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No matter how you feel, you are a beloved child of God. I'm praying that God will help you out of the hole that you're in right now. God would not want you to take your life, no matter what your temptations are. Try to remember that it is the Devil who is troubling you right now. If you resist, he will flee from you.
When you say that you are obsessed with a boy, is it a boy your age or one who is younger. If it is one who is younger, you need to get to a therapist or pastor right away. It is not a temptation that you can bear alone.
There is a wonderful internet site called SettingCaptivesFree.com. It has resources for battling a number of temptations such as masturbation, pornography, homosexuality, etc.
There are also individual threads here on this site that help people hold one another accountable.
I pray that God will send His peace to you, if only for a little while, so that you can see that there is help for you. God Bless.
When you say that you are obsessed with a boy, is it a boy your age or one who is younger. If it is one who is younger, you need to get to a therapist or pastor right away. It is not a temptation that you can bear alone.
There is a wonderful internet site called SettingCaptivesFree.com. It has resources for battling a number of temptations such as masturbation, pornography, homosexuality, etc.
There are also individual threads here on this site that help people hold one another accountable.
I pray that God will send His peace to you, if only for a little while, so that you can see that there is help for you. God Bless.
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Jesus is the answer, you will find Jesus if you look for Him. He is in the Living Word. The Word is alive and it will bring success and power into your real life everyday conflicts. Seek blessings or cursings. It is up to you. Better hurry because Jesus will be here pretty quick
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Please please PLEASE do not let this problem lead you to suicide. Remember, you can do all things through Christ. He will be with you every step of the way, but you will need to work to get out of this hole. Remember, nothing worth having (in this case, freedom from sin) was ever won without a fight.
As hard as this is for you, remember that you already took one step towards getting rid of your problem by coming on these message boards and asking for help. That's a big step already.
Now, I suggest you start praying. Pray a lot. Tell God what's bothering you and how much you want His help. You need his help with this, because it's something that is bothering you very much.
Try to steer clear from the boy. It might be hard, because perhaps it's someone you see quite frequently. Regardless, for his sake and yours, try to limit your meetings as much as you can. Sometimes just taking a step back and avoiding the temptation can help a lot.
Third, (I know this is hard) if you feel you need the extra help, try talking to a pastor, a therapist, or a Christian psychologist/psychiatrist. Some might be more help than others...if one person isn't sure of how to help you, try someone else. There's always someone out there who can give you a hand.
God bless. I'll pray that you find peace with this. Give it some time...you will.
As hard as this is for you, remember that you already took one step towards getting rid of your problem by coming on these message boards and asking for help. That's a big step already.
Now, I suggest you start praying. Pray a lot. Tell God what's bothering you and how much you want His help. You need his help with this, because it's something that is bothering you very much.
Try to steer clear from the boy. It might be hard, because perhaps it's someone you see quite frequently. Regardless, for his sake and yours, try to limit your meetings as much as you can. Sometimes just taking a step back and avoiding the temptation can help a lot.
Third, (I know this is hard) if you feel you need the extra help, try talking to a pastor, a therapist, or a Christian psychologist/psychiatrist. Some might be more help than others...if one person isn't sure of how to help you, try someone else. There's always someone out there who can give you a hand.
God bless. I'll pray that you find peace with this. Give it some time...you will.
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^ Well that ain't gonna happen. You'll always be accountable to God.
http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com = Try this.
You're 19 man. You'd better sort this out quick or you'll be like this for the rest of your life, needless to say. Good luck man, I'm going through this myself, and fighting, so overcoming it is possible. Just pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray
http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com = Try this.
You're 19 man. You'd better sort this out quick or you'll be like this for the rest of your life, needless to say. Good luck man, I'm going through this myself, and fighting, so overcoming it is possible. Just pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray
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It would be nice sometimes to live on an island and be accountable only to ourselves. However, that is not the way the world works. Also, we are always accountable to God.
I know that you are suffering, and I want to tell you that God doesn't want you to suffer. In fact, He wants to free you from the hell that you are in. It doesn't matter what your temptations or proclivities are. Jesus paid the debt that we all owe, and all we have to do is ask for His mercy.
It sounds to me like you are really depressed right now. I think it would be very helpful for you to seek out counseling from either a mental health provider or a pastor. Right now you are so deep in despair, that I don't think you can see God's hand stretched out to you.
I know that you feel guilt for being obsessed with a boy. However, God has helped keep you from sinning against that boy. He will continue to help you, but you also need to get some professional help. Sometimes we cannot bear a burden alone. That is why God gave us people to help us. I implore you to get some help quickly.
I will pray for your safety and that God will help strengthen you.
I know that you are suffering, and I want to tell you that God doesn't want you to suffer. In fact, He wants to free you from the hell that you are in. It doesn't matter what your temptations or proclivities are. Jesus paid the debt that we all owe, and all we have to do is ask for His mercy.
