Anniversary

[FaithPrevails]

Thanks again everyone. You all have some great ideas here. I'm not the most romantic guy in the world, although I have intentions to be a good husband, it just never seems to come natural to me. Which is why I posted this here. Don't get me wrong, I love her more than anything but I'm horrible when it comes to knowing how to be romantic. I feel like you guys are probably right, although we both would probably enjoy a trip out of the area doing some fun things, maybe she would appreciate just spending a quiet and relaxing weekend closer to or at home without the kids. She deserves a lot better than what I've been able to give her the past 17 years. I really want to be able to convince her that even though I've spent so much time away from her that I have never stopped loving her and appreciating her so much. I just wish I knew how to do that.

I think the bolded part says it all. Sweet, simple, and to the point.

As for what you actually do for your anniversary - is there anything she had wished you all could have done for an anniversary at some point and y'all haven't had the chance to do it?

 

[Dan the Man]

You two are a beautiful couple. Does your wife have a mother, sister or friend that she may have shared her thoughts with over the years who could give you some clues on a place or activity that might be special to her.

Thank you. Yeah, I might try asking her sister or best friend. Although her sister is known for ruining surprises!

To see a couple married 17 years, and still gushy in love.... *melt*



Mike and I have been married 2 1/2 years. I would love to celebrate a 17th and 20th and 25th anniversary with him, and beyond that, but it's questionable, simply because I'm not a physically healthy person. On our 25th anniversary, I would be 69 years old. I don't know... the grandmother whose health problems I inherited didn't live to be 69, and several closer relatives didn't make it that far either.

Then again, my other grandmother who just passed in May was 93, so we'll see what God has in store.

Yep, you never know. I wish you a long and happy life with your husband

Congrats Dan!...and welcome home I have to agree that no matter what it is you decide to do, your wife will be happy b/c she gets to spend it with you.

Thanks Lindsey.

I think the bolded part says it all. Sweet, simple, and to the point.

As for what you actually do for your anniversary - is there anything she had wished you all could have done for an anniversary at some point and y'all haven't had the chance to do it?

Well that's kinda why I was thinking the Mexico cruise. We were going to do it 5 years ago, had the tickets and everything and I got called up to deploy a week before. That was pretty disappointing.

 

[dallasapple]

Thanks again everyone. You all have some great ideas here. I'm not the most romantic guy in the world, although I have intentions to be a good husband, it just never seems to come natural to me. Which is why I posted this here. Don't get me wrong, I love her more than anything but I'm horrible when it comes to knowing how to be romantic. I feel like you guys are probably right, although we both would probably enjoy a trip out of the area doing some fun things, maybe she would appreciate just spending a quiet and relaxing weekend closer to or at home without the kids. She deserves a lot better than what I've been able to give her the past 17 years. I really want to be able to convince her that even though I've spent so much time away from her that I have never stopped loving her and appreciating her so much. I just wish I knew how to do that.

Hey Dan and congratulations..mine and my husbands is Friday too(Fran we have the same anniversary June 10th actually seems to be a popular day for gettign married)...ours will be year 23..

And Dan I agree with what Fran said..as far as anything you know that is something unique to her...to plan for or as a gift ...BUT I wanted to say?

As a "girl"..what you just said above?The part at the end starting with "she deserves better..ending with I just wish I knew how to do that?

TELL HER THAT!!! My heart went pitter patter and you arent even my husband.it made me want to start crying and give you a hug..and convince you that you do deserve me oops I mean her..

Dallas

 

[dallasapple]

The most recent picture of us. I love her.

Fabulous! Ya'll look like SUNSHINE!

 

[Dan the Man]

Hey Dan and congratulations..mine and my husbands is Friday too(Fran we have the same anniversary June 10th actually seems to be a popular day for gettign married)...ours will be year 23..

And Dan I agree with what Fran said..as far as anything you know that is something unique to her...to plan for or as a gift ...BUT I wanted to say?

