Put God first. Your marital second and or with God in the middle. CHildren next. Extended family next. Make sure your relational issues are healed. etc. If you find your in a spot that nothign is healing. Seek Godly counsel etc. Dont let it go on forever. I know I suffered it from parents who didn't have it in a healthy way and marital relationshipo suffered which then the kids suffered -me included.