My mom passed away on June 8th. I was just wondering how many of us has gone through this.
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Any One Here Lost a Parent?
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I'ddie4him2
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My mom passed on Feb 12, 2000 at the age of 59. Quite young really.
She bravely fought cancer for 2 years.
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So sorry for your loss. It takes awhile to get past the loss.
I lost my mom, well, in some ways, a few years ago, and in others, about 13 years ago. She had Alzheimer's.
I lost my mom, well, in some ways, a few years ago, and in others, about 13 years ago. She had Alzheimer's.
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My mom had colon cancer too.
After about 18 months, The cancer metastacised (sp ?) and spread to her other organs. There was nothing the Dr's could do for her after that.
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My mom lasted a little less than a year. By the time they discovered it, I think it was to late. They over chemo'd her and we almost lost her.
Alzheimer's - I understand a little about that too. My Uncle had Alzheimer's. When I went to visit the last time before he passed, he couldn't remember me, and I am not so sure he remembered my dad either. It was very sad to see such a vibrant life wane away like that. On the up side, he told me some stories from the depression era that I never would have known if not for his illness. At least now the confusion is gone.
Alzheimer's - I understand a little about that too. My Uncle had Alzheimer's. When I went to visit the last time before he passed, he couldn't remember me, and I am not so sure he remembered my dad either. It was very sad to see such a vibrant life wane away like that. On the up side, he told me some stories from the depression era that I never would have known if not for his illness. At least now the confusion is gone.
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I was 15 when my mother died which was about two years ago. She died of cancer. It was sort of odd for me to get used to her not being there, but I never really grieved much. She fought cancer for 3 years so it wasn't really that much of a surprise to me, I guess. Not only that, death doesn't seem to bother me all that much. It's not like mourning and hurting will bring anyone back anyway.
It started as breast cancer, then lung cancer, and then brain cancer. I guess I did my mourning after she was diagnosed with brain cancer because basically she wasn't herself anymore and I had a couple of months to get over her death before she actually died I guess.
It started as breast cancer, then lung cancer, and then brain cancer. I guess I did my mourning after she was diagnosed with brain cancer because basically she wasn't herself anymore and I had a couple of months to get over her death before she actually died I guess.
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Yes, I used to take care of the handicapped and elderly. The one thing I noticed was cancer patients especially changed over night. Most just gave up.
It is easy to see that when you are faced with your own mortality or when the disease starts to ravish your body, that not only will things change, but they need to change. Your priorities change because your time has run out.
In any case it is very difficult as a bystander to watch a once vibrant person become helpless.
It is easy to see that when you are faced with your own mortality or when the disease starts to ravish your body, that not only will things change, but they need to change. Your priorities change because your time has run out.
In any case it is very difficult as a bystander to watch a once vibrant person become helpless.
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My mom passed away very peacefully March 1. I was blessed to be with her as she went home. A group of friends and I spent the last couple hours of her life singing to her (not all that well I might add!).
Mom had battled pancreatic cancer for a little less than a year. (She lived about 9-11 post diagonsis.) Radiation really took her down and she never fully recovered.
I think she also gave up...
Mom had battled pancreatic cancer for a little less than a year. (She lived about 9-11 post diagonsis.) Radiation really took her down and she never fully recovered.
I think she also gave up...
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Both my mother and sister in law were over chemo'd.
My sister in law did not make it. As a result my brother refused to see my mom in her last days. My mother was hospitalized for several weeks, but eventually grew strong enough to go home. I am pretty sure my mom gave up, as she refused to take her meds the night before.
Sigh. It has been since June 8th and yet there are still so many times I wish I could pick up the phone . . . just to hear her voice.
My sister in law did not make it. As a result my brother refused to see my mom in her last days. My mother was hospitalized for several weeks, but eventually grew strong enough to go home. I am pretty sure my mom gave up, as she refused to take her meds the night before.
Sigh. It has been since June 8th and yet there are still so many times I wish I could pick up the phone . . . just to hear her voice.
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My dad passed away July 7th after a six year fight with Multiple Myeloma. In the end, the drugs that gave us him for those unexpected years caused his liver and organs to fail. But we got five and a half years that we were told never to expect. He was six days away from his 56th birthday. I have his voice mail greeting saved in my cell phone and listen to it when I can't sleep.
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I just went through my voice mail the other day, because I thought I might have one of my mother but no luck. Somedays I would just like to hear her voice.
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My dad was in a fatal car accident December 15th 2006. Sometimes, I wish he could have just survived so I could say goodbye. It still hurts as if it was yesterday. All the time, I see the highway patrol standing at the front door coming to tell us the awful news.
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Ariel
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I have lost all my fathers.
My real father was an officer killed in action in Korea before I was born. He was trying to defend his men when he was shot down.
My step father died of cancer at the age of 53. When I knew he was dying I couldn't go see him, I was pregnant with my second son. I had that baby a week after his death. Every time I am at my mom's house I expect to see him. I still mourn him.
