I wrote another post about my ex and I being divorced, at that time he was not a Christian...and now he is, and wants to get back together, but knows we have a lot we need to pray and talk about before that happens. We live three hours away from eachother, and just getting back together is not something we could do without much time, prayer, effort, and faith. During the time we start remending our relationship...does God still consider us married? I ask this because eventually our attraction will be there/actually it's probably already there...but would it be wrong to make love during that time? Or would we still need to wait until we married again by law? I want to state once again...I want to do what God wants...and I could wait, and will wait....but I just once again wanted your opinons on it. Thank you.....Kimberly
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Kimberly,
Tiz wise that you asking ahead of time! Wisdom from above will surely grant you moral fortitude in the face of temptation! In the eyes of the law established by God, you are divorced, so in the eyes of God, you are divorced until you remarry. You will certainly be blessed for allowing much time and prayer for God to re-establish your relationship with your ex. This will give you opportunity to observe whether he is bearing good fruit in his new found faith and how true his committment to Christ really is. If he pressures you into bed before you remarry, then that be an indication of something amiss.
Romans 13:1-2 Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, he who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted...
Galatians 5:16-18 I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
Galatians 6:7-8 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God...
James 1:13-15 Let no one say when he is tempted, "I am tempted by God"; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.
Matthew 6:13 And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.
Tiz wise that you asking ahead of time! Wisdom from above will surely grant you moral fortitude in the face of temptation! In the eyes of the law established by God, you are divorced, so in the eyes of God, you are divorced until you remarry. You will certainly be blessed for allowing much time and prayer for God to re-establish your relationship with your ex. This will give you opportunity to observe whether he is bearing good fruit in his new found faith and how true his committment to Christ really is. If he pressures you into bed before you remarry, then that be an indication of something amiss.
Romans 13:1-2 Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, he who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted...
Galatians 5:16-18 I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
Galatians 6:7-8 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God...
James 1:13-15 Let no one say when he is tempted, "I am tempted by God"; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.
Matthew 6:13 And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.
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Wow.....thank you so much for responding. Those are great verses to go to. I am so glad I found this forum...reading so much of these posts have been enlightening, and have helped me grow in so many ways. Thank you.
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If neither of you has remarried, then I am sure God would wish for restoration in your marriage. I recommend a long -intimacy free - courtship. I just think that since you're divorced, saving the sex till marriage would give you two something to look forward to in your new life together. Besides, what if you date one another (and have sex) and then decide that a remarriage wont work? Wouldn't you rather leave the relationship without having had sex outside of God's will?
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Neither of us has remarried. I agree with all of you in the waiting department. Sometimes I feel torn as to what exactly to pray for....part of me has reservation about trusting him...but I am taking it day by day, and except for most moments( due to fear, more than anything), I feel it is God's intention for us to be remarried. I agree with a long courtship, and will keep you all updated. Thank you all for your advice!!Avaya said:
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Tonya,tonya said:
Just seeing you post, helps...and knowing another person is in agreeance with waiting makes me even more sure....although deep down I always knew the answer, but having others reconfirm it helps!!
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I know girlfriend, sometimes it is hard....and the devil whispers lies in my head about the distance that appears to be growing between us...about temptation of other women...you name I think of it..then I am reminded that God blesses those who keeps His commands...and I am reminded of something my Grandmother always said absence makes the heart grow fonder and men want to have to work for something...things can not be too easy! I think we gain more respect from abstaining and learning to love and trust again and get that friendship back! Great relationships start with friendships... A great big hug to ya! I am also reminded that when I have these fears to cast them down and PRAY about it...cause the man upstairs can do the impossible...he wants families together....seekfirst said:
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Amen, Tonya. God wants us in healthy, stable, God first marriages...and I believe we both will be in them...the timing we don't know, but our families will be reconciled once again, and with God's blessings upon them. Until then, we need to be faithful, pray, and be patient. big hugs to you tootonya said:
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