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[Angeleyes7715]

I can't make it. I don't want to deal with this situation anymore. I don't want to see my ex bf hurt.

I left to get out of a relationship I felt was abusive.

He's calling me non stop, bawling on the phone and he doesn't cry, he's begging me, drove his company car to get to my house, broke his grandma's crystal glasses she gave him, calling non stop for hours, I warned him saying I may need to put in order of protection, I even blocked calls on messenger, cops had to come to my house the other night I called the cause I didn't know how it would end.

I am scared he will commit suicide and it will be my fault. The guy is only 21. I am 26. It's killing me.

Everyone is telling me oh stay away block him put in restraining orders it's dangerous etc but they don't know him like I do.

I can't decide whether I've taken it too far or he's as bad as everyone says.

I talked to the abuse hotline crisis line told them they say it's emotional abuse. IDK.

I don't think I'll be able to deal with this long. If he goes I will go. He says he loves me will do anything go to counseling.

I love him and can't stand to see this happen. I'm being strong like everyone says and blocking him and trying to just move on with my life but I hate my life. I hate this.

If this turns out bad I want to die I want to die I want to die.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Just an opinion, but it looks like you are not able to make and stick to the decisions for yourself that are necessary. Thus family? or the mental health counselors or some church or some group might be able to help you in that direction, to be becoming under the care of someone who is able and capable of making the necessary decisions for you "as long as needed".

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

you need help that no one on this site is going to be able to give you.

you can get through this, but it will take some legit intervention from professionals.

 

[Swords&Sunflowers]

I can't make it. I don't want to deal with this situation anymore. I don't want to see my ex bf hurt.

I left to get out of a relationship I felt was abusive.

He's calling me non stop, bawling on the phone and he doesn't cry, he's begging me, drove his company car to get to my house, broke his grandma's crystal glasses she gave him, calling non stop for hours, I warned him saying I may need to put in order of protection, I even blocked calls on messenger, cops had to come to my house the other night I called the cause I didn't know how it would end.

I am scared he will commit suicide and it will be my fault. The guy is only 21. I am 26. It's killing me.

Everyone is telling me oh stay away block him put in restraining orders it's dangerous etc but they don't know him like I do.

I can't decide whether I've taken it too far or he's as bad as everyone says.

I talked to the abuse hotline crisis line told them they say it's emotional abuse. IDK.

I don't think I'll be able to deal with this long. If he goes I will go. He says he loves me will do anything go to counseling.

I love him and can't stand to see this happen. I'm being strong like everyone says and blocking him and trying to just move on with my life but I hate my life. I hate this.

If this turns out bad I want to die I want to die I want to die.

anytime you feel unsafe, it is not a healthy relationship. If you feel like you are being manipulated physically or emotionally or mentally, these are red flags, these are not healthy. You have to be firm with your decision, do it for yourself and do it for him. It will hurt because you love him, but you can always love him as a friend, will you be truly happy continuing on with this relationship that you already have doubts with and are already suffering? It's way better to stay single than marry the wrong person.

 

[buck1hunter]

I think what you said today shows everyone how much of a kind and caring person you really are. Being a nice person doesn't mean you should allow yourself to be exploited though. You said he was abusive and he's acting like a nut. I'm sorry to say this but it's time to move on. I know it will be difficult but you have your whole life ahead of you. There's someone out there who will make you happy. Just keep your head up. Im sure you'll find them.

 

[EmeraldFields]

I can't make it. I don't want to deal with this situation anymore. I don't want to see my ex bf hurt.

I left to get out of a relationship I felt was abusive.

He's calling me non stop, bawling on the phone and he doesn't cry, he's begging me, drove his company car to get to my house, broke his grandma's crystal glasses she gave him, calling non stop for hours, I warned him saying I may need to put in order of protection, I even blocked calls on messenger, cops had to come to my house the other night I called the cause I didn't know how it would end.

I am scared he will commit suicide and it will be my fault. The guy is only 21. I am 26. It's killing me.

Everyone is telling me oh stay away block him put in restraining orders it's dangerous etc but they don't know him like I do.

