anxiety & confused

[daisycharm]

I am not sure where I need to post this. I am having a very hard time and I know I need help. I am depressed and filled with so much anxiety. There is so much going on in my life. I dont know where to start to clean it up. My life is so dysfunctional. My relationships etc... I wish I could just start over some place else and cut my ties here but that is just not possible.

I was saved but had fallen away from God and I just recommited my life on Oct 8th of 2006 and joined a church. I have been going to church and praying but I feel that I am still not doing enough or doing the right things. It is so hard to stay on the straight and narrow path. I guess I am still very tempted by the flesh and satan. Sometimes I feel like satan paints my path grey so I cannot tell what is right or wrong.

I do not feel comfortable enough (yet) to talk to anyone in the church about this stuff and I am laid off and cannot go to counsiling right now. Sooooo those are out for the time being. The preacher is on a mission trip in Africa anyway... He is the only one I might could talk to.

I guess this doesnt make that much sense. I am just feeling very anxious today. Probably most of it is of my own doing. I wish I had someone to talk to with experience in dysfunctional families. I have never felt so alone in my life and I am surrounded by people and family.

 

[Azphen]

I'd say attempt to talk to somebody about this problem. If the church you are in is not helping, then it may be best to try another, or at least attempt to talk to somebody who would be willing to listen to your problems and discuss them with you. For example, a therapist could be just what you need to sort things out. Often, things don't appear to be black and white. You should just choose what you feel is best.

 

[tapero]

Dear Daisycharm,

Hi. I'm so sorry for all you are going through. You are doing the right things by seeking out help even though the Pastor is away. Is there a woman at church you could talk to. Someone who stands out to you as a receptive and caring person? I got the most comfort from the women at church when I was new to it. They helped me tremendously. I thought everybody was perfect, and I felt like a nobody.

It really sounds like you need to be in God's word a lot. Hon, we do know the right way. There's no confusion about it. God wants us to have joy in our life and the Holy Spirit will convict you when you are choosing the wrong path. That is how you know the difference. When you feel guilty.

By having joy I mean, we can have joy in the midst of our depression. It's from God, and He can give you an inner peace.

We all sin and fall short of the glory of God.

Any prayers you speak to God are okay. Tell him what's on your heart. Tell him everything. When you fail, be honest. You don't have to do anything specifically to be close to Christ except by reading, singing, and going to church.

Remember that a church is like a hospital, and we sick people go there for refreshment and to worship God, which we can do at home also. There are people that have lives like you do, and can relate. I remember feeling so ashamed, but Jesus said there is now no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus.

I didn't think anyone was like me, but found out we are all sinners.

I'm sorry your layed off at the moment, but there is pay what you can counseling available to people. Are you able to get that? I'm so glad that you are seeking help; you are so wise.

It really helps to share like your doing too. It helps a lot.

That's funny how you wrote most of it is probably my own doing. I feel that way about myself all the time too. I would love to get to know you better. Please feel free to pm me anytime.

I pray about your anxiety that it would lessen, and that you would be able to get counseling and meds if needed. I also pray for someone in church to reach out to you, or that God give the courage for you to reach out to them and seek help. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen

Love,
Tapero

 

[Anti Existance]

My advice to you is to bring your life in calmer waters, and deal with your problems as quickly as possible, however at this moment i think you shouldn't put too much hay on your fork, because if the load becomes to heavy you will fall.

 

[BigToe]

When you're feeling overly anxious, you can always try a few things to help calm you down. Put both feet on the floor as a way to "ground" you. It relaxes your muscles which helps the rest of your relax. Eating veggies and other things of the earth can help ground you too. Drink plenty of water to stay hydrated, it is amazing how much our bodies don't like to be dehydrated and how they will misbehave until we get our bodies some water. Try to get some fresh air every day, the sunshine helps your body absorb vitamins. And then there is exercise. Try to get a little every day, even if it is just a quick 15 minute walk. These things can help bring your body around and help you "fake it till you make it" until your mind starts to line up.

 

[Johnnz]

Dysfunctional familes leave a sad legacy. What is important is knowing that God understands you just as you are, and that he is not imposing impossible or unrealistic requirements of you. Remeber what Jesus said about His yoke being easy and his burden being light. You need the assurance of God's love for you to replace what I imagine was the not so good love of your parents.

I hope this helps a little. You really do need the support of another caring person as well.

Bless you
John
NZ

 

[malckiah]

Hello friend, i wish i could be there to help you! If you would like you can pm me with questions anytime! I grew up in a disfunctional family, but now days most people do, you can read my testamony in the testamony area of this forum. Well, first of all remember that Jesus is ALWAYS with you and He is your strength! Your sufficiency and ability all comes from Him! My advice is to surround yourself as much as of Jesus as possible!~ Read The Bible, memorize verses, find some true Christian friend or friends to be your accountability partners to help you when you are down and study The Bible with them. Whatever you can do to help keep you focused on Jesus.....all the time! Nomatter how big the problem, Jesus is Bigger! The pastor is away, but remember...Jesus is never away! I hope and pray the very best for you! amen.

 

[renewhope]

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