It sounds to me like you are really depressed right now. I think it would be very helpful for you to seek out counseling from either a mental health provider or a pastor. Right now you are so deep in despair, that I don't think you can see God's hand stretched out to you.
I know that you feel guilt for being obsessed with a boy. However, God has helped keep you from sinning against that boy. He will continue to help you, but you also need to get some professional help. Sometimes we cannot bear a burden alone. That is why God gave us people to help us. I implore you to get some help quickly.
I will pray for your safety and that God will help strengthen you.
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Foston
Hope we can talk soon mate!
In the meantime, are you aware that there are lots of guys battling the same things as you and posting in the Men's Corner forum:
http://www.christianforums.com/f214-pornography-addiction-support.html
Also, there is a really great testimony you should read from Worshipleader2b who is a spot-on guy:
http://www.christianforums.com/t3342484-my-story.htmlhttp://www.christianforums.com/
http://www.christianforums.com/f214-pornography-addiction-support.html
It's long, but well worth the time to read it.
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Hope we can talk soon mate!
In the meantime, are you aware that there are lots of guys battling the same things as you and posting in the Men's Corner forum:
http://www.christianforums.com/f214-pornography-addiction-support.html
Also, there is a really great testimony you should read from Worshipleader2b who is a spot-on guy:
http://www.christianforums.com/t3342484-my-story.htmlhttp://www.christianforums.com/
http://www.christianforums.com/f214-pornography-addiction-support.html
It's long, but well worth the time to read it.
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I've started the Door of Hope course at settingcaptivesfree.com and its already looking like a totally awesome aid to anyone who struggles with homosexuality. I really recommend it too 
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Hi, I feel to write to you under the heading that Jesus Christ died for your sins.
God created you and loves you so much that He sent Jesus for you. God is no respecter of persons. Homosexuality is a sin, as is stealing. Yes it is a sin. This is a good first step, that you acknowledge it as sin.
I struggled with homosexuality through my teenage years and early 20's, I was suicidal and hated myself, the world and life. I began a 2 month homosexual friendship, after it ended I wanted to die, I felt so alone. An athiest friend of mine looked at me one night and said "you are going to be punished." great fear came upon me and a hail and lightning storm came over my house, lightning hit my house and Jesus spoke and told me to repent, or he would destroy me.
I cried out and after 10 days of continual prayer (luke 11) temptations and satanic spirits speaking to me, I felt God's Holy Spirit come upon me and totally transform me.
I will ask you three questions that you don't have to answer to me, butplease be honest with yourself and God.
1) Do you have hatred, unforgiveness or resentment towards your father and/or mother?
2) Do you regularly watch television, computer games and or any other type of screen related entertainment?
3) Were you sexually abused, molested or raped as a child?
Why these 3 questions? The keys to understanding homsexuality and the solution are in the word of God. But there are factors we need to explore.
Satan's power is in accusing mankind to God, for our transgression of the Law. (The Accuser of the brethren)
Satan is a legalist and if we sin he has legal ground to torment us.
Honoring our parents in the Lord is the first commandment with promise (Ephesians 6:2)
If we curse our parents, our light will be put out in obscure darkness (Proverbs 20:20.)
My background in homosexuality, was a byproduct of earlier rebellion towards my parents, in cursing them and having hatred towards them, I allowed Satan, ground's for my downward spiral.
If you do have anger, hatred or have cursed your parents, take it to the Lord, humble youself in apologizing to your parents and bless them, speak life and blessing into the life of your parents. My parents are both divorced and my dad is remarried and is living in Adultery. I should never agree or condone sin, but I need to pray for him, bless him and interceed to God for his salvation and love him. "death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit" (Proverbs 18:21)There is power in the tongue!
Television is the most destructive modern form of Idolatry there is. Exodus 20:4 forbade Israel from making images depicting anything in heaven, earth, sea or underneath earth or sea. Image worship and worship of created things (mankind, the sun, the earth and nature etc.) Is the root by which homosexuality and other sexual perversions spawned. Please prayerfully read and study Romans 1:18-32.
God is a Spirit and desires to be worshipped in Spirit and in truth (John 4:24) When mankind makes idols and worships them, he is choosing to serve a false god. God is jealous for mankind's love and attention.
We are living, in what Paul prophesied of, as perilous times. Idolatry has consumed the whole world, with Satan's kingdom of Babylon (confusion) reaching its final pinnacle, before the Antichrist and the spirit of antichrist is destroyed by Jesus' return.
Many liberal christians would call this belief fundamental, some even accept homosexuality as a normal alternative lifestyle. I pray you will never let your mind or heart be decieved into believing this.
As a Born again Christian being plucked out of the fire of homosexual slavery, I have seen the power of Christ to transform and overcome, same-sex lust.
The third question of sexual abuse, can be critical in being set free. If you have been sexually abused, you may be being tormented by a vile wicked spirit transferred through sex or molestation. Spirits transfer
through intercourse. You may need deliverance from them.
