Here is my question...why wouldnt the good news for jew...be good new for the gentiles....since we as Gentiles would be blessed through Israel.....Isnt that kind of the interpretation of...why Jesus....helped that woman...the one that said even the dogs get the crums from the table..and because of her faith....she got what she asked of him?
And does the Bible stricyly say the the mystery was only given to Paul....if so where?....if yes...then why did Peter have a dream or vision....when Jesus told him what God set clean was clean....and then...in acts he said who could forbid the gentiles from being baptized who had received the spirit just like they had......where does it say Pail ran and told him the mystery which he himself seem to get by the vision? READ EPHESIANS 3; 5...mystery was not just given to Paul.....so there it is.
I've found that the more one is able to at least catch a glimpse of similarity between their understandings and Dispensationalism, the better opportunity they have for seeing what we are saying, as they have less preconception have holding them back from seeing our distinctions than, say, Replacementists, or Covenantists, and their various offshoots - Post-Tribbers, Amilleniaalists, Preterists, etc.
In this, your above questions are good ones, even though you have apparently answered them for yourself to result in answers we would not hold to.
This is not so much about attempting to reason thru what appears a bit off, but about attempting to do so through the Scripture.
Example, you ask the valid question, "why wouldnt the good news for jew...be good new for the gentiles...." but you then add "since we as Gentiles would be blessed through Israel....."
The two appear to go together, and do, but only within Israel's Circumcision, Kingdom gospel, which, per Isaiah 60:3 and many other like passages, foresees how that "the Gentiles shall come to
thy light, and kings to the brightness of thy
rising," which is why when that "Greek... Syrophenician" woman "by nation" that "besought him that he would cast forth the devil out of her daughter... Jesus said unto her, Let the children
first be filled:for it is not meet to take the children's bread, and to cast it unto the dogs," Mark 7:26, 27.
Note that Paul describes the intent of their gospel as such after having earlier in Romans related, that salvation has come unto the Gentiles
not through Israel's
prophesied rise, "rather through their fall," that "blindness in part is happened to Israel
until the fullness
of the Gentiles be come in, Romans 11.
He then relates Israel's Circumcision/Kingdom gospel, which he has just asserted in on hold, he relates its intent in Rom. 15:
8. Now I say that Jesus Christ was a minister of the circumcision for the truth of God, to confirm the promises made unto the fathers:
9. And that the Gentiles might glorify God for his mercy; as it is written, For this cause I will confess to thee among the Gentiles, and sing unto thy name.
10. And again he saith, Rejoice, ye Gentiles,
with his people.
11. And again, Praise the Lord, all ye Gentiles; and laud him, all ye people.
12. And again, Esaias saith, There shall be a root of Jesse, and he that shall rise to reign
over the Gentiles; in him shall the Gentiles trust.
Note that that was prophesied, and that it foresees Israel rise to its prophesied glory. And that Paul has related in Romans 1-3 and 9-11, that that has not happened; that God had planned to put it on hold once again.
It is in light of this that we
then read, in Romans 15:
13.
Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost.
14. And I myself also am persuaded of you, my brethren, that ye also are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge, able also to admonish one another.
15. Nevertheless, brethren, I have written the more boldly unto you in some sort, as putting you in mind,
because of the grace that is given to me of God,
16.
That I should be the minister of Jesus Christ to the Gentiles, ministering the gospel of God, that the offering up of the Gentiles might be acceptable, being sanctified by the Holy Ghost.
17. I have therefore whereof I may glory through Jesus Christ in those things which pertain to God.
18.
For I will not dare to speak of any of those things which Christ hath not wrought by me, to make the Gentiles obedient, by word and deed,
19. Through mighty signs and wonders, by the power of the Spirit of God; so that from Jerusalem, and round about unto Illyricum, I have fully preached the gospel of Christ.
Paul was entrusted with a different gospel of, or about Christ. His has Israel,
not risen to its
prophesied glory
first "rather,
through their fall salvation is come unto the Gentiles," Rom. 11:11.
Example, how does a Jew get saved
today? By forgetting his Jewishness, an coming to Christ as Gentiles do as, during this age "their is no difference" before God - "For God hath concluded them
all in unbelief, that He might have mercy upon
all" without distinction, Rom. 11:32, Rom. 3.
Paul again, and again raises this no distinction issue - but it is in light of this age and this
uncircumcision gospel, he was entrusted with, Gal. 2.
All the various Replacement people confuse Paul's context as no distinction between gospels, because they view all as one gospel to begin with.
As for the balance of your question as to "why Jesus....helped that woman...the one that said even the dogs get the crums from the table..and because of her faith....she got what she asked of him?" she was a foretaste of Gentile blessing upon
Israel's prophesied rise to its kingdom glory - note that she recognized her place under Israel's table of blessing.
She was also blessed under the same Abrahamic Covenant's principle by which Cornelius would later be blessed in Acts 10, according to Acts 10: 1, 2, 34, 35 - that a Gentile who acknowledges Abraham's God, and works righteousness - acted accordingly toward anyone of that nation - would be blessed by God
when this was still in operation, for it is now on hold until the fulness of the Gentiles be come in, sometime after which, God will once more begin to deal with "His people whom he did foreknow, as to the issue they will be dealing with - the issue of Baal worship in its worst manifestation - Antichrist - as Israel heads into Daniel 9's, Malachi 3 and 4's, and Matthew 3's "with fire" or the Tribulation period. I
In this, its interesting that Paul touches on a similar issue in Israel's past, in the first few verses of Romans11.
Anyway, some aspects of the Abrahamic Covenant principle as to Gentile dealings with Israel at work during the Great Tribulation - Matthew 25:
31. When the Son of man shall come in his glory, and all the holy angels with him, then shall he sit the throne of his glory:
32. And before him shall be gathered all nations: and he shall separate them one from another, as a shepherd divideth his sheep from the goats:
40. And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.
41. Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels:
42. For I was an hungered, and ye gave me no meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me no drink:
43. I was a stranger, and ye took me not in: naked, and ye clothed me not: sick, and in prison, and ye visited me not.
44. Then shall they also answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungered, or athirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto thee?
45. Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me.
46. And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.
Again, that is not the case today - today Israel is not a nation recognized by God as His people - they are there of their own will, and in rebellion worse then at any other time in their entire past - but that is another topic.
For now, I'll leave you to ponder the balance of your questions in light of the above...