Before I begin, let me just say that a year ago I went through a similar period of growth as blitzn in his thread. I had solidified my walk with Christ, and my marriage was restored last year at this time.
But that was last year.
I had changed quite a bit. I did everything I could to keep my wife and I walking in the spirit. We bought a home, and both went into ministry. I went into a seperated men's ministry as a leader, and she joined our church's worship team. I attended 4 men's groups a week, leading 2 of them. Things seemed great except........
She never wanted to deal with the issues that lead to our 3 previous separations. We never spoke about it- though I had tried. She wanted to play the role, and slowly she got more and more depressed. I finally talked her into seeing a counselor, and that day she left.
At first she had the church convinced that I was an abusive husband. In fact- I made it easier on them because I admitted to being abusive verbally and emotionally, early in the marriage. They supported us both early in the separation, and our pastor recommended us to more counseling.
As God brought the situation more to light- He revealed to the Christians involved that I had not in fact been abusive for the past two years. It was also shown that I was willing to do whatever necessary to repair the marriage, and my wife even acknowledges that I have made great changes.
But...she is done. After a while her victim act was shown for what it is....an act. She filed for divorce against the better counsel of our pastor, our church, our families, and our Christian friends. She has decided to get away from us all. She has since unplugged from our church and everyone. I have reason to beleive she is seeing someone else, but I care not to prove it. Point is- she's leaving and not looking back.
I don't know why I am posting this. There really isn't anything to do about the situation anymore.
But that was last year.
I had changed quite a bit. I did everything I could to keep my wife and I walking in the spirit. We bought a home, and both went into ministry. I went into a seperated men's ministry as a leader, and she joined our church's worship team. I attended 4 men's groups a week, leading 2 of them. Things seemed great except........
She never wanted to deal with the issues that lead to our 3 previous separations. We never spoke about it- though I had tried. She wanted to play the role, and slowly she got more and more depressed. I finally talked her into seeing a counselor, and that day she left.
At first she had the church convinced that I was an abusive husband. In fact- I made it easier on them because I admitted to being abusive verbally and emotionally, early in the marriage. They supported us both early in the separation, and our pastor recommended us to more counseling.
As God brought the situation more to light- He revealed to the Christians involved that I had not in fact been abusive for the past two years. It was also shown that I was willing to do whatever necessary to repair the marriage, and my wife even acknowledges that I have made great changes.
But...she is done. After a while her victim act was shown for what it is....an act. She filed for divorce against the better counsel of our pastor, our church, our families, and our Christian friends. She has decided to get away from us all. She has since unplugged from our church and everyone. I have reason to beleive she is seeing someone else, but I care not to prove it. Point is- she's leaving and not looking back.
I don't know why I am posting this. There really isn't anything to do about the situation anymore.
