anger management

[blueskye]

I'm really struggling with anger.

It is anger over lots of things, but at the heart of it is abuse that I suffered. When you are abused as a little girl it takes away your power, you have no power over what adults do to you...now I get so angry whe people let me down or try to control me...

Anger is affecting me and my family....anger is so difficult as a christian, I really struggle.

Please pray for me, I am not very happy with myself.

I think that as a christian overcoming abuse anger is frowned upon...i don't cry but I still feel emotions, anger is one of them it doesn't make me evil, if people understood why I got angry.....if only. I also believe anger in women is seen as bad, well I can't turn the tears on like some women do, I'm better than that.

 

[RuthD]

Hi. I realize how hard it is to be so angry. I'm sorry you were abused as a child, so was I. I think seeing a counselor or a pastor would be a good thing for you. May the good Lord take away your anger I pray.

 

[Mayflower1]

I had been conditioned to believe that anger was a bad feeling to have. I was suppose to "agree" with what my dad did to me, and not say a word. yes, as little girls we were violated, not given any say in the matter, powerless against what was happening. But now we are older... I found power through Christ, and making a final decision that I wasn't going to allow bitterness to destroy my life. I was going to forgive. Forgiveness is a path to seek. sometimes it takes awhile.

I'm praying for you sister.

Shara

 

[spazlegs]

Anger due to pain, loss and this shouldn't have happened to me is a perfectly normal reaction.

The thing is you need to let God forgive your abuser through you. And really go over the hurt, humiliation and grieving with God, and hopefully a counselor. It does get better, but you will always have some stuff come up. Just like I did recently over in the survivors of sexual abuse forum. It is titled scraps of memory. It was about 40 years ago, and it still affects me at times.

But you have this forum now, I didn't then. I didn't go to counseling except in the last five years.

Praying for you young sister.

 

[blueskye]

thankyou for praying for me.

I do forgive my dad, I suppose I have anger misplaced.

 

[Criada]

Anger is very hard to deal with, because we are taught that it is somehow wrong.
But there are things that shou;ld make us angry. The Bible tells us that Jesus got angry with the money changers in the temple. I think he would be even more angry at what happens to children so often.
I have, I think, learned to use the anger I felt at whath happened to me as a child. I am not angry with my abusers... I never was really, because most of them had problems of their own, and reasonsd for being as they were.
But I am angry at the hurt and pain I see around me, at the way society treats those who are not found acceptable. I am angry that children are still being abused. And that motivates me to try to help the hurting, and to do what I can to bring comfort to those who need it.

Emotions aren't wrong, sweetie, although we are conditioned not to feel them