Any advice or comments?

[ladybgg]

My Husband and I lost a baby on May 18th. I lost 4+ pints of blood and had to be rushed to the ER. They told me to wait at least 3 months until we tried agian. It is one and a half weeks away from bieng 3 months exactly.

We had unprotected sex on the 6th. It was one day after my cycle had ended. I keep reading that it isn't very likely to get pregnant that soon into your cycle. Exactly how possible is it? I would love to have another child. I just don't want to get too excited if it isn't very likely. I also don't want to miscarry again because of not waiting long enough.

Any advice of comments would be helpful. Thank you all so much. God Bless!

 

[snarfywarning]

I would say it is very very very unlikely. Are you breastfeeding? That (I belive..) has some factors in the "getting prgenant again" situation.

I was under the impression that it was usually in the following 10-20 days after a period that it was concieving time.

Anyways, relax babe! You are in God's Hands.

 

[Leanna]

Ovulation usually occurs in the middle of the cycle, so that is when you can get pregnant. You should try getting a basal body thermometer to help conceive. I don't know anything about miscarriages though but hopefully someone can say... I am sorry for your loss.

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I run a site for women who are miscarrying and one thing we've seen is that women who miscarry tend to be more 'fertile'. Seems as if after a miscarriage, your body makes up for it and women 'tend' to get pregnant a bit easier. I say 'tend' because there will be women who still have difficulties getting pregnant.

Some doctors say to wait a month, some say three months. It really varies from doctor to doctor. It's always best to wait one month because they like to be sure of dates and they like to know when you had your last period.

I don't know if you could have gotten pregnant. Because women appear to be more fertile after a miscarriage and research is starting to look at ovulation differently, I'd say there is a chance you could have conceived. It might be a small chance but it is certainly not impossible. You're close enough to your three-month mark that you'd be fine. I've talked to so many women who conceived before their next period and ended up fine.

I hope you get the best of news soon.

 

[ladybgg]

Well, I started spotting today. My period isn't due for another 3 weeks. It has been 6 days since we had sex. Could it be the implantation spotting?

No, I am not breastfeeding. My daughter is 15 months.

The reason they told me to wait 3 months is because I lost so much blood. I was enemic. They said it would take 3 months to get my blood back to normal.

I want to be pregnant, but I know it is up to God. I guess whatever happens is His will.

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

It is just difficult to tell what is causing the spotting. Be careful if you are anemic though. I'm been suffering from severe-iron-deficiency anemia since the birth of my daughter and I know anemia can cause a lot of problems. I now have heart issues because of it. Are you still taking supplements and have you been tested to make sure you are healthy again?

Right now it is more important that you be completely healthy. If you're not healthy you could put a baby at risk. I'd really recommend you get a check up and let the doctor pronounce you healthy.

God bless.

 

[ladybgg]

I have been taking Iron AND prenatal vitamins since the miscarriage. Should I call my doctor to see if he can run a blood test? I don't think I am still anemic. I have all of my energy back. I am still taking both my iron and my prenatal vitamins just in case though.

Thanks.

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

Yes, schedule a checkup. You probably are doing better. I know with my anemia, it is very apparent when my iron levels are back up. I can always tell when my iron is starting to decline again.

A checkup is always a good idea just to get the official go ahead and you can always have a pregnancy test done if need be.

 

[ladybgg]

Thanks so much for the advice. I will call. I am feeling a little aching in my abdomen and still spotting. I hope everything is okay. We'll see. It's is in God's hands from here! Thanks, and God bless!

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

I look forward to hearing an update. I'll be keeping you in my prayers.

 

[Princessperky]

I am a bit late here, but I wanted to mention, I concevied two out of three (possible the middle one too) right after a MC. I know it prolly isn't what the docs wanted, but it worked out (one healthy happy 3yo boy, and 7 months pregnant with BBY3) so it happens and it worked out.

Do get that test though, like Oregal said, you can't trust your body to be so regular or anything and you need to know for sure. Let us know how it goes .

 

[ladybgg]

Thanks, that's what I wanted to hear. Someone that concieved right after. I don't want to get my hopes up, but it is nice to know that it is possible. I'll let you know asap. Like I said, I have a while before I can test.

Thanks!

 

[Princessperky]

If it didn't happen this time I am sure it will soon enough (and a bit of a wait is actually a good thing for your body, just a hard thing to do)

 

[ladybgg]

I have a pretty good feeling about it. I have that funny feeling in my stomache. Certain things are making me feel sick. I don't have the tender breats yet, but I don't remember having them with my last pregnancy (before I miscarried). I have had the 'aching' feeling in my abdomen for a couple of days. Even if I didn't get pregnant the first time. We made love on my 'most fertile day' without protection (that was his choice).

I guess I won't know until I am expecting AF. I will let you know on or around the 27th ( when I plan to test).

Please pray that if I am that it will be a healthy pregnancy. I am so scared of another miscarriage!

Thank you!

 

[ladybgg]

Well, I tested. It was Negative... I am upset. I did test a little early so I hope AF doesn't show so I can test again! If AF doesn't show by Monday, I will test again.

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

I remember with my son, I tested on the day my period was due and it was negative and had been several days prior. I had to go in because I had walking pneumonia and they decided to test me anyway. The nurse called later to congratulate me and I just didn't believe her but she was right.

My recommendation, if you're not already doing so, go to the Dollar Store and get yourself a few of those dollar hpt's and just test each morning that your period doesn't start. If you end up getting your period, you're only out a few bucks.

Hope you get good news soon.

 

[Princessperky]

I am sorry it was negative, but like Oregal said, try again in a day or two, and if not please don't worry it WILL happen later. (and time is actually good for your uterus/system.)

 

[ladybgg]

Well, my period is due Saturday. If it doesn't show.. should I wait and test 4 days after as usually reccomended, or should I go ahead and try? I don't want to dissapoint myself again... You know what I mean?!

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

I still say, get the dollar store tests. They're cheap and they work. Test tomorrow and each day after until your period shows up or you get a positive.

 

[chrislife]

A couple things... the dollar tree tests are 1/4 as sensitive as the walmart tests, so you might want to spend the extra and get the $3 test from walmart instead, if it's this soon. As for whether it's possible, I wonder how long your monthly cycle is. If you have a four week cycle, it's unlikely. If you have a three week cycle, it's quite possible. I know that for the past few years I've frequently ovulated the day after my period ended.

---Christina