As a "girl"..what you just said above?The part at the end starting with "she deserves better..ending with I just wish I knew how to do that?

TELL HER THAT!!! My heart went pitter patter and you arent even my husband.it made me want to start crying and give you a hug..and convince you that you do deserve me oops I mean her..

Dallas

Haha stop you're gonna make me blush Dallas Thanks for the congrats and congrats to you as well! 23 years is no small feat. What do all have planned?

I do plan on telling her what I wrote there. I've not been great in the past with expressing my feelings. I tend to jam up when it comes to that stuff, so wish me luck with that.

My oldest boy (15) and I were hanging out tonight. I had my surgery today so I've had some time to chill. I asked him if he had any ideas about what we should do and he shrugged his shoulders and said, "probably just have sex and buy her some flowers." Haha. Hmm.

 

[Lena75]

Can't argue with a 15 year old!

I also have a 15 year old and we're also going on our 17th anniversary come December!

 

[Dan the Man]

Can't argue with a 15 year old!

I also have a 15 year old and we're also going on our 17th anniversary come December!

Nope! Haha.

Congrats to you if I forget to tell you in December!

 

[dallasapple]

"probably just have sex and buy her some flowers."

Oh boy...you need to teach your son a lesson..."son...thats not how you treat a woman that you love and respect..you buy her floweres FIRST then have sex with her.." (oh and for anniversarries give her flowers after the sex too...)

Dallas

 

[Dan the Man]

Oh boy...you need to teach your son a lesson..."son...thats not how you treat a woman that you love and respect..you buy her floweres FIRST then have sex with her.." (oh and for anniversarries give her flowers after the sex too...)

Dallas

Don't worry I had a talk with him after he made that comment. Little punk! Hahaha.

 

[Dan the Man]

Well less than a week til our anniversary and my wife told me she can't handle this lifestyle anymore, took the kids and walked out. It is what it is. Guess that solves the problem of what to do?

 

[Athene]

Oh man, that is absolutely awful. I am so sorry.

 

[FaithPrevails]

Well less than a week til our anniversary and my wife told me she can't handle this lifestyle anymore, took the kids and walked out. It is what it is. Guess that solves the problem of what to do?

Does it? Are you going to let her go easily or do you want to fight for your marriage?

I'm sorry - it turns your whole world upside down...I get that. I'm not trying to diminish that. I'm praying for your marriage and your family.

 

[Dan the Man]

Yeah. I'm not going to fight her about anything. She's made up her mind and I understand and respect that. She deserves more than what I can give her. Maybe I'm a quitter...oh well. I'm tired, I don't have it in me.

 

[whitebeaches]

awww, dan, hugs.
go fight for her hun. shes hung in there this long. three more years and then she will have you around . wont she?

 

[FaithPrevails]

Yeah. I'm not going to fight her about anything. She's made up her mind and I understand and respect that. She deserves more than what I can give her. Maybe I'm a quitter...oh well. I'm tired, I don't have it in me.

I definitely don't recommend fighting her on anything....I meant fight to keep your marriage in tact.

I don't think you're a quitter if you don't choose to fight for your marriage, though. I can only imagine the emotional toil the years of combat have taken (actually - I do have a clue b/c of my husband's own service).

I just wonder if a change in lifestyle would mean that she would want you to still be a part of it. If so, then your family is worth fighting to keep, IMO.

 

[Dan the Man]

It's all good. If she feels strongly enough that this is the right decision then so be it. I'm not going to get down on my knees and beg her to come back. I've seen too many of my guys fall to pieces over this kind of thing. I'll be alright.

 

[lindseyw05]

Well less than a week til our anniversary and my wife told me she can't handle this lifestyle anymore, took the kids and walked out. It is what it is. Guess that solves the problem of what to do?

I'm really sorry to hear that dan

 

[ktkossakoski]

I will be praying for you, Dan.

 

[DJ2005]

Love you buddy. Stay strong and please don't do anything stupid. Your boys need you. I'm praying for you.

 

[Athene]

How are you doing today dan?