When I was living with my ex-husband, waiting for one of us to give up and get out, I started doing a home videotape of Tae Bo. It is sorta like aerobics/kickboxing. I bought the videos on my way home from a mediation, when I was so angry I wanted to burst. I took it home, and started doing teh workout. It was hard, but I found the act of hard punching and kicking without having to touch anyone helped me work out alot of anger. Plus, I think he got a little afraid of me, because as I worked out, I got more powerful in my mind and I turned into not such a doormat for him. When I attended my dissolutionment court date, I was 100 pounds thinner and not so afraid.
I also used to turn out the lights at night, lighta candle or two, and put on my "angry music." My choice was Alanis Morisette, but I wouldn't recommend it. Anyway, I would dance. I would just close my eyes and be a wild person. He would be in the other room on the computer or something, and he could hear the music and he knew what I was feeling. But it felt so good just to let it all go...
Don't yell at him. It only validates the power he has over you. He knows how you feel, and yelling it at him won't make anything better. Better to act like you don't care and work on freeing your house of him for good.
