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madison1101
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I do not blame you for not participating in your husband's sin. To suggest that you watch that filth is a horrible idea. I believe that it comes from a carnal mind.
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Yeah don't look at that stuff with him. It is so not worth it. I have been there and done that. It just made me feel ashamed of myself for doing that in the first place.
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He was very upset that I found them. He told me he does not look at them all the time. He made sure to tell me he did not need for that.
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AirForceTeacher
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This was curious to me - it appears that he still cares about your opinion of him. Do you think part of him wants to stay together?
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Aft,
I don't know the words that come out of his mouth tell he has no feelings for me. He is only here because of financial reasons is what he told me a couple of days ago.
He also mentioned after everything is done he is going to counseling and taking our children as well. I did not say anything but why not get counseling now and maybe save yourself from making a big mistake?
I continue to pray but so far it looks like he will get what he wants and I will lose the battle.
God Bless
I don't know the words that come out of his mouth tell he has no feelings for me. He is only here because of financial reasons is what he told me a couple of days ago.
He also mentioned after everything is done he is going to counseling and taking our children as well. I did not say anything but why not get counseling now and maybe save yourself from making a big mistake?
I continue to pray but so far it looks like he will get what he wants and I will lose the battle.
God Bless
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AirForceTeacher
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Sorry to hear that ... still praying for you and him. FWIW, our premarital counselors years ago had gotten married, had a child, got divorced, thenboth came to the Lord. They ended up remarrying after three years divorced. Hope can still exist even after it looks like all is lost.
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I'm not suggesting she sin at all. I'm suggesting she be among her husband while he sins but avoid doing it herself.
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okiemommy26
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How can she avoid doing it herself if she is sitting there watching those movies with him. That is the the sin.
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madison1101
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How can she sit with her husband while he watches porn and not watch it herself? To view that filth is a sin.
Are you a born again believer? Your answers show no spiritual discernment, and do not come from scripture. I am curious to know about your salvation experience because scriptures say we will know them by their fruit. You exhibit no Fruit of the Spirit with your replies.
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So are you saying she should sit there as HE watches it but avoid looking at it herself? Like maybe sitting with her back to the tv and her hands over her ears?
I'm sorry but that is just the poorest advice I could even imagine giving her. It's like telling her to walk into a strip club with him so he doesn't feel judged.
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Even if I wanted to which I don't, my husband does not want anything to do with me. We went to a store today and I started to rub his back like I used to while standing next to him. He asked me to stop because it was irritating. Maybe he has someone else and this is why he does not want me. I don't know. I have not found any proof. Actually I am tired of looking through his things. I just find things that will hurt me. I am done with hurting myself.
I have to let him go. He is God's child and he will dicipline him as he sees fit. Or maybe he will be one of those lucky people that no matter what they do they get to live a happy life and meet someone else and forget about thier past life withg their former spouse who loved them unconditionally.
Sorry, I am so tired of this right now. I want my life back. I want to be me again with no hurt.
I have to let him go. He is God's child and he will dicipline him as he sees fit. Or maybe he will be one of those lucky people that no matter what they do they get to live a happy life and meet someone else and forget about thier past life withg their former spouse who loved them unconditionally.
Sorry, I am so tired of this right now. I want my life back. I want to be me again with no hurt.
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I totally understand what you are saying. I prayed for reconciliation for years. My ex found someone and remarried, and he is happy as a clam. Plus, he has been blessed with perks at his job that he did not get when we were together, like frequent flyer miles and hotel rewards, so now he flies to Europe every year with her. They just bought a nice new house, more expensive than the one we raised our kids in. I have questioned God and I get no answer. I work three jobs to pay off student loans and debts I accumulated since my divorce. He has had pay raises galore since the divorce. I get bitter sometimes, but that only hurts me. I have to turn it all over to God and let Him work it out.
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Psalm 37 "rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass. Cease from anger, and forsake wratch; fret not thyself in any wise to do evil. For evildoers shall be cut off; but those that wait upon the Lord, they shall inherit the earth. For yet a little while, and the wicked shall not be; yea, thou shalt diligently consider his place, and it shall not be....The Lord shall laugh at him: for he seeth that his day is coming....A little that a righteous man hath is better than the riches of many wicked. For the arms of the wicked shall be broken: but the Lord upholdeth the righteous. The Lord knoweth the days of the upright: and their inheritance shall be for ever."
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GodsGrace87 & madison1101--thank you for sharing that verse. I got an email from my 'husband' w/his new mailing address. My blood was boiling as I read "I just want to say sorry about all of this and please try to stay positive no matter what, God is good all the time." I keep going through these extreme periods of anger & personal inadequacy. Whatever has caused him to stray, I have to remember that God is stronger than the spiritual warfare that exists in my life otherwise I sink into a hole of despair.
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Madison101,
You should be proud of what you have accomplished in going to school. Yes, it is a debt for now but it comes with a reward. Kudos to you in having 3 jobs.
I enrolled in a college course today to help me with the new time I have. I am taking of all classes "Family Law". The teacher is amazing and answers any questions you have on your own case. She is a lawyer. She looked up my case and gave me valuable advise.
GodGrace 87,
Thank you for posting the scripture. This helped me too.
God Bless
You should be proud of what you have accomplished in going to school. Yes, it is a debt for now but it comes with a reward. Kudos to you in having 3 jobs.
I enrolled in a college course today to help me with the new time I have. I am taking of all classes "Family Law". The teacher is amazing and answers any questions you have on your own case. She is a lawyer. She looked up my case and gave me valuable advise.
GodGrace 87,
Thank you for posting the scripture. This helped me too.
God Bless
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