Anguish!

[appointed]

So there is this girl that I have known for a little over a year. She is the most beautiful, absolutelyamazing person I have ever seen. I have loved her for all this time. The first few months I knew her, I thought, this is just a stupid little crush, I'll get over it. But, this last weekend, I told her I liked her. She said she likes me too. But, I don't think she adores me the way that I do her. Because I am 18, I feel hopeless, she is only 16. I am going to graduate from highschool and she will still be there for two more years
The truth is that I feel like screaming, I want to have a deeply passionate relationship with a girl right now, but I know this would not honor God. Next, I have no idea what I am going to do with my life in college, and I am struggling with deep depression.
I feel as if some unseen force has picked me up and continually shakes me. I cannot sleep, my mind is numb, I have been shaking for days. In fact, I feel like throwing up right now.
Looking at all the smile cartoons on the side of this page seem to decribe my present state.

 

[Dondi]

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised." - Proverbs 31:30

Proverbs 31:10-31 describes the type of girl one should be looking for. Is this girl you are so infatuated with this type of person? Is she a Christian?

You are only 18, she is only 16. If this thing is for real, then it wouldn't harm you to wait a few years when she is of age to have a relationship with her. You are of legal age now, so be careful of the legality of dating a 16 year old.

This infatuation is temporary. People often get infatuation confused with love. Infatuation is just an initial attraction. You've praised her for being so amazing, but I bet if you got to know her a bit better, you'd take her down off the pedestal you've lifted her up on. Not that she's not a nice girl, but your image of her is distorted because you have a liken to her. You are practically worshipping her.

Take a step back and find your bearing on God. Sure, you need to know if what your feeling is true love, but that is simply going to take time. You have to really develop a friendship with her before pursuing any romantic involvement. it is important that you seek the Lord on this, to see if this person is the right one for you. You need time to see if this is permanent, but that basis should be Christ-centered.

Take you time. Both of you are young and your hormones are still developing so there are all kinds of feelings, moods, and emotions that go with being a teen. Just slow down, that's all.

 

[MacPherson_lass]

aw, appointed, I confess sometimes I know how you feel. It's just the teen state we're in now. I agree alot with Dondi...just wait, be patient. If it's true true love, then you two will love each other even more for waiting and staying faithful.

lol, have y'all seen the Sound of Music? well, there's this song that I always remember when I get in a romantic mood...

"You are sixteen
goin' on seventeen...
wait a year or two!"

*shrug*

I'll be praying for ya, appointed!!

*boing*