I can't decide whether I've taken it too far or he's as bad as everyone says.

I talked to the abuse hotline crisis line told them they say it's emotional abuse. IDK.

I don't think I'll be able to deal with this long. If he goes I will go. He says he loves me will do anything go to counseling.

I love him and can't stand to see this happen. I'm being strong like everyone says and blocking him and trying to just move on with my life but I hate my life. I hate this.

If this turns out bad I want to die I want to die I want to die.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.
If he were to hurt himself, .it would absolutely NOT be your fault. It sounds like you've done everything you are suppose to do to protect yourself. Emotional abuse IS abuse. Please dont blame yourself. You're in my thoughts and prayers. (((Hugs)))

 

[drjean]

You must take care of yourself first. You are in no emotional nor psychological shape to be able to help this guy except to cut the apron strings he has tied around you. IF he were to commit suicide, that would be his demented decision and not your fault. No one makes anyone kill himself!

I would that you call an abuse hotline... they will show you how he fits the abuser's profile...this crying and wailing and saying sorry even, only to regain control over you and perhaps do you greater harm than ever to teach you a lesson ..and then to apologize and cry and buy you things and say he'll never do it again...and how much he needs you to live... SWEETHEART, he's an evil manipulator.

The abuse hotline will also give you ways to get free of this guy. You don't love him the way God would have you love someone... you might be in love with the idea of being in love, you might be a very caring spirit that wants to help him... but this is not relationship love... perhaps he's brainwashed you into thinking so?

The best thing is to cut that cord he has tied around your neck... and be free of him .... then, and only then will you be able to hear God speak to you about the rest of your life...

Please call an abuse hotline. You need more support to handle this expert abuser...and I am not sure you are really hearing us, for fear you think we aren't understanding how you feel and the 'real' situation. Please. (((((safe hug)))) Please

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

I would give it some more time. He can only be this angry for so long. I think when you are in a relationship where there has been a lot of breaking up then making up there becomes this comfort where you get used to breaking up and expect the other person to take you back with a simple apology and being extra nice. Well this can only go on for so long. If the person can only treat you well when they realize they lost you then you can't be with them because as soon as they get comfortable the poor treatment starts up again. Thats not healthy for anyone to deal with that cycle so I would stay strong and see this through. Hes going to have to accept it eventually and if hes crazy enough to commit suicide(which is most likely just a manipulation tactic) then you don't need to be with such an unstable person anyways.

 

[drjean]

I agree with giving it time...
but he will never change and will always be trying to control you if you are in his life...and if he ever sees you IRL later on, he will try to manipulate you again... that's the way they are... stay away from him...if he is able to find where you are, and he is angry, his abuse may escalate. This is one reason you need to at least call an abuse center to get information on how to be safe and find a new life.

 

[Drifter Kybe Scythe Kane]

I can't make it. I don't want to deal with this situation anymore. I don't want to see my ex bf hurt.

I left to get out of a relationship I felt was abusive.

He's calling me non stop, bawling on the phone and he doesn't cry, he's begging me, drove his company car to get to my house, broke his grandma's crystal glasses she gave him, calling non stop for hours, I warned him saying I may need to put in order of protection, I even blocked calls on messenger, cops had to come to my house the other night I called the cause I didn't know how it would end.

I am scared he will commit suicide and it will be my fault. The guy is only 21. I am 26. It's killing me.

Everyone is telling me oh stay away block him put in restraining orders it's dangerous etc but they don't know him like I do.

I can't decide whether I've taken it too far or he's as bad as everyone says.

I talked to the abuse hotline crisis line told them they say it's emotional abuse. IDK.

I don't think I'll be able to deal with this long. If he goes I will go. He says he loves me will do anything go to counseling.

I love him and can't stand to see this happen. I'm being strong like everyone says and blocking him and trying to just move on with my life but I hate my life. I hate this.

If this turns out bad I want to die I want to die I want to die.

i really wish you find your own private time for an inspirational book with a similar story out there for any possible relating similar advice about this...