apologizing in advance...

[LightInDarkPlaces]

I'm sorry, but I REALLY need to vent right now. Don't worry, I won't be foul.

So, I've lost 9 friends in 5 years. Not that I keep track, or anything . But it's tough. It's more than tough. It's excruciating. Also, I've made some bad decisions--e.g., drugs, alcohol, cutting (actually, one of my friends had died because we were to scared to tell anyone that he had a heroin OD cuz then we'd be found out, too--but that was two years ago). I guess what I'm saying is, if karma does exist, then I'm paying my dues and I can't complain.

But yesterday, my best friend just told me that a buddy from her school was killed in a car crash on Thrusday afternoon. Now, this buddy of mine IS A SAINT. She doesn't owe dues for nothing!!! Shoot, she's never argued with her parents! Sure, she disagrees, but she does what she's told, she never been mean to a soul--a girl like this doesn't deserve such a tragedy! It's not fair!!!!

 

[ladyt28]

I too had lost many, many friends by the time I was 17 - drugs, accidents, suicide, disease, violence. Actually, it didn't stop there. It seemed like every time I turned around I had lost another friends to something or other. Part of that was because it has always been easy for me to make friends - I'm not one to judge others and tend to enjoy who people are regardless of the persona they present to the world. The more people I know, the higher the chances that I would know the person who had died.

Sometimes it seems like the death was the end result of poor choices in letting Satan essentially take over their lives. Other times it had to purely be a matter of God calling them home. I just lost my stepson to crack cocaine. When I pray, I get the feeling that God took him home before he became so lost that he'd never make it to heaven to be with his sister who was murdered 14 years ago. Sometimes it feels nearly impossible to accept that God is in control of all things, but He is. When I start to doubt that, I have to pray even more for the comfort that God promises in the Bible for those who grieve.

The tribute you can give to your friends who have died is to pull as much good out of it as you can. I learned: not to drink and drive, not to get into drugs that are so powerful as to absolutely take away any choice I might have had in taking them, to keep my friends close and share my pain so it wouldn't eat me alive, and not to believe that nothing bad would ever happen to me. Look at the grief their parents, family and friends go through. Examine your own grief and resolve NEVER to do that to the people who love you. Surround yourself with a circle of people who love our Lord and do their best to follow His word.

I am so sorry for the losses in your life hon, it's hard but we can make it with the help of Jesus.

 

[LightInDarkPlaces]

Thanks for your support. I've learned some valuable lessons--it's just hard because i learned them all "The hard way."

 

[Nobility]

Aww hun... I can't say I understand in the same way, but I guess when I was about 13 or 14 I had 9 "best" friends move to a different town within a year... Some with no notice whatsoever, and that really hurt too. Remember to let yourself grieve hun

I am praying cos It's all I can do

 

[LightInDarkPlaces]

Thanks, Nobility--prayers mean as much as anything else!

 

[madison1101]

I cannot explain why bad things happen to good people. I cannot explain why God chooses to take certain people home to be with Him. I can assure you that He comforts the brokenhearted, and can heal your pain.

When my younger brother died in October, I leaned on Him and His Word for all it is worth. That is the only thing that pulled me through, along with many, many prayers of people who love the Lord, loved my brother and me.

Hugs,
Trish