it is fine to ask God for a wife, but agree with the others, that you should get to know this woman first and pray that God will make the way if it is His will that you have this woman as your wife.



Here are a few scriptures:



John 14:14

You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.



John 16:23

In that day you will no longer ask me anything. I tell you the truth; my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name.



John 16:24

Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete.



True story - I have a beloved Christian friend who in her early twenties decided that she wanted a husband. She wrote down on a piece of paper all the qualities that she wanted in a husband and she was quite specific about certain things. (God knew her heart so she felt that she didn’t need to keep anything off the list) She then put that small piece of paper in her bible. A year or so later (when she was married) she was going through all the little pieces of paper stuck in her bible and she found the list. Do you know that her husband has every quality that was written on that paper right down to the dimple on his chin that she had written down as a little bit of a joke!!



I will pray for you too.

 

[nb_christseeker]

it implicitly puts trust in God for your wellbeing when you pray "Thy will be done" in the Our Father prayer. Then whatever happens, you know it is God's will. It takes out the guesswork. That's why Jesus gave us that model prayer.

 

[Bible2]

"This is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us"

-- 1 John 5:14