I lost my father-in-law to cancer and heart disease. His death hit me as if he had been my own father, because in a very real sense he had. He had loved me like a daughter, and had given me a glimpse of what my Father in heaven is like. We lost him right before Christmas eight years ago. I still feel so sad.
But--I know that all three of them are in heaven. I just have this witness that they are there.
Still, I break down into tears sometimes. I was mopping the kitchen floor one day and crying when the Lord spoke to me. He said that I didn't have a father here on earth anymore, so now He would be my father.
I've thought of that every time I wanted to call my father-in-law. Now instead I call on the Lord and remind Him of what He said. I ask Him for help. He hears me, He has helped so many times.
I have lost all my fathers, but I am not fatherless.
My real father was an officer killed in action in Korea before I was born. He was trying to defend his men when he was shot down.
My step father died of cancer at the age of 53. When I knew he was dying I couldn't go see him, I was pregnant with my second son. I had that baby a week after his death. Every time I am at my mom's house I expect to see him. I still mourn him.
I lost my father-in-law to cancer and heart disease. His death hit me as if he had been my own father, because in a very real sense he had. He had loved me like a daughter, and had given me a glimpse of what my Father in heaven is like. We lost him right before Christmas eight years ago. I still feel so sad.
But--I know that all three of them are in heaven. I just have this witness that they are there.
Still, I break down into tears sometimes. I was mopping the kitchen floor one day and crying when the Lord spoke to me. He said that I didn't have a father here on earth anymore, so now He would be my father.
I've thought of that every time I wanted to call my father-in-law. Now instead I call on the Lord and remind Him of what He said. I ask Him for help. He hears me, He has helped so many times.
I have lost all my fathers, but I am not fatherless.
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That sounds sad Ariel, you hang in there. I am 31 years old and never lost a parent, I know it will be really sad when that happens, but I'll get through it, it is simply a natural process. I actually believe it is unnatural to live forever, but that is how I look at it.
Hang in there guys, and gals, and remember as the Pope says, "God loves you."
Hang in there guys, and gals, and remember as the Pope says, "God loves you."
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Ariel
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Thanks. I know it is "natural," but something in me says it is UNnatural. We were meant to have eternal life. Except for the fall, that is what we would have had. There would have been no death.
Praise God that in this cursed world which is full of sin and death some of us have found the way out. His name is Jesus. He took our death and gives us everlasting life. And one day we will see Him, and be like Him.
Praise God that in this cursed world which is full of sin and death some of us have found the way out. His name is Jesus. He took our death and gives us everlasting life. And one day we will see Him, and be like Him.
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rushingwind62
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I lost my dad on March 11, 2003. He had diabetes and it caused his kidneys to fail. He was on dialysis for almost 7 years and I took care of him for 4 of those years. After a couple of nasty falls that broke his arm not once, but twice, he gave up and chose to stop dialysis. His body and organs were completely shutting down though. He was throwing up food he had ate several days before. So he wasn't digesting anything he ate in his last days.
For me it was harder watching him slowly ebb away over the years than it was when he passed. I think it was like someone else posted earlier, I was in the grieving process long before he ever died.
I, like many, miss him and have my bad days. I often think to myself, if only dad were here. I miss the laughs, the joking around, and most of all his advice. But you know. when I am in dire need of his advice, I can hear what he would say, simply because I knew and know him. What is hardest for me is when someone starts telling me their story of how they are taking care of their ill parent or loved one. Their stories move me to tears because I can relate.
I was there when dad passed. I was holding his hand and my last words to him were, "go with the angels, Dad. And know that we love you." For that I will be eternally thankful....now I have to get a tissue. Don't worry, they may be tears of sorrow, but they are also tears of joy, because I know where he is and that the angels did come to lead him home....God Bless....Rob
For me it was harder watching him slowly ebb away over the years than it was when he passed. I think it was like someone else posted earlier, I was in the grieving process long before he ever died.
I, like many, miss him and have my bad days. I often think to myself, if only dad were here. I miss the laughs, the joking around, and most of all his advice. But you know. when I am in dire need of his advice, I can hear what he would say, simply because I knew and know him.
What is hardest for me is when someone starts telling me their story of how they are taking care of their ill parent or loved one. Their stories move me to tears because I can relate.I was there when dad passed. I was holding his hand and my last words to him were, "go with the angels, Dad. And know that we love you." For that I will be eternally thankful.
...now I have to get a tissue. Don't worry, they may be tears of sorrow, but they are also tears of joy, because I know where he is and that the angels did come to lead him home....God Bless....Rob
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rushingwind62
Debi1967 is the love of my life!!!!
To many it may be a sad story, but to me it a story with a glorious ending.One that I will carry with me all the days of my life. I only hope my experience and story can help those going through the same thing. And I too look forward to the day when there will be no more suffering, no more death, and a day when all of our tears will be wiped away by our Father in Heaven and His loving Son.
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