Sodom and Gommorah (Genesis 19) were completely corrupted by homosexuality. the whole town came out desiring to have sex with the two angel's sent by God.
Testimonies of straight men being raped in jail and then becoming gay is proof of the satanic power of homosexual corruption and evil spirits transferring through sex.
Some scriptures to encourage you with are Hebrews 4:15 (Jesus was tempted at all points, yes, Jesus was tempted with homosexuality and resisted the sin.)
1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Paul's letter to Corinthians comforted ex-homosexuals of their salvation and sanctification through repentance and faith in the Lord.
Jude verse 24 The promise that Christ is able to keep us from falling (see also 2 Peter 2:9 God knows how to deliver the godly from temptations)
I pray this has been helpful, to let you know that others have been through what you are going through, that you can overcome this if you seek Christ and believe with all of your heart.
May the Lord Jesus bless you and your family
J
God created you and loves you so much that He sent Jesus for you. God is no respecter of persons. Homosexuality is a sin, as is stealing. Yes it is a sin. This is a good first step, that you acknowledge it as sin.
I struggled with homosexuality through my teenage years and early 20's, I was suicidal and hated myself, the world and life. I began a 2 month homosexual friendship, after it ended I wanted to die, I felt so alone. An athiest friend of mine looked at me one night and said "you are going to be punished." great fear came upon me and a hail and lightning storm came over my house, lightning hit my house and Jesus spoke and told me to repent, or he would destroy me.
I cried out and after 10 days of continual prayer (luke 11) temptations and satanic spirits speaking to me, I felt God's Holy Spirit come upon me and totally transform me.
I will ask you three questions that you don't have to answer to me, butplease be honest with yourself and God.
1) Do you have hatred, unforgiveness or resentment towards your father and/or mother?
2) Do you regularly watch television, computer games and or any other type of screen related entertainment?
3) Were you sexually abused, molested or raped as a child?
Why these 3 questions? The keys to understanding homsexuality and the solution are in the word of God. But there are factors we need to explore.
Satan's power is in accusing mankind to God, for our transgression of the Law. (The Accuser of the brethren)
Satan is a legalist and if we sin he has legal ground to torment us.
Honoring our parents in the Lord is the first commandment with promise (Ephesians 6:2)
If we curse our parents, our light will be put out in obscure darkness (Proverbs 20:20.)
My background in homosexuality, was a byproduct of earlier rebellion towards my parents, in cursing them and having hatred towards them, I allowed Satan, ground's for my downward spiral.
If you do have anger, hatred or have cursed your parents, take it to the Lord, humble youself in apologizing to your parents and bless them, speak life and blessing into the life of your parents. My parents are both divorced and my dad is remarried and is living in Adultery. I should never agree or condone sin, but I need to pray for him, bless him and interceed to God for his salvation and love him. "death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit" (Proverbs 18:21)There is power in the tongue!
Television is the most destructive modern form of Idolatry there is. Exodus 20:4 forbade Israel from making images depicting anything in heaven, earth, sea or underneath earth or sea. Image worship and worship of created things (mankind, the sun, the earth and nature etc.) Is the root by which homosexuality and other sexual perversions spawned. Please prayerfully read and study Romans 1:18-32.
God is a Spirit and desires to be worshipped in Spirit and in truth (John 4:24) When mankind makes idols and worships them, he is choosing to serve a false god. God is jealous for mankind's love and attention.
We are living, in what Paul prophesied of, as perilous times. Idolatry has consumed the whole world, with Satan's kingdom of Babylon (confusion) reaching its final pinnacle, before the Antichrist and the spirit of antichrist is destroyed by Jesus' return.
Many liberal christians would call this belief fundamental, some even accept homosexuality as a normal alternative lifestyle. I pray you will never let your mind or heart be decieved into believing this.
As a Born again Christian being plucked out of the fire of homosexual slavery, I have seen the power of Christ to transform and overcome, same-sex lust.
The third question of sexual abuse, can be critical in being set free. If you have been sexually abused, you may be being tormented by a vile wicked spirit transferred through sex or molestation. Spirits transfer
through intercourse. You may need deliverance from them.
Sodom and Gommorah (Genesis 19) were completely corrupted by homosexuality. the whole town came out desiring to have sex with the two angel's sent by God.
Testimonies of straight men being raped in jail and then becoming gay is proof of the satanic power of homosexual corruption and evil spirits transferring through sex.
Some scriptures to encourage you with are Hebrews 4:15 (Jesus was tempted at all points, yes, Jesus was tempted with homosexuality and resisted the sin.)
1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Paul's letter to Corinthians comforted ex-homosexuals of their salvation and sanctification through repentance and faith in the Lord.
Jude verse 24 The promise that Christ is able to keep us from falling (see also 2 Peter 2:9 God knows how to deliver the godly from temptations)
I pray this has been helpful, to let you know that others have been through what you are going through, that you can overcome this if you seek Christ and believe with all of your heart.
May the Lord Jesus bless you and your family
J
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