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[LostnFound]

What about me?? Where do I fit in this family? It so hard to be lonely when you have a husband!!!!! All I want is to be hugged by him! That's it only a hug watching tv. ( only what he watches ) What to do??

Oh MAN, do I know what you are saying!!!

 

[Zita123]

I know what your saying but,He has found GOD!!! Born again!! I never in our entire life together thought he would give up his Catholic ways . He started by watching a show on sundays . Joel Olsteen. He really listened to him and that's what started him going to church. Just this morning he said " I'm learning that the bible said that you should treat your wife with talking nice , not yelling and swearing. So, I think maybe there is hope.. I keep the faith and It really does get different everyday. Thanks for caring!
Zita123

Zita,

Please draw boundaries. While the Bible talks about submission, it is so misunderstood that women who are being abused, either physically or emotionally, simply tolerate it. It is sometimes easier to do than to venture out into the world of the unknown. But it is not always God's will to sit back and "let go and let God." We must clearly communicate what we will and will not tolerate in a relationship and set up a plan as to how we will enforce our boundaries. Your husband has already demonstrated that he is not faithful, and simply settling for this is just another state of denial. As far as the weight issue, he is simply using that as a "cover-up" for other issues in the marriage. Whlie losing weight is an aspring goal for us in taking care of the bodies God has given us, it will not change your husband or improve your marriage. In fact, further submission to him will not change him either. Please get into therapy (alone), start financially preparing yourself for the future in the event of a separation, and establish boundaries. Start working on yourself, while leaving the door open for your husband, but please establish guidelines and refuse to be subject to emotional abuse. Do not be fearful or afraid to change for security reasons. And pray for strength. God bless. pav

 

[heron]

Zita,
that's so exciting! Did that just happen? You must have a great sense of relief.

Remember that he has spent many years establishing habits, so expect some lapses in his faith. You can still be who you need to be, through thick and thin. God sees your suffering and his oppression. The devil might use one slip in a sermon or one rude statement from another to disillusion him, and lead him to mistrust the church. It will be so much easier, though, to have the common ground of motivation in life.

You might still have days where you feel living elsewhere is healthier and safer for you. If you are afraid of shaking his faith, remember that his walk with God is his responsibility. We all grow from difficult experiences, so any justified decisions you make can be just as helpful as they appear detrimental.

We'll pray also for emotional healings of his past, times where he might have felt that life was unfair and he needed to grasp it back into control. May your life be free and content.

Thank God for blessing our world with Joel Osteen's kind words!

 

[LostnFound]

Zita, this is so exciting!!! Please keep us posted.

 

[Zita123]

Thank you for your prayers! Just yesterday he started getting a little like before ,yelling, I told him He is losing his faith and he told me I was right and stopped and thought about it and said HE WAS SORRY!!!!! WOW, I was sooooo exicited!!! Thanks everyone that is praying.." the power of prayer1 " it really does work!
Zita123

Zita,
that's so exciting! Did that just happen? You must have a great sense of relief.

Remember that he has spent many years establishing habits, so expect some lapses in his faith. You can still be who you need to be, through thick and thin. God sees your suffering and his oppression. The devil might use one slip in a sermon or one rude statement from another to disillusion him, and lead him to mistrust the church. It will be so much easier, though, to have the common ground of motivation in life.

You might still have days where you feel living elsewhere is healthier and safer for you. If you are afraid of shaking his faith, remember that his walk with God is his responsibility. We all grow from difficult experiences, so any justified decisions you make can be just as helpful as they appear detrimental.

We'll pray also for emotional healings of his past, times where he might have felt that life was unfair and he needed to grasp it back into control. May your life be free and content.

Thank God for blessing our world with Joel Osteen